Thanks for the replies. I really have no idea how this is going to work out, but my guess is that you will all be right. But, that does not mean I’ll just give up, that just ain’t right. I’m hoping she will be as motivated as I to keep this great thing we have going. We have been going out for about a year and a half, since junior year in high school. I hope this works out.
Thanks for the replies. I really have no idea how this is going to work out, but my guess is that you will all be right. But, that does not mean I’ll just give up, that just ain’t right. I’m hoping she will be as motivated as I to keep this great thing we have going. We have been going out for about a year and a half, since junior year in high school. I hope this works out.
Not to rain on your parade but I also spent my freshman year in a coed dorm. On my floor was a hottie with a boyfriend back home. It took all of 6 weeks for me to sleep with her. You just can’t compete with the guys she’s hanging out with every day and going out with every night.
Do you remember that movie Road Trip? In it, someone mentioned if you live in different area codes, it’s all right to cheat on your girlfriend. Though I’d let you know.
I would never cheat on my gf, she’s enough for me. Even if I can only see her once a week and talk to her on the phone, its still worth it.
This thread has just about run its course, but one more question to all that replied: How many of those girls that you mentioned drank alchohol? Probably more than half I’d bet, but I could be wrong. My gf doesn’t drink or smoke or anything. She’s as pure as they come, pure at heart, and that’s why I love her. She’s perfect.
Steve F - I’m pulling for you. Good luck.
Steve, the 2nd one who did this to me never drank or smoked in her life UNTIL she got to college. Then the boozing began … it’s cool, now she’s got the but to prove it! HELL YEAH!!! (I never said I was bitter.)
Yes, all of the women on the floor ended up drinkig. I knew quite a few girls that didn’t drink or only drank a few times in high school that became total booze hounds in college. As a matter of fact, I didn’t have a drink until my second quarter of college. Never underestimate the changes a social group can effect in someones behavior. In High school I had a teacher that said, “As you associate, so you become.” I saw a girl go from being “as pure as the driven snow” to picking up a different guy every night because her roommate/best friend was slutty. I’m not saying that will happen to your girlfriend, you know her and I don’t, but I can say from experience that college does change people.
All the girls I’ve dated have been nonsmokers, nondrinkers and non-drug users. So I too dated “good girls.” And only a few of them started drinking after the relationship ended. I’m not sure if any of them have tried any drugs. I’m pretty sure they haven’t. But I can’t say I’ve kept up on my exes.
Good luck with you and your girl. Also, a few others mentioned doing your own thing. Be sure to do that! Have your own life, your own friends, keep working out and doing the things that are important to you. You have to have balance in your life. And yes, you can still have the girl too. Just think...you can still talk, email and visit each other, but you have a lot more time available to do other things that interest you. That's actually the way to go!
Hope this doesn’t sound cynical but girls are like guys. She will cheat, whoever said distance makes the heart grow founder is full of shit. Out of sight, out of mind. I hope that something so pure as you put it does work out for the best. Unfornately I have seen many many situations where the girls are just looking for some deep dicking to compensate for you not being there. About the alcohol thing, even without alcohol she could cheat. By the way, please keep us posted, I’m curious if it end and also how long it will take her to start drinking. Don’t ever move for anyone else, I did and it was great that I’m where I am now, but since I’m here I’ve spoken with her twice.
i am in a very similar situation to steve. i start my first year at college this monday and my girlfriend is still a senior in highschool. i knew in advance that there would be lots of temptation but i love my girlfriend so i tried to put myself out of that temptation by totally avoiding the college life. i am living at home, working 20 hours a week, and going to school 15 hours this semester. she plans on going away next year and i was planning on transfering to the same school. now after reading all of these posts i kinda feel stupid. i am going to be missing out a lot.
This thread belongs in Cosmo.