As soon as he stated you have been lazy, conversation should have been over, you don't have to justify anything to this space invader. Some creeps just need to be told that, don't put up with the situation, these creeps are serial offenders. Shits me to tears what some women have to put up with at the Gym from these pathetic excuses for a male.
Hand him a restraining order (even if its one you have to print out yourself) if my “big mean scary boyfriend” thing doesn’t work.
I know what I would do if I were you. But you seem much nicer than me. I would tell this guy one time and it would be overwith. I would just say “dude… get the fuck outta my face” then walk away. If he still follows you around… like a few have mentioned, just give him a stiff kick in the nutz!
[quote]lovefire wrote:
Alpha F wrote:
Look at him firmly in the eye and when he stops at a sentence, say in a dry firm voice:
Are you done?
Thank you.
And immediately turn your back to him.
I might try this one next time. [/quote]
Good advice.
However, if that doesn’t work, you could always try taking your skillet over to his locker, taking a sh*t in it and leaving it there… That seems to be a tried and true approach around here ( http://www.T-Nation.com/readTopic.do?id=748288 )
yeay!!!I’m so proud of myself
Yesterday, I was all pumped and hitting the weights pretty hard. However, this man was using and ez-curl bar I needed. As the nice girl I am, I went over and asked, “Sir are you almost done with that.” He told me I could go ahead and take it since he could use something else. After making sure he was okay with it, I turned around and was ready to leave when he asked with a look of disgust in his face, “You are trying to gain muscle?”
I kindly turned around with a huge grin on my face and said, “Yup, that’s my goal.” Then I left and hit the weights even harder.
That might not have been much, but I think I’m ready to get rid of the old fart when he tries bothering me again.
Congrats on sticking up for yourself! I think there will always be guys who believe that women should be confined to the cardio and pink dumbell section of the gym. All the more reason to kick ass and prove them dead wrong.
Hope you sort things out with that guy.
“Thanks, but this works for me.”
“My trainer says this.”
“See that book on the bag it says different”
“This works for me, busy - can’t talk - bye”
“I like my workout the way it is, it works. Thanks anyway.”
“I just don’t agree”
“Look, iam trying to workout, i am not up for a discussion, im busy”
Is it so hard for modern people to perform a simple, polite brush off? if he hangs around, then you can get abbrasive. Give them a polite chance to back off before throwing plates.
"Look, I’m just not interested in your advice or anything else having to do with you. At all. Ever.
Now would you please leave me be so that I can finish my workout? Thanks."
I’ve been using my university gym for the past 2 years and thankfully we you don’t get any dumbasses there, because the majority of the folk using the weights there are in teams and whatnot so they come to shut up and train.
However this summer I was forced to use Premier Fitness here in Ontario. Worst people ever come to commercial gyms.
I asked a Roid Boy once if I could use the pullup bar once. He said after 5 sets. Then he proceeded to tell me what he was doin on the bar, what kind of workout he was doing for the day, week, how he bulked up to where he was and why the Snatches and ATG squats I was doing in the other corner were so bad for me.
I should have said, “Thanks assclown, can I still use the pullup bar, or do you really still want to USE IT???”
However, being who I am, I just walked away and used the other bar (which had cleared up by this time…), and yes the satisfaction comes when this man is struggling with 10 pullups, and on the other side of the room a guy (i.e. you) is doing heavy weighted reps.
I hate commercial gyms. Long live uni.
[quote]Beatnik wrote:
“Thanks, but this works for me.”
“My trainer says this.”
“See that book on the bag it says different”
“This works for me, busy - can’t talk - bye”
“I like my workout the way it is, it works. Thanks anyway.”
“I just don’t agree”
“Look, iam trying to workout, i am not up for a discussion, im busy”
Is it so hard for modern people to perform a simple, polite brush off? if he hangs around, then you can get abbrasive. Give them a polite chance to back off before throwing plates.[/quote]
Nice post. You’re absolutely right. In my case, all I said was… “Right…” lol.
some rough old advice here
tell him politely and firmly that actually you do know what you are doing, and you really don’t need his help