How is he bombarding you with efforts to get you to reconsider?
P.S.
Beth keep up with your neck exercises. It’s important to a guy. [/quote]
He’s texting and calling. Telling me he’s really sorry and that he loves me ( he never told me he loved me in the two years we were dating). He asked me to consider giving “us” a second chance and told me I didn’t have to answer right away. I generally don’t answer his calls and rarely text. But it’s disruptive and distracting.
And once he found out I was going on the business trip to Virginia (only select people get chosen every year) he found a way to get sent on the trip in place of the guy who was supposed to go. And because he’s playing things off like nothing happened, the administrator taking care of travel plans just assumed we were together so she booked our flight out together and put us in the SAME ROOM.
Additionally, everyone knows I’m going to be baking for the Gala coming up so he found a way to volunteer himself for ones of the crew positions during the dinner. So I can’t go anywhere, or do anything without him inserting his control on the situation somehow. FUCK!!! The only place I’m safe is my parent’s house.
How is he bombarding you with efforts to get you to reconsider?
P.S.
Beth keep up with your neck exercises. It’s important to a guy. [/quote]
He’s texting and calling. Telling me he’s really sorry and that he loves me ( he never told me he loved me in the two years we were dating). He asked me to consider giving “us” a second chance and told me I didn’t have to answer right away. I generally don’t answer his calls and rarely text. But it’s disruptive and distracting.
And once he found out I was going on the business trip to Virginia (only select people get chosen every year) he found a way to get sent on the trip in place of the guy who was supposed to go. And because he’s playing things off like nothing happened, the administrator taking care of travel plans just assumed we were together so she booked our flight out together and put us in the SAME ROOM.
Additionally, everyone knows I’m going to be baking for the Gala coming up so he found a way to volunteer himself for ones of the crew positions during the dinner. So I can’t go anywhere, or do anything without him inserting his control on the situation somehow. FUCK!!! The only place I’m safe is my parent’s house. [/quote]
Sounds like hes going the “I missed you so much I followed you” route.
How is he bombarding you with efforts to get you to reconsider?
P.S.
Beth keep up with your neck exercises. It’s important to a guy. [/quote]
He’s texting and calling. Telling me he’s really sorry and that he loves me ( he never told me he loved me in the two years we were dating). He asked me to consider giving “us” a second chance and told me I didn’t have to answer right away. I generally don’t answer his calls and rarely text. But it’s disruptive and distracting.
And once he found out I was going on the business trip to Virginia (only select people get chosen every year) he found a way to get sent on the trip in place of the guy who was supposed to go. And because he’s playing things off like nothing happened, the administrator taking care of travel plans just assumed we were together so she booked our flight out together and put us in the SAME ROOM.
Additionally, everyone knows I’m going to be baking for the Gala coming up so he found a way to volunteer himself for ones of the crew positions during the dinner. So I can’t go anywhere, or do anything without him inserting his control on the situation somehow. FUCK!!! The only place I’m safe is my parent’s house. [/quote]
And once he found out I was going on the business trip to Virginia (only select people get chosen every year) he found a way to get sent on the trip in place of the guy who was supposed to go. And because he’s playing things off like nothing happened, the administrator taking care of travel plans just assumed we were together so she booked our flight out together and put us in the SAME ROOM.
Additionally, everyone knows I’m going to be baking for the Gala coming up so he found a way to volunteer himself for ones of the crew positions during the dinner. So I can’t go anywhere, or do anything without him inserting his control on the situation somehow. FUCK!!! The only place I’m safe is my parent’s house. [/quote]
I’m not able to distinguish whether your business trip is a must. I don’t know what it means to you professionally, but pass on it if that is an option. Let some guy go in your place that your ex can room with. That would be the most direct approach.
Certainly you have the right not to be assigned the same room. I see a sexual harassment lawsuit in your future. If you don’t flee certain situations you are essentially setting yourself up to be tempted. None of us have that much self control. Not all of the time anyway.
This is the opposite of what I would normally say but perhaps backing out of baking for the Gala and staying away is the answer there.
If both events were missing you, he would have to conclude that you are serious when you say no to his communications.
And once he found out I was going on the business trip to Virginia (only select people get chosen every year) he found a way to get sent on the trip in place of the guy who was supposed to go. And because he’s playing things off like nothing happened, the administrator taking care of travel plans just assumed we were together so she booked our flight out together and put us in the SAME ROOM.
