[quote]pipis wrote:
I do have an ipod :(, this man is so annoying he taps me on the shoulder when I try ignoring him and when I try telling him I know what I’m doing he gives me a speech. I guess I’ll try ignoring him as much as I can before I have to really burst on him.[/quote]
ok seriously…when it comes down to it. just REALLY freak him out. i would suggest try foaming at the mouth, claw at your face, scream “why wont these voices leave me alone”, if you can get your head to rotate 360 degrees it adds to the effect. then just drop to the ground and shake. he will leave you alone.
or you could just say “thanks but i know what im doing, and i dont appreciate how you keep interupting my workout, now if you dont mind.”
[quote]BuZu wrote:
etaco wrote:
Assert yourself. As was mentioned above, we guys have trouble with hints.
Next time he walks over to give you advice, turn around just before he has a chance to say a word and preempt him with an icy “Fuck off, old man.” Then turn before he can respond and resume your workout. He’ll mutter and swear but that will be the end of it.
I think her for sake on second thought telling the gym owners or telling him to fuck off out of no where may just cause her un-needed stress and it may not look too good, I think if she is just straight to the point with him, and tells him straight forwrad that she doesn’t want any more tips and he is ruining her workouts et cetera.
Though he does sound hard-headed.[/quote]
A polite request leaves the door open for a response on his part. This could potentially be drawn out and more unpleasant than the more curt method. My method makes a strong statement of power and control over the situation which really helps to deter a response. Of course everything depends on his actual attitude and demeanor which none of us can see for ourselves. I’m only suggesting a possibility if extreme methods are considered necessary.
[quote]tora no’ shi wrote:
i think you should be honest and tell him what you told us: you’re there to exercise not talk and wanna be left alone, if he doesn’t get it…than i would take it to management…[/quote]
So my questions is: how do you get rid of these kind of annoying people (forever)?[/quote]
The best thing to do (in my opinion) is to say, “Thanks for your advice but on this well just have to agree to disagree and I am comfortable doing it my way.”
If that doesn’t work then I would progress to being frank and saying “Look, I am not trying to hurt your feelings but I am here to workout, not to talk, and I am not looking for unsolicited advice. Please don’t disturb my workout.”
As a side note, reading your story it seems to me that you should have “defended” yourself earlier. You don’t need people to tell you that you are being lazy or anything like that, what you do is your own business. Try some of the above recommendations or just say “Gotta go” in the middle of him talking to you and literally walk away, get a drink, whatever, and move on to something else. If he follows you around talk to the gym staff about it.
Sorry that was happening to you, good luck with it.
[quote]Avoids Roids wrote:
BradTGIF wrote:
You could address the gym staff and let them know he’s bothering you. Tell them you pay good money to work out and be left alone with your own goals, and that you intend on taking your business elsewhere if the problem persists. Better yet you can tell them you feel a bit threatened by this overbearing motherfucker and I promise they’ll have a talk with him.
You’re a woman, it’s ok to use that to your advantage in this kind of situation.
B.
That’s not very T-Mannish!
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I think Avoid Roids is absolutly correct, if you feel threatened.
If you don’t feel threatened tell him to get away and leave you alone yourself.
[quote]jbodzin wrote:
Avoids Roids wrote:
BradTGIF wrote:
You could address the gym staff and let them know he’s bothering you. Tell them you pay good money to work out and be left alone with your own goals, and that you intend on taking your business elsewhere if the problem persists. Better yet you can tell them you feel a bit threatened by this overbearing motherfucker and I promise they’ll have a talk with him.
You’re a woman, it’s ok to use that to your advantage in this kind of situation.
B.
That’s not very T-Mannish!
I think Avoid Roids is absolutly correct, if you feel threatened.
If you don’t feel threatened tell him to get away and leave you alone yourself.
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Agree 100%. He’s probably a lonely old man. I’ve seen em before in the gym. A firm message to back off and it’s over with. The above advice is candy ass.
[quote]jbodzin wrote:
Avoids Roids wrote:
BradTGIF wrote:
You could address the gym staff and let them know he’s bothering you. Tell them you pay good money to work out and be left alone with your own goals, and that you intend on taking your business elsewhere if the problem persists. Better yet you can tell them you feel a bit threatened by this overbearing motherfucker and I promise they’ll have a talk with him.
You’re a woman, it’s ok to use that to your advantage in this kind of situation.
B.
That’s not very T-Mannish!
I think Avoid Roids is absolutly correct, if you feel threatened.
If you don’t feel threatened tell him to get away and leave you alone yourself.
