Worst Part About Being Strong & Big

At my whopping :-p 175 pounds I absolutely HATE boxers. I should wear a medium, but my legs are too big, but in a large, the waist is too big!

And wearing dress clothes for school was getting rough (I graduated on sunday!), I already hate wearing dress pants because they ride up on my legs and waist and then give me the dreaded crotch wedgie that attacks my unit. I think I’m already in athletic fit blazers too…

[quote]grey wrote:
Alright. This thread is definately getting my vote for the most pathetic.
You bo-zos are making me laugh.

“Boo-hoo my shirts are too tight”.
Like one of the posters said…try switching to a medium from x-small.

“Guys check me out all the time.”
Sounds to me like your the one doing the checking out and eye contact. How the fuck would you notice otherwise?

“Girls are scared of me.”
Thats because no amount of lifting will change the fact that your an ugly motherfucker. The only difference now is that you’re also covered in zits.

I love these stupid stories.

“Everyone thinks I’m a bouncer”
That’s because you act like a fucking idiot swaggering around and giving dirty looks.

All you big tough guys…this is my advice…
Be more humble. There is nothing cooler than a easygoing big dude. You know he is in control of his world and doesnt need to do any postureing. He knows he’s big cause he’s worked hard to get there and doesn’t give a rat’s ass what anybody thinks.

It’s the little big guys that walk around angry all over the place with rolled up sleeves and tight t-shirts squinting around and daring anybody to look his way even though that’s exactly what he wants.

Geez.

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AMEN!! Here are my suggestions
Never roll up your sleeves. looks gay and pathetic. IF YOUR ARMS ARE big, they will look it with sleeves in the normal psotion.
Find shirts that fit.
Strive for mobility. Nothing looks goofier than a big stiff “please notice me, I need to feel like a bad ass”

Don’t get into fights to justify penis ownership. If you win, you should have, you are big, you lose, you are a tool that got schooled. That and you might miss traps and calves day. Either way, you may go to jail. they like big fellas there

NEVER wear any kind of training t shirts, clown pants, etc, to a club. Cries of insecurity.
Be humble. mild smile and nod.
If you are not a bouncer in the club you are in and a fight breaks out, don’t get involved. It is not a duty of yours to keep the peace. If you wanna feel the bad ass in a busy club, go take out the trash. Two at once even. Trashcans full of beer bottles carried for distance is good GPP.

Remember, don’t feel yourself up in a club. No rubbing your bi’s. Never say it was/is bi’s day in a group. They will think you are trying to find a boyfriend and girlfriend to go home with
Big lats dont look bigger with the goofy ILS arm position.

Get caught reading a novel.
If you are out to dinner, don’t be a pin in the ass. Choose better from the menu with minor changes or don’t go out.
Tip well.

Good answer to the “do you lift weight?” is “I try to as often as my schedule allows. It helps me unwind”

[quote]jp_dubya wrote:
AMEN!! Here are my suggestions
Never roll up your sleeves. looks gay and pathetic. IF YOUR ARMS ARE big, they will look it with sleeves in the normal psotion.
Find shirts that fit.
Strive for mobility. Nothing looks goofier than a big stiff “please notice me, I need to feel like a bad ass”

Don’t get into fights to justify penis ownership. If you win, you should have, you are big, you lose, you are a tool that got schooled. That and you might miss traps and calves day. Either way, you may go to jail. they like big fellas there

NEVER wear any kind of training t shirts, clown pants, etc, to a club. Cries of insecurity.
Be humble. mild smile and nod.
If you are not a bouncer in the club you are in and a fight breaks out, don’t get involved. It is not a duty of yours to keep the peace. If you wanna feel the bad ass in a busy club, go take out the trash. Two at once even. Trashcans full of beer bottles carried for distance is good GPP.

Remember, don’t feel yourself up in a club. No rubbing your bi’s. Never say it was/is bi’s day in a group. They will think you are trying to find a boyfriend and girlfriend to go home with
Big lats dont look bigger with the goofy ILS arm position.