Additionally, everyone knows I’m going to be baking for the Gala coming up so he found a way to volunteer himself for ones of the crew positions during the dinner. So I can’t go anywhere, or do anything without him inserting his control on the situation somehow. FUCK!!! The only place I’m safe is my parent’s house. [/quote]
I’m not able to distinguish whether your business trip is a must. I don’t know what it means to you professionally, but pass on it if that is an option. Let some guy go in your place that your ex can room with. That would be the most direct approach.
Certainly you have the right not to be assigned the same room. I see a sexual harassment lawsuit in your future. If you don’t flee certain situations you are essentially setting yourself up to be tempted. None of us have that much self control. Not all of the time anyway.
This is the opposite of what I would normally say but perhaps backing out of baking for the Gala and staying away is the answer there.
If both events were missing you, he would have to conclude that you are serious when you say no to his communications. [/quote]
I know I can exercise both options and make a statement that way. I’ve decided to take a different route. Something more subversive and mindfucking. Just because I can.
I know I can exercise both options and make a statement that way. I’ve decided to take a different route. Something more subversive and mindfucking. Just because I can. [/quote]
Beth. Let’s get something straight between us. That’s not what I meant.
Plant some pills on him and call police saying he tried to sell you some. That’s not what i meant either. You don’t want to make yourself look like the psycho ex.
Let’s get you back to your post’s genesis. Keep working out. Exercise releases endorphins, allows you to work your angry energy in a positive way and we already know you look great. You should be feeling great as well. When he sees photos of your new toned figure, heâ??ll be gutted that he let you go.
Here’s an after thought. Maybe try to contact the woman he cheated on you with, and ask her if she knew he was involved with someone. If she is a decent woman, she will show empathy and remorse. Who knows, maybe you could meet up one day; imagine his face if he were to walk into a cafe to find the two of you having lunch and laughing about him.
I know I can exercise both options and make a statement that way. I’ve decided to take a different route. Something more subversive and mindfucking. Just because I can. [/quote]
Beth. Let’s get something straight between us. That’s not what I meant.
Plant some pills on him and call police saying he tried to sell you some. That’s not what i meant either. You don’t want to make yourself look like the psycho ex.
Let’s get you back to your post’s genesis. Keep working out. Exercise releases endorphins, allows you to work your angry energy in a positive way and we already know you look great. You should be feeling great as well. When he sees photos of your new toned figure, heÃ?¢??ll be gutted that he let you go.
Here’s an after thought. Maybe try to contact the woman he cheated on you with, and ask her if she knew he was involved with someone. If she is a decent woman, she will show empathy and remorse. Who knows, maybe you could meet up one day; imagine his face if he were to walk into a cafe to find the two of you having lunch and laughing about him.
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I’ve already made contact with the other woman as well as his ex wife and cleared the air. I confirmed that I lost nothing special by leaving. When it was over my workouts really kicked ass and I cut 10 lb easily. Maybe thats what he saw, but more likely it was seeing how much other people wanted me that probably made him realize how little he valued me when we were together. He admitted as much.
Ok i should probably clarify - I’m not angry at him. He isn’t worth my anger. I moved on. Its his behavior now, trying to smooth things and get back the control he lost which is frustrating and inconvenient to deal with. He sees what he lost and I guess he’s trying to make a run on getting it back. I’m not going to do anything psycho, just stir the pot.
He will fuck himself over if given the chance. I’ve already made contact with the other woman as well as his ex wife and cleared the air. I confirmed that I lost nothing special by leaving. When it was over my workouts really kicked ass and I cut 10 lb easily. Maybe thats what he saw, but more likely it was seeing how much other people wanted me that probably made him realize how little he valued me when we were together. He admitted as much.[/quote]
[quote]nighthawkz wrote:
Beth, we need an update![/quote]
I think I’ll desist from updating in case my ex is lurking. Because he lurks, and it wouldn’t surprise me if he found his way here. So until I get a new user name…beth’s buns will have to go stale…
[quote]nighthawkz wrote:
Beth, we need an update![/quote]
I think I’ll desist from updating in case my ex is lurking. Because he lurks, and it wouldn’t surprise me if he found his way here. So until I get a new user name…beth’s buns will have to go stale…[/quote]
Thanks guys! No shitting in the boat. SO MUCH FUN. But take your contacts out before you go, I learned that the hard way. The water blows them right out of your eyes. It was freezing, when we got in the water to float down on the easy stretches it was actually warmer.
