Dunno, works pretty well for me too.
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Yeah, itās fine if youāre good with loneliness. Although you and I are both with spouses, so we have a built in human companion.
But it legit dawned on me the other day. I moved to my current place 3 years ago, weāre moving in the summer, and I said to my wife āYou know what I realized? I donāt have any friends here. There are zero people I hang out with here.ā
Just wasnāt even on my radar as a concern.
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Followed by this
Means that youāre not lonely - youāre alone, and there is a difference. Iām just learning to be alone without being lonely. I like it.
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Incredibly valuable point. Great distinction to make.
My wife is introverted, but not to the extent I am. She has to let me know when we havenāt been around enough humans, because left to my own devices, Iāll spend time with none.
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Look up emotional manipulation in relationships on google and take a gander! See if that makes any sense with what you are experiencing. Iām not saying this to say heās a bad guy, he just might be bad for YOU.
It wonāt get better with this guy at all. I also wonder if he is your boss or some type of supervisor if this is allowed at your job? In the states a lot of companies have really strict rules over inter office relationships.
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My wife is the opposite. Sheās gotten used to my misanthropic nature but it took some time. She used to be genuinely concerned at my lack of friends.
@Spock81 I donāt know what to say thatās helpful. Stop caring what people think. They donāt matter.
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I have no doubt that heās manipulating me.
So does that mean heās not even technically in this for sex , but for entertainment?
Because thatās fucked up
But still, why waste your time with a person who irritates you?
I like myself. I have no intention of changing or altering myself to suit his needs , but I am lonely.
Itās not so much a case that I dont love myself and thatās what I need to work on in order to stay away from him, but more dealing with my feelings of loneliness.
Which is so fucking hard because itās not like this has been short lived. Iāve never in my life felt anything other than loneliness. Never had anything close or healthy or real. Iām sick of being alone so itās like ok, how do I be ok with being alone when Iām so g damn tired of being alone?
Iāve learned how to love myself and i am happy on my own, but Iād really like to have a man in my life now. Iām 32, , I love my life and my job and my son is doing so well. Iām ready for the relationship already !!
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You definitely deserve a good guy, you will get through thisā¦
I also hope you can get a dog! No joke. Loneliness can be cured with animals!!
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YES !! I would love a dog. I literally watch dog videos all day on reddit. I think it would change my life significantly, but my building doesnt allow pets.
Iām not going to move until I can put a down payment on a condo , so it will be like 6 years until a dog can be a reality unfortunately
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OH NO! You canāt have pets at your place? That sucks!!! I hope you have access to someoneās dog! Anyoneās dog!
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I totally get how you can get drawn back into bad habits that you know are destructive for you. I was also really bad at being alone, until I learned not to be. It was terribly difficult for me to take the step of filing for divorce from my ex-wife with no expectation that I would have someone else to be with, even as toxic as she was.
I think Myth is onto something with learning to be alone without being lonely. You can learn to cherish time alone, rather than suffer from it.
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I also wonder if you could get a support dog. Seriously! Do you still have a therapist you can ask? My sister has one for her issues-- a Chihuahua of all things!-is that a thing in Canada?
Support dogs typically are allowed to live in no dog allowed places once they have their certificationā¦Emotional support, you can get them for certain mental disorders like maybe even high anxiety or bipolar as well.
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Itās a weird grey area under Canadian law; technically, thereās no such thing as a ātherapy animalā or āemotional support animalā. The only recognized service animals under law are dogs that are trained as aids for physically impaired people. However, if you receive a diagnosis from a medical professional that you have some type of personality or mental disorder that a specific animal helps minimize, then you can get them ācertifiedā as a therapy animal, which means theyāre a working animal and thus benefit from the lawful definition of āservice animalā. They will then need to wear the proper identification when out in public (vest/jacket, collar, ID tag, etc). Sometimes itās required that a certified trainer takes a look at the animal as well to see if it can recognize signs of stress, anxiety, etc and calm its ward down.
I know all this because I spent hours consulting with a legal team about it, when some crackhead kept trying to bring his dog into the site I work at without any identification whatsoever.
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Also to note in my position as work from home call center rep my contract says Iām not allowed to have a dog in the home due to noise concerns.
Iām hoping in 6 years Iāll be in a higher position and this will no longer be the case.
Honestly , dogs make my heart so happy
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Drive by post
Time for bed
Squats
135lbs x 4
155lbs x 4
175lbs x 2
185lbs x 2
195lbs x 2 x 2
200lbs x 2
Ezzzz!!!
High bar paused
145lbs x 4
155lbs x 4
160lbs x 4
Bench press
105lbs x 4
115lbs x 4
125lbs x 2
130lbs x 2
Tempo bench
115lbs x 4
Bench blockz
125lbs x 4
135lbs x 4
130lbs x 7
Getting strong again yaāll!!!
1.5hrs of other shit
Cardio
BYE
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Well if youāre ever in NW Ontario, youāre welcome to borrow my dogs.
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This is so simple.
Treat your boy like a dog. Problem solved.
Thank me later.
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Iād move on and delete the number. He sounds very immature and certainly hasnāt a clue how to treat the ladies. When the suns out - get the guns 
out. Wear clothes that show off your figure and all that hard work in the gym. Turn up at places where everyone looks normal ( non gym goers ) and all eyes will be on you. They will be lining up like bowling pins and you are the bowling ball - go smash them! Good luck 
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Great day
Deadlifts
135lbs x 5
185lbs x 3
205lbs x 3
Belt
230lbs x 3
240lbs x 3
Bent over row
100lbs x 12
105lbs x 8, x 10
Two d handle lat pull down
Drop sets
100lbs x 6
70lbs x 8
55lbs x 10
50lbs x 12
Leg spreader
65lbs x 50 +50 partials
Foot on seat lat pull to me
40lbs x 10
45lbs x 2 x 12
Leg curl
45lbs x 20
Wide d handle lat pull down
45lbs x 15
70lbs x 10
45lbs x 15
Like one giant set without rest
T bar row
Bar plus
55lbs x 10
60lbs x 6
65lbs x 12
25lbs x 20
Seated cable row
85lbs x 8
55lbs x something
Ropey bi curl
20lbs x 8
15lbs x 8
10lbs x 10
Front lat pull down machine
30lbs x 2 x 15
Barbell curl
40lbs x 8
30lbs x 8
20llbs x 12
Hammer curls
17.5lbs x 2 x 8
12.5lbs x 10
Step mill intervals 20 min
Done
Tired AF
BYE
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Thatās a great motivator then to continue busting ass at your job and saving cash, the years will go by fast enough with a DOG at the end of the rainbow!!
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