Toxic People

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My mom is a toxic

She is a great person but also a very protective one.

I am a very positive person and i see life as this big challenge to be taken on. Life has so much to offer.

I live with my parents and everytime i get home, my mom is on my back asking me what i did, where i was and the effect is devastating. I think the hardest part is being put down when you do your best to meet ones expectations and still be seen as inadequate. I beleave we all have the power to choose the direction we take in life.

I will soon be moving out. I made the decision to dractically change my life a while ago. I used to be this physically weak, emotionnaly dependant, and socialy shy guy.My hard work and re-conditionning is finally paying off. I now enjoy this incredible health, i am i source of positive power to my large circle of friends and my valuable connections gives meaning to my life.

i will soon be moving out

Toxic people must be avoided
because they drain the weak
as much as the strong.

I will call her every day
and try to provide positive
energy.

i hope it will help

How did/do you deal with toxic people

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Just remember she is your mom, and you wouldn’t have a life without her. Being a parent is hard work. You shouldn’t look down on her for asking what you did during the day, or where you were. That means she cares about you. There are tons of kids out there who wish someone cared about them and asked what THEY did that day.

Good luck on your move. Make sure you invite her over once you are settled in.

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Calling her daily will not help her, it will only hurt you.

The way to deal w/ toxicicity(sp?) in your life is to detoxify.

I speak from years of expierence in this. Leaving my mother alone was the best/hardest thing i ever did.

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She sounds like the perfect person for the Forum. Nothing to contribute but a lot to say.

She probably needs anti-depressants.

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I feel exactly how you do about my mom. She is absolutely hellbent that I attend a college full time next year, reguardless of what my grades this year look like while playing junior hockey. I’m glad she’s moving away and I can live with my Dad/Step mom full time next year, or find a team that I can have a billet with.

It’s funny, just last year she was really supportive of me playing hockey and being the best I could be. Now it feels like completely the opposite. I tell her that and she says she’s just being “realistic.” I tell her you can’t be realistic and shoot for the stars at the same time.

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[quote]110% wrote:
My mom is a toxic

How did/do you deal with toxic people[/quote]

I moved over 2000 miles away and call a couple times a month, tops. I haven’t visited their house in 4 years, they’ve been to mine for 1 and the visit was cut short.

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Sorry to hear about the negativity from your mom. I think it’s a good move to move out. You and she may eventually be able to have a better relationship, with you out of the house she’ll have to eventually accept that you’re an adult and have to respect you as an adult. At the same time, some people never change so don’t hold your breath.

I have several toxic people around me that I have to tolerate when they’re around but if I don’t have to be around them, I choose not to. They will remain un-named but since we’re on the subject…

There is a little clique I know whom are lying, underhanded, jealous, backstabbing, bitchy, conniving, manipulative, etc… You know the type. I make a choice not to associate too much with that type of people, their toxicity will eventually affect you in some way or another.

Consequently, that I want to be a positive, kind, honest, trustworthy person of integrity, I only have friends I feel have these traits. If I do find out that a “friend” is a backstabber, our friendship is done. I move on, end of story.

You are who you surround yourself with. The path of your life can be altered positively if you surround yourself with positive people of integrity. Consequently, your life’s path can be negatively altered if you surround yourself by negative, dishonest people. I’ll give an example of this.

I had a very good “friend”. Well, I ended up with a very good looking boyfriend, and my friend ended up showing up at his house one night propositioning him. Before she went there, she had called me to see what I was up to that night.

This caused a lot of pain in my life at a time when I was happy, and also changed my perception of “trust”- I trusted that she was genuinely caring when in fact she was trying to find out information about me in order to backstab me. Thus, she was a negative disruption, and end of friendship the moment I found out- from that day on to me she’s just another pimple on the ass of society. People whom do these kinds of things are toxic. Stay far far away from them.

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[quote]chinadoll wrote:
Sorry to hear about the negativity from your mom. I think it’s a good move to move out. You and she may eventually be able to have a better relationship, with you out of the house she’ll have to eventually accept that you’re an adult and have to respect you as an adult. At the same time, some people never change so don’t hold your breath.

I have several toxic people around me that I have to tolerate when they’re around but if I don’t have to be around them, I choose not to. They will remain un-named but since we’re on the subject…

There is a little clique I know whom are lying, underhanded, jealous, backstabbing, bitchy, conniving, manipulative, etc… You know the type. I make a choice not to associate too much with that type of people, their toxicity will eventually affect you in some way or another.

Consequently, that I want to be a positive, kind, honest, trustworthy person of integrity, I only have friends I feel have these traits. If I do find out that a “friend” is a backstabber, our friendship is done. I move on, end of story.

You are who you surround yourself with. The path of your life can be altered positively if you surround yourself with positive people of integrity. Consequently, your life’s path can be negatively altered if you surround yourself by negative, dishonest people. I’ll give an example of this.

I had a very good “friend”. Well, I ended up with a very good looking boyfriend, and my friend ended up showing up at his house one night propositioning him. Before she went there, she had called me to see what I was up to that night.

This caused a lot of pain in my life at a time when I was happy, and also changed my perception of “trust”- I trusted that she was genuinely caring when in fact she was trying to find out information about me in order to backstab me. Thus, she was a negative disruption, and end of friendship the moment I found out- from that day on to me she’s just another pimple on the ass of society. People whom do these kinds of things are toxic. Stay far far away from them.