Get caught reading a novel.
If you are out to dinner, don’t be a pin in the ass. Choose better from the menu with minor changes or don’t go out.
Tip well.

Good answer to the “do you lift weight?” is “I try to as often as my schedule allows. It helps me unwind”[/quote]

Good post. However, it doesn’t solve my problem with pants not fitting.

[quote]jp_dubya wrote:

Good answer to the “do you lift weight?” is “I try to as often as my schedule allows. It helps me unwind”[/quote]

Favorite of my buddy(6’2, 345lbs), when asked if he lifts weights :

“Nah, I came out like this 25 years ago. Mom’s still recovering.”

(with a completely straight face, and then a huge smile every time he says this)

2 weeks ago this real tiny girl, maybe 5’2, 90lbs, at a bar, after he said it, looked at him top to bottom, and then said
“I would definately not try to get you out of me.”

Then she realised what she said and ran off with a red face, and came back later to buy us a drink as an apology.(of course we were laughing our asses off, till she came back and we went back to the straight face as if we were terribly offended)

After that a big black woman with high hair came to him and asked the same question.

Weird but good times.

[quote]Majestical wrote:
One gripe I have with getting bigger and stronger, not that I don’t love it, is that people, especially girls, will come up to you and say, “You’re big enough already!!!”

The assed up thing is, these are the same people who said the same damn thing when you were 20lbs lighter.

I usually smile and pretend like I care. [/quote]

Maybe you were too big 20 lbs ago. There is such a thing as being too big for the majority of women’s tastes. I think a lot of guys are in denial about what makes an attractive body to females. How many guys here are/were surprised that women don’t find Arnold’s physique appealing is his hey day? I know I was one at one point. I think most bodybuilders are “brain washed” in to thinking bigger is always better. Reading magazines like Flex, and Muscle and Fitness as teenagers have warped many bodybuilders sense of reality I think.

Getting “as big as a house” is really just to establish dominance over other men, not to pick up women IMO. I think there’s a threshold point there. True, I think women are attracted to men that are in the top of their field. There’s always women that like to attach themselves to winners. Bodybuilders, powerlifters, and other strength athletes can still haul female ass, but I think it’s limiting oneself to a smaller subset of women. I’m sure many of you guys are cool with that.

Can anyone honestly assess whether they’re exercising more for male dominance rather than to pick up women? Or am I just full of shit? :slight_smile:

the worst thing that has happened to me with being big…( 6-3, 290)

One night I was working at a Manufacturing Center performing an audit when there was a ton of noise and hysteria coming from up near the front doors. Of course acting like a Alpha Male…I walked up to the front to see what was going on. I asked the security guard what was gong on and she said there was an ex boyfriend of an employee in the parking lot who was holding a gun. She then looked at me and said,

“Can you go out there since you are so big?”

Needless to say after 3 seconds of reprocessing what she said I replied that I would be a bigger target and perhaps she should call the police.

Anyway the little punk did not do anything and from I heard it wasn’t a real gun.

A guy who was on my GF course was about 6ft 10, and must be 20 stone. Just a big big guy (training as a physio!?!) and is freaky strong.

He got thrown out of a TV audience once. They accused him of wanting to streak.

That would have been very very funny to see, but at that size, i doubt his striptease would be like lightning.

[quote]greatgro wrote:
malonetd wrote:
gojira wrote:
3…I hate shopping.

I agree; clothes shopping is the worst thing about having any size. It is so damn hard for me to buy pants. If they fit around my thighs and ass, they are 4 sizes too big on my waist. If they fit my waist, I can’t pull them all the way up my legs. Also, I’m 5’6" so everything is too long. It’s real hard to find a pair that is 36 inch waist, 29 inch inseam, and loose in the thighs.

Agreed. I’m 5’7" 190lbs 30" waist. My legs and butt can’t fit into anything smaller than a 32 waist. And that is tight on my butt. As for the top, large shirts are too tight and I like to wear loose stuff up top not showing off any muscle unless I’m in the gym or on the beach. So I wear XLs but some XLs go halfway down my legs.

