[quote]49ersFan81 wrote:
Wow, thanks for all the replies. I appreciate everyones feedback. I think TexasGuy hit it on the money though. It doesnt help that my girlfriend is a psych major and everything is pretty much a “disorder” to those people.
I think Ill take the casual approach as far as responding. Lately, since its been getting to me, I respond to others in a “dude shut up!” fashion. I think this just gives others the idea that, “see all that dieting and working out is making him ‘rage.’ He’s probably on steroids now!” blah blah.
TexasGuy I read your advice and went along with that approach. Man you were right on. She does feel a bit insecure when she eats around me. She is in a sorority and while she looks fine, she has put on that extra beer weight. Those 5 vanity lbs on girls is a killer for them. The last party I accompanied her to she had 4 bud lights and i had 2 sugar free red bulls. I got called “uptight.” Thats pretty much what led me to post.
Anyway, thanks for all the advice. I guess in the end its just human nature that people are “against” what is different. We live in a society where we’re told, “just be happy with who you are…” and self-improvement is translated into "dude, you have an obsession or image disorder. Its hard to remember that obesity, being overweight, and eating like shit, and not working out, is the overwhelming majority of our peers and countrymen/women. Basically, we’re the minority, and i guess this just comes with the territory.
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I’m glad I could help. Understanding what it is that drives a woman to comment is more important to figure out and address than the comment itself. Girls want to be sexy for their guys and in general. When you are being healthier than them they don’t feel like they are living up to your presumed standards and that bugs them if they like you. Reassuring her that you like her for who she is and stay healthy for yourself will make her feel better though you’ll probably have to do it often. Chicks are pretty needy and very insecure.
To offer a little more advice, understand your girl does care what you think about her and that says a lot. Just comfort her when she seems to be grumpy/moody etc. 90% of the time a woman’s mood swings stem from one insecurity or another. They are very fragile little creatures.
And it is good to let comments roll in general. Every male with a pair of real nuts wants to be muscular, strong and alpha-ish. When people like us are around most guys feel puny and inadequate, so they try to belittle the guy with real muscles and if they get you to crack you become the butt of their jokes rather than a threat. Next time, just mention you like your physique and would rather have muscles than a gut. They’ll probably shut up a little. If they keep grumbling it’s because they recognize you are more of a man than them so who cares.