[quote]DBCooper wrote:
[quote]on edge wrote:
[quote]pat wrote:
half the people you know will get divorced.
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For the 63rd time on this site; about 1/3 of the couples you know will diverse. The diverse stat is skewed by a few people who repeatedly marry and diverse.[/quote]
What the fuck does diversity have to do with the divorce rate in this country?[/quote]
Hindu people skew the numbers.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]DBCooper wrote:
[quote]on edge wrote:
[quote]pat wrote:
half the people you know will get divorced.
[/quote]
For the 63rd time on this site; about 1/3 of the couples you know will diverse. The diverse stat is skewed by a few people who repeatedly marry and diverse.[/quote]
What the fuck does diversity have to do with the divorce rate in this country?[/quote]
Hindu people skew the numbers. [/quote]
Hey, ass-to-mouth or it didn’t happen, honey.
[quote]DBCooper wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]DBCooper wrote:
[quote]on edge wrote:
[quote]pat wrote:
half the people you know will get divorced.
[/quote]
For the 63rd time on this site; about 1/3 of the couples you know will diverse. The diverse stat is skewed by a few people who repeatedly marry and diverse.[/quote]
What the fuck does diversity have to do with the divorce rate in this country?[/quote]
Hindu people skew the numbers. [/quote]
Hey, ass-to-mouth or it didn’t happen, honey.[/quote]
Of course. Here you go.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]DBCooper wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]DBCooper wrote:
[quote]on edge wrote:
[quote]pat wrote:
half the people you know will get divorced.
[/quote]
For the 63rd time on this site; about 1/3 of the couples you know will diverse. The diverse stat is skewed by a few people who repeatedly marry and diverse.[/quote]
What the fuck does diversity have to do with the divorce rate in this country?[/quote]
Hindu people skew the numbers. [/quote]
Hey, ass-to-mouth or it didn’t happen, honey.[/quote]
Of course. Here you go.[/quote]
WINNER OF THE 2014 “DON’T TRY TO FUCK WITH ME!” AWARD
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]DBCooper wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]DBCooper wrote:
[quote]on edge wrote:
[quote]pat wrote:
half the people you know will get divorced.
[/quote]
For the 63rd time on this site; about 1/3 of the couples you know will diverse. The diverse stat is skewed by a few people who repeatedly marry and diverse.[/quote]
What the fuck does diversity have to do with the divorce rate in this country?[/quote]
Hindu people skew the numbers. [/quote]
Hey, ass-to-mouth or it didn’t happen, honey.[/quote]
Of course. Here you go.[/quote]
Fuck yeah…
[quote]DBCooper wrote:
[quote]on edge wrote:
[quote]pat wrote:
half the people you know will get divorced.
[/quote]
For the 63rd time on this site; about 1/3 of the couples you know will diverse. The diverse stat is skewed by a few people who repeatedly marry and diverse.[/quote]
What the fuck does diversity have to do with the divorce rate in this country?[/quote]
LOL I guess I didn’t read that one back before posting.
[quote]pat wrote:
I figured out the number one problem in relationships, the one disease that kills them all. Selfishness.
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THIS is the absolute truth.
If BOTH parties keep it in check, it makes for a much easier marriage.
[quote]Stinkfist wrote:
[quote]pat wrote:
I figured out the number one problem in relationships, the one disease that kills them all. Selfishness.
[/quote]
THIS is the absolute truth.
If BOTH parties keep it in check, it makes for a much easier marriage.[/quote]
That can be applied to about everything in life.
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]Stinkfist wrote:
[quote]pat wrote:
I figured out the number one problem in relationships, the one disease that kills them all. Selfishness.
[/quote]
THIS is the absolute truth.
If BOTH parties keep it in check, it makes for a much easier marriage.[/quote]
That can be applied to about everything in life. [/quote]
I agree with all of this.
okay…
although I do not disagree with the comments above, I would like each of you to describe to me what you are referring to as ‘selfishness’…
[quote]Edgy wrote:
okay…
although I do not disagree with the comments above, I would like each of you to describe to me what you are referring to as ‘selfishness’…[/quote]
Good question. I’m going to ponder it as I go about my day today and hopefully answer tonight.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]Edgy wrote:
okay…
although I do not disagree with the comments above, I would like each of you to describe to me what you are referring to as ‘selfishness’…[/quote]
Good question. I’m going to ponder it as I go about my day today and hopefully answer tonight.[/quote]
Your Wife would like you to come home from work and go to dinner with her.
You would rather not and go out with your work friends and call it “business”.
[quote]Edgy wrote:
although I do not disagree with the comments above, I would like each of you to describe to me what you are referring to as ‘selfishness’…[/quote]
I am believer that we cannot be anything other than selfish.
Derek might think that he is being unselfish by dining with his wife rather than going out with friends. But ultimately it serves him to please his wife and dine with her rather than reap the potential repurcussions that might result if he doesn’t.
Some people appear extremely “unselfish” because of their prodigious acts of philanthropy. But I would argue that it pleases them to be that way.
So I don’t buy the “selfish” argument. We all do what we ultimately want to do.
[quote]kpsnap wrote:
[quote]Edgy wrote:
although I do not disagree with the comments above, I would like each of you to describe to me what you are referring to as ‘selfishness’…[/quote]
I am believer that we cannot be anything other than selfish.