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Who cares whether she feels threatened? The guy sounds like an asshole, give em hell. No one can argue that she didn’t feel threatened.
I was trying to avoid telling him off because I’m not very talkative to begin with. I thought that he might get the point and leave me alone because I usually just knod and try to keep my sentences short and simple, but I guess it’s the only thing I have left to do.
Find the biggest, meanest, scarryest looking guy in your gym. Buy him a smoothie and tell him to go over and tell the old guy this…" Hey, don’t bother my girl when she’s working out. I don’t allow my girl to talk to anyone without my permission and you don’t have it."
He won’t bother you again and all for the price of a smoothie.
[quote]Go heavy fool wrote:
Find the biggest, meanest, scarryest looking guy in your gym. Buy him a smoothie and tell him to go over and tell the old guy this…" Hey, don’t bother my girl when she’s working out. I don’t allow my girl to talk to anyone without my permission and you don’t have it."
He won’t bother you again and all for the price of a smoothie. [/quote]
I tried a variation of this (took a big angry friend); it doesn’t work. Now whenever someone comes up to me the first question is - Is your boyfriend around?
[quote]Go heavy fool wrote:
Find the biggest, meanest, scarryest looking guy in your gym. Buy him a smoothie and tell him to go over and tell the old guy this…" Hey, don’t bother my girl when she’s working out. I don’t allow my girl to talk to anyone without my permission and you don’t have it."
He won’t bother you again and all for the price of a smoothie. [/quote]
Then she’ll have a big, mean, scarry stalker. lol
I agree with being stern with the guy. I’m also quiet, and usually smile and nod, hoping people get the point, but after what he said, I don’t think he deserves your respect.
You can be firm and direct without sounding (or feeling) mean, and try your best to not let it get to you or distract you.
If you have to, wait until the end of your workout to confront him (unless he’ll be gone by then) so you won’t have it on your mind while working out.
I HAAAAAATE talking during my workout. It makes me feel for you women that are actually there to workout. You can’t walk halfway across the gym without getting bothered. That would annoy the shit out of me.
I think some of you are overlooking the creepy stalker aspect of this guy.
He knows exactly what she does in her workouts AND knows how long she works out… even how many days a week?
Don’t put up with this shit – you have the right not to be harassed by creepy old men. Tell the guy to fuck off or at least make the gym staff aware of his creepy stalkerism.
I thought this is what headphones are for. There is this old guy at my gym who just won’t stop talking to anyone he can find who will listen. He will follow them around, even to the bathroom, and keep talking. I don’t even think he is there to lift weights anymore. I ignore him. I put my head phones on and act like I can’t see him. He doesn’t try to start any conversations with me anymore. Some of this is invited if you try to be too nice to people. Sometimes, just to keep your own head on straight, you have to just ignore the dumb ones. Otherwise, some creepy dude will start following you to the bathroom just to talk about the weather.
I recently had the same exact problem. This guy followed me around the gym every day telling me how I was lifting too heavy and since I was a girl I should only do cardio. I tried being nice and doing the smile and nod, I tried turning my mp3 player UP and turning around to blatantly ignore him and he would just tap me again. They just dont get it. He caught me on a bad day last week, He tapped I ignored him, he tapped again and I ripped my mp3 player off of my head and said ?I dont care if you dont agree with what Im doing.
We will never agree and you will never change my mind you are just pissing me off. Now are you done I need to get some squats in? and I turned around and walked to the squat rack. He just stood there, didnt know what to do. He hasnt talked to me since. I dont like being rude to people its usually not me but when they start following you, interrupting your workout, and following your workouts its time to lay down the boundaries. However, I do always have time for the ?nice form? comments from the T-men!
The other day I was doing dumbbell bench press and this smelly creep came in he was about 5 ft 8 350lbs sandals, tight gray sweatpants, rainbow suspenders, white t shirt and a greasy comb over. He stood directly bent overtop of me with his mouth gaping open staring at my chest. If he would have drooled it would have landed right on my freaking face. I let him stay like that for about 6 reps (6 too many) I fully extended my arms on the next rep as hard and as fast as I could. I smacked the dumbbells together within centimeters of his nose. He screamed like a chick jumped about 3 feet in the air grabbed his nose and ran out of the room. I have never laughed so hard in my life along with everyone else in the room. After that one of the other girls came up to me and told me he was doing the same thing to her when she was doing crunches on the ball. She chose to just walk away. I havent seen him back there.
[quote]pipis wrote:
Anyways, I went to the gym and went about my workout, when suddenly this annoying old man who has been stalking me comes over.[/quote]