And suits…forget it. There’s a 16-18" inch difference between my chest and waist. And what do suits come in a 6" diffeence? And the f-ing athletic fits are a whopping 8" difference. Oh great, thanks.

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G star Jeans. They are cut well for the bigger legger. Mine are just shy of 30 inches, and i feel your pain,and the embarrassment of torn trousers.

Would have liked to chime in on this thread earlier before it got gay, but I was on the road. Anyway, here’s my beef about being big.

Riding in an airplane.

I always get the isle unless it’s not available, that way I can lean into it most of the flight unless the drink cart goes by. But I absolutely hate the cramped space. 4 hour flight? That’s 4 hours of me being stuffed into a teeny chair and hating every second. I feel for the people who sit next to me, too. They see me coming and looking above their chair, verifying the right row, and just cringe. If I sit up straight, the arm-rest deal won’t go all the way down thanks to my leg, and my shoulders flood into their space quite a bit. It goes the same for seating at ballgames as well. Always get the isle or the whole experience sucks. I was in Detroit on Monday, sitting in Left-Center at the Tigers-Yankees game just completely roasting under the sun and humidity… Luckily I had the isle and I was sitting next to my brother who’s much more understanding than the layman.

As for clothes, I’m over it. I shop at Men’s warehouse and use the same tailor to help me pick stuff out. For jeans I too have to wear 42’s for my legs and then cinch up the belt, but what else can you do? Rock Sweats all the live long day? It took a little while but now my GF can pick stuff out for me rather handily, so I rarely have to deal with the whole scene unless I’m buying shoes.

B.

[quote]Bri Hildebrandt wrote:
Majestical wrote:
One gripe I have with getting bigger and stronger, not that I don’t love it, is that people, especially girls, will come up to you and say, “You’re big enough already!!!”

The assed up thing is, these are the same people who said the same damn thing when you were 20lbs lighter.

I usually smile and pretend like I care.

Maybe you were too big 20 lbs ago. There is such a thing as being too big for the majority of women’s tastes. I think a lot of guys are in denial about what makes an attractive body to females. How many guys here are/were surprised that women don’t find Arnold’s physique appealing is his hey day? I know I was one at one point. I think most bodybuilders are “brain washed” in to thinking bigger is always better. Reading magazines like Flex, and Muscle and Fitness as teenagers have warped many bodybuilders sense of reality I think.

Getting “as big as a house” is really just to establish dominance over other men, not to pick up women IMO. I think there’s a threshold point there. True, I think women are attracted to men that are in the top of their field. There’s always women that like to attach themselves to winners. Bodybuilders, powerlifters, and other strength athletes can still haul female ass, but I think it’s limiting oneself to a smaller subset of women. I’m sure many of you guys are cool with that.

Can anyone honestly assess whether they’re exercising more for male dominance rather than to pick up women? Or am I just full of shit? :)[/quote]

I agree. I think you’re limiting your dating options by getting really big. And not just excluding women who you wouldn’t want to date, either. But there are still enough great-looking women who appreciate size.

[quote]BradTGIF wrote:

I always get the isle unless it’s not available, that way I can lean into it most of the flight unless the drink cart goes by. But I absolutely hate the cramped space. 4 hour flight? That’s 4 hours of me being stuffed into a teeny chair and hating every second. I feel for the people who sit next to me, too. They see me coming and looking above their chair, verifying the right row, and just cringe. If I sit up straight, the arm-rest deal won’t go all the way down thanks to my leg, and my shoulders flood into their space quite a bit. It goes the same for seating at ballgames as well. Always get the isle or the whole experience sucks. I was in Detroit on Monday, sitting in Left-Center at the Tigers-Yankees game just completely roasting under the sun and humidity… Luckily I had the isle and I was sitting next to my brother who’s much more understanding than the layman.
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It’s much better than obese people whose asses are also spilling into the seat next to them.

I’m not a huge man, but coming from a Performing Arts High School and a very unathletic college, I stand out. When I go back to my HS for plays, I’m certainly bigger than others there, and I am within the top 3 for biggest and strongest at my college (only 3,000 people).