Derek might think that he is being unselfish by dining with his wife rather than going out with friends. But ultimately it serves him to please his wife and dine with her rather than reap the potential repurcussions that might result if he doesn’t.
Some people appear extremely “unselfish” because of their prodigious acts of philanthropy. But I would argue that it pleases them to be that way.
So I don’t buy the “selfish” argument. We all do what we ultimately want to do.[/quote]
I would counter with self sacrifice for others while does give the person some self gratification if truly done has better outcomes and a more fulfilling life.
I agree with Snapper -
and would like to continue the question as to ‘is un self serving behaviour to be regarded as un selfish behaviour?’
( prefer to spell like the Brits)
[quote]kpsnap wrote:
[quote]Edgy wrote:
although I do not disagree with the comments above, I would like each of you to describe to me what you are referring to as ‘selfishness’…[/quote]
I am believer that we cannot be anything other than selfish.
Derek might think that he is being unselfish by dining with his wife rather than going out with friends. But ultimately it serves him to please his wife and dine with her rather than reap the potential repurcussions that might result if he doesn’t.
Some people appear extremely “unselfish” because of their prodigious acts of philanthropy. But I would argue that it pleases them to be that way.
So I don’t buy the “selfish” argument. We all do what we ultimately want to do.[/quote]
Here’s the definition of “selfish”: Devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one’s own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others.
So, the other person feels good about the act, and is in a sense “rewarded” that feeling.
Either way, it doesn’t mean he’s selfish.
Otherwise, what’s the alternative? Feeling angry and resentful for giving in? Sounds fun 
[quote]kpsnap wrote:
[quote]Edgy wrote:
although I do not disagree with the comments above, I would like each of you to describe to me what you are referring to as ‘selfishness’…[/quote]
I am believer that we cannot be anything other than selfish.
Derek might think that he is being unselfish by dining with his wife rather than going out with friends. But ultimately it serves him to please his wife and dine with her rather than reap the potential repurcussions that might result if he doesn’t.
Some people appear extremely “unselfish” because of their prodigious acts of philanthropy. But I would argue that it pleases them to be that way.
So I don’t buy the “selfish” argument. We all do what we ultimately want to do.[/quote]
Explain to me how doing what we ultimately want means that it is selfishness?
Just because someone likes being humble doesn’t mean they are prideful, and just because one likes to be chaste, doesn’t mean they are in fact a whore. And, just because one likes to be meek doesn’t mean they are unjustly angry. Your argument is fallacious.
From the time of antiquity men have concluded that for a man to be perfect in virtue they are to act virtuously joyfully and quickly, with no second thought of vice.
Read some Aristotle. Or Meditations by Marcus Aurelius.
[quote]Brother Chris wrote:
[quote]kpsnap wrote:
[quote]Edgy wrote:
although I do not disagree with the comments above, I would like each of you to describe to me what you are referring to as ‘selfishness’…[/quote]
I am believer that we cannot be anything other than selfish.
Derek might think that he is being unselfish by dining with his wife rather than going out with friends. But ultimately it serves him to please his wife and dine with her rather than reap the potential repurcussions that might result if he doesn’t.
Some people appear extremely “unselfish” because of their prodigious acts of philanthropy. But I would argue that it pleases them to be that way.
So I don’t buy the “selfish” argument. We all do what we ultimately want to do.[/quote]
Explain to me how doing what we ultimately want means that it is selfishness?
Just because someone likes being humble doesn’t mean they are prideful, and just because one likes to be chaste, doesn’t mean they are in fact a whore. And, just because one likes to be meek doesn’t mean they are unjustly angry. Your argument is fallacious.
From the time of antiquity men have concluded that for a man to be perfect in virtue they are to act virtuously joyfully and quickly, with no second thought of vice.
Read some Aristotle. Or Meditations by Marcus Aurelius.[/quote]
Amen to that brother!
[quote]Brother Chris wrote:
[quote]kpsnap wrote:
[quote]Edgy wrote:
although I do not disagree with the comments above, I would like each of you to describe to me what you are referring to as ‘selfishness’…[/quote]
I am believer that we cannot be anything other than selfish.
Derek might think that he is being unselfish by dining with his wife rather than going out with friends. But ultimately it serves him to please his wife and dine with her rather than reap the potential repurcussions that might result if he doesn’t.
Some people appear extremely “unselfish” because of their prodigious acts of philanthropy. But I would argue that it pleases them to be that way.
So I don’t buy the “selfish” argument. We all do what we ultimately want to do.[/quote]
Explain to me how doing what we ultimately want means that it is selfishness?
Just because someone likes being humble doesn’t mean they are prideful, and just because one likes to be chaste, doesn’t mean they are in fact a whore. And, just because one likes to be meek doesn’t mean they are unjustly angry. Your argument is fallacious.
From the time of antiquity men have concluded that for a man to be perfect in virtue they are to act virtuously joyfully and quickly, with no second thought of vice.
Read some Aristotle. Or Meditations by Marcus Aurelius.[/quote]
I don’t think you understand what I am saying.
But that’s most likely because debate is not my forte.
I stand by my opinion even if I cannot articulate it well. Which is to say that we all ultimately do what we want and what serves us best. But I do not believe that we can be otherwise.
The truth is Jenn, no, you’re not a bitch. You are needy, however, but you don’t know what you need.