Hey guys. I just broke up with my girlfriend last night and I’m just a mess right now. We were together for 10 months and had strong feelings for each other.
My current situation is this : I have no job right now and am searching frantically (I’m 24, B.A. in Psychology). There are many good career options that are out of the area and most likely, I will move kinda far away to start a new career.
I have been limiting my career search because I want to be in the local area so I can be near her but the way I see it is this…neither of us have kids, we’re not married or engaged and have limited responsiblity. Now is the time, I feel, that I can be open and liberal with my career options.
At 24 and having finished college a year ago, I think it is time for me to put my foot in the door. I decided that I can’t let my feelings cloud up my mind and limit my options. I can probably make a much more rational decision about a career option if I didn’t worry about being in a relationship.
By the way, I tried so hard to stay in the area that I almost got scammed when an employer found my resume online and invited me to a “presentation”…I later found out it was a total scam and realized that I have to expand my horizons and search in order to find a decent job. Sorry fellas, I know its a mouthful. Thanks.
Anyways, good timing for you. Apply to be an english language teach in japan or korea. Move over there for a bit and have some fun making some money. Life is good in japan as an assistant language teacher. Just make sure you use a good program like JET or JAL (if they still exist).
It could be worse. She could have passed you some disease or got pregnant with the kid that isnt yours. shitty.
time to have some fun and take up judo or something in japan.
Anyways, good timing for you. Apply to be an english language teach in japan or korea. Move over there for a bit and have some fun making some money. Life is good in japan as an assistant language teacher. Just make sure you use a good program like JET or JAL (if they still exist).
It could be worse. She could have passed you some disease or got pregnant with the kid that isnt yours. shitty.
time to have some fun and take up judo or something in japan.
-chris[/quote]
A little biased on the Japan issue?? What up RPB, we miss you on the AD thread man. How was thailand?
Sorry to hear about the breakup, but life goes on, and you will find someone suitable for you.
What do you like to do? Take a job that you enjoy and that you are good at. That way, you will be happy and will not think about your ex-girlfriend.
One of my good buddies teaches english in South Korea, and he loves it. This is his third year, and he makes good money and travels and has a good time. You might want to look into it.
You will probably always have a soft spot in your heart for your ex girlfrield but in time, especially when you meet someone better suited to you, you’ll probably be glad that you split.
Nothing is better than finding someone you really like to be with.
There is no “one” person for anyone and you know you probably could have made it “work” over a lifetime with the girl you just split with but I guarantee you it WOULD be WORK. And that is one shitty way to live your life.
If you split, there are reasons, even if you can’t put them into words or nail it down in your consciousness.
If it is working, you see, you do not split. You just keep growing together.
You are very young indeed and should be expanding horizons not contracting them.
Get out there and move and see another place and get a great job.
A new town, a great job, opportunities opening up, man that’s the life! get to it!
One thing life has taught me is you just never know what is around the corner and if you keep sharp great opportunities come your way.
Consider yourself lucky. If you had stayed in the local area doing a job that you didn’t really like but made yourself think you enjoyed you would’ve been miserable.
Then you would’ve made her miserable, she would’ve made you even more miserable and eventually (2 more years down the road) you would’ve broken up anyway.
This is what happens when you settle for a girl, which is what you would have been doing if you had gotten a job in the local area just for her.
Unless she has already invested years into a career of her own then if she really loved you there’s no reason she couldn’t have moved out to wherever you found a new job.
[quote]krayon wrote:
What kind of job can you get with a BA in Psychology?[/quote]
This is an extremely vague answer, but my psych teacher said you can get almost any job with a psych degree. I guess its true, since you more or less know how people work.
I was thinking of switching from math to psych. but I couldn’t think of a job that needed specifically a psych degree. Seemed more like a field where you would need a phd to get any psych related job.
Hey do you hear that? Its the door. Someone is knocking on it.
Its opportunity. Are you going to answer it?
Seriously now. Man up and answer the door. You are 24, nothing to tie you down, you make it pretty clear you wanna move on and try new things, do it.
Or you can not answer it, you can be in the same spot, with some other chick living a life that you dont want with a wife you’re not too into and kids you weren’t ready to have.
I pick the first one. Actually I proved that recently. Got rid of 5 year gf, got new place to live and put myself back into the world and back onto the market. I haven’t been happier…
Thanks everyone. I didn’t really have a question. I just wanted to see if what I did was normal. Cause part of me was feeling like an unemotional robot and I thought it may be a little selfish of me to think of myself first. But your responses have helped me see the situation better. Good to see that other people understood my decision.
[quote]rrjc5488 wrote:
krayon wrote:
What kind of job can you get with a BA in Psychology?
This is an extremely vague answer, but my psych teacher said you can get almost any job with a psych degree. I guess its true, since you more or less know how people work.[/quote]
You will find that many employers want a diploma. It doesn’t matter if youhave a bachelors of arts in underwater basket weaving, as long as you have a degree. At one time, psychology was the second most popular degree besides bussiness. I think I might go for a second bachelors in psychology, after I get my masters, just because psychology is so fuckng cool.
Psychology is a popular choice for those entering law enforcement of corrections. The pay is ok, but not stellar, and you will have to work shifts you don’t want to work.
As far as getting over your ex, it is relatively easy. It has always been for me. Do this-
Think of everything that you hated about her. Think everyday about the things you hated about her. Anytime something similar happens, think about how much you hated it when she did it. Think about how much you hated her doing the things you hated.
It isn’t great advice (I shouldn’t be telling anyone to hate anyone else), but eventually you will find yourself seething in anger, and presto, you don’t like her anymore.
[quote]TrainerinDC wrote:
I pick the first one. Actually I proved that recently. Got rid of 5 year gf, got new place to live and put myself back into the world and back onto the market. I haven’t been happier… [/quote]
I bet you cry yourself to sleep on a daily basis. Man was put here to procreate, to reproduce, to FUCK. So do it. Stop following the mainstream bullshit “American dream” that the media tells you to. Be origional, do something unique.
I’d seriously like to hear what “back onto the market” means. Same with all that other white-collar nonsense you just spewed.
Sorry to hear that. It’s always hard when relationships end. No offense, but what job opportunities are there with a BA in psychology? I have one, though I’m in law school, and don’t think there’s much you can use it for. I recommend getting a Psi D, Ph.D or some type of advanced degree. At least in this field.
[quote]rrjc5488 wrote:
krayon wrote:
What kind of job can you get with a BA in Psychology?
This is an extremely vague answer, but my psych teacher said you can get almost any job with a psych degree. I guess its true, since you more or less know how people work.[/quote]
It’s true to some extent, but really you can get any job with a BA in psych that you could get without one. And maybe some additional low-level counseling jobs.
It is true, not much you could do with a B.A. in psychology. I am depending more on my previous banking experience.
I have worked for three different banks in the past and am looking to use my experience to get into a branch/call center/ management or assistant management position (in the banking/finance industry).