Honestly, I used to love the attention. Having people say “You go so huge!!!” gave my ego a semi back in the day. And I still enjoy getting compliments from other lifters or people who know what they are talking about. But in the average population, I just feel weird getting the compliments. Which is contradictory, because I used to love the attention.

But, I really dislike when it becomes the only topic of conversation. They tell me about how they used to work out and then stopped and all this bullshit I don’t care about.

I wish people would greet and talk to me as a human being first, and a lifter second. But, that’s what I get for being interested in bodybuilding I suppose.

-MAtt

It’s funny, you are talking like you are so intelligent… This thread is JOKE, it is to joke about and nothing too take serious like you guys.

I hate working on front-wheel drive cars now. When I was a skinny bastard, my hands and arms would fit everywhere. Now, they don’t fit anywhere… Change a belt? Yeah, right.

[quote]Columbu wrote:
It’s funny, you are talking like you are so intelligent… This thread is JOKE, it is to joke about and nothing too take serious like you guys.[/quote]

BALBOS has returned!!

[quote]slt wrote:
Needing to pay big bucks for tailored dress shirts, pants, suits and jackets is one of the worst things.[/quote]

Hell, at least you do it and look great. Much better than Men’s Warehouse.

[quote]jsbrook wrote:
BIGRAGOO wrote:
jsbrook wrote:

For sure. I think muscular women definitely have it a lot harder, in fact.

And that’s a damn shame. All that hard work and no one to appreciate it. That’s ok, I appreciate it.

I appreciate it…to a point. I think it’s much easier to cross the line and pass the point of being appealing for a woman. I wouldn’t really say that any of the T-Vixens who’ve posted their pictures on this site have. That I’ve seen. But plenty of the pictures in the muscular womens threads have in my opinion.[/quote]

Well, androgens will no doubt strip a woman of her femininity, but that’s not exactly accidental or progressive. More of a hard and fast choice - unlike muscle and fat distribution, which are a part of life even for the untrained.

I don’t have a problem with muscular women, as long as they have the percent bodyfat to cover it e.g. Lianne Blynn

Becoming too lean, though, makes a woman unappealing to me. What I want of a woman’s body is some soft pillowey-ness to suck on, not deep cuts and special muscle seperation, vascularity, etc. That shit’s disgusting.

But, though I’m no expert, I don’t think that shit looks too hot on men either. I’m sure many women agree, and that is likely the number one factor in why they think bodybuilders are gross. Nobody wants that much of an anatomy lesson from the “visible man”.

I hate when gils on night out in town feel me up… It makes me all tingley in pants!!!

[quote]Bri Hildebrandt wrote:
Getting “as big as a house” is really just to establish dominance over other men, not to pick up women IMO. I think there’s a threshold point there. True, I think women are attracted to men that are in the top of their field. There’s always women that like to attach themselves to winners. Bodybuilders, powerlifters, and other strength athletes can still haul female ass, but I think it’s limiting oneself to a smaller subset of women. I’m sure many of you guys are cool with that.

Can anyone honestly assess whether they’re exercising more for male dominance rather than to pick up women? Or am I just full of shit? :)[/quote]

I’ll go with “full of shit” for 500, Bob.

[quote]Professor X wrote:
Bri Hildebrandt wrote:
Getting “as big as a house” is really just to establish dominance over other men, not to pick up women IMO. I think there’s a threshold point there. True, I think women are attracted to men that are in the top of their field. There’s always women that like to attach themselves to winners. Bodybuilders, powerlifters, and other strength athletes can still haul female ass, but I think it’s limiting oneself to a smaller subset of women. I’m sure many of you guys are cool with that.

Can anyone honestly assess whether they’re exercising more for male dominance rather than to pick up women? Or am I just full of shit? :slight_smile:

I’ll go with “full of shit” for 500, Bob.[/quote]

I agree.

I train for several reasons. To perform better in my job, to look better for women, and to feel healthier and better about myself.