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Why am I not surprised?

To the OP. It’s your mom. Cut some slack. If moving out is best for you fine, but to cut and run from what you posted is a little excessive.

There could be many underlying causes for her behavior, not the least of which could be psychotic. Depression. Lonliness. Inability to show her emotions. You have to do what’s best for you, but cutting off a person who is in need is far from noble.

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My oh my can I completely relate to this thread. I moved out over three years ago, at 24, and I haven’t looked back since.

A toxic mother and younger brother. Dealing with them was next to impossible.

Best decision I ever made.

Good luck, and watch your money and stay on top of your bills, and you’ll be fine, its not that hard if your responsible.

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So you see life as one big challenge, but when you’re faced with an obstacle at home your first instinct is to cut and run? Good luck in the real world.

Your profile says you’re a student. I’m guessing you’re young.

You post a lot about chicks. I’m guessing you’re horny.

My advice is masturbation and growing up. Keep the former to yourself, come back when you’ve accomplished the latter. No one cares about your teenage angst.

Your mom asks you about your day; she doesn’t nag you as to whether or not she can stick your left nut in a vice until bedtime.

I took the liberty of reading a few of your past posts, and what I’ve determined is you sound like a child. You wonder if girls are testing you, posting guides on how to be a Player, you refer to yourself as a ‘tit man’ and, in case there’s any doubt as to #3, you say you can’t wait to date chicks. It’s no wonder your Mom has no idea what you’re up to. I wouldn’t tell her, myself.

Well, I can help you out with that. Since you’re such a freaking baby, I’ll give you a little something you can use to bond with your mom. From what I understand, all people with your mental maturity love these:

Ready?

“Hey, (synonym of Mom), I was just (verb) at (name)'s house.”

I know, I know, spitting out 9 measly words to the woman who gave birth to you is SO MUCH more demanding than writing your autobiography on an Internet forum, so feel free to take some artistic liberties with this one. I’m sure it will work wonders with getting your mommy off your back.

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[quote]conner wrote:
So you see life as one big challenge, but when you’re faced with an obstacle at home your first instinct is to cut and run? Good luck in the real world.

Your profile says you’re a student. I’m guessing you’re young.

You post a lot about chicks. I’m guessing you’re horny.

My advice is masturbation and growing up. Keep the former to yourself, come back when you’ve accomplished the latter. No one cares about your teenage angst.

Your mom asks you about your day; she doesn’t nag you as to whether or not she can stick your left nut in a vice until bedtime.

I took the liberty of reading a few of your past posts, and what I’ve determined is you sound like a child. You wonder if girls are testing you, posting guides on how to be a Player, you refer to yourself as a ‘tit man’ and, in case there’s any doubt as to #3, you say you can’t wait to date chicks. It’s no wonder your Mom has no idea what you’re up to. I wouldn’t tell her, myself.

Well, I can help you out with that. Since you’re such a freaking baby, I’ll give you a little something you can use to bond with your mom. From what I understand, all people with your mental maturity love these:

Ready?

“Hey, (synonym of Mom), I was just (verb) at (name)'s house.”

I know, I know, spitting out 9 measly words to the woman who gave birth to you is SO MUCH more demanding than writing your autobiography on an Internet forum, so free to take some artistic liberties with this one. I’m sure it will work wonders with getting your mommy off your back.[/quote]

Best. Post.

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[quote]Professor X wrote:
conner wrote:
So you see life as one big challenge, but when you’re faced with an obstacle at home your first instinct is to cut and run? Good luck in the real world.

Your profile says you’re a student. I’m guessing you’re young.

You post a lot about chicks. I’m guessing you’re horny.

My advice is masturbation and growing up. Keep the former to yourself, come back when you’ve accomplished the latter. No one cares about your teenage angst.

Your mom asks you about your day; she doesn’t nag you as to whether or not she can stick your left nut in a vice until bedtime.

I took the liberty of reading a few of your past posts, and what I’ve determined is you sound like a child. You wonder if girls are testing you, posting guides on how to be a Player, you refer to yourself as a ‘tit man’ and, in case there’s any doubt as to #3, you say you can’t wait to date chicks. It’s no wonder your Mom has no idea what you’re up to. I wouldn’t tell her, myself.

Well, I can help you out with that. Since you’re such a freaking baby, I’ll give you a little something you can use to bond with your mom. From what I understand, all people with your mental maturity love these:

Ready?

“Hey, (synonym of Mom), I was just (verb) at (name)'s house.”

I know, I know, spitting out 9 measly words to the woman who gave birth to you is SO MUCH more demanding than writing your autobiography on an Internet forum, so free to take some artistic liberties with this one. I’m sure it will work wonders with getting your mommy off your back.

Best. Post.[/quote]

Damn I agree with the professor

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[quote]sasquatch wrote:

Why am I not surprised?
[/quote]

Shaddap already.

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[quote]chinadoll wrote:
sasquatch wrote:

Why am I not surprised?

Shaddap already.
[/quote]

Is that the kind, positive, trustworthy person of integrity you claim to be?

Or the manipulative, conniving, bitchy underhanded person you loathe?

How’s your good looking boyfriend?

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[quote]sasquatch wrote:
chinadoll wrote:
sasquatch wrote:

Why am I not surprised?

Shaddap already.

Is that the kind, positive, trustworthy person of integrity you claim to be?

Or the manipulative, conniving, bitchy underhanded person you loathe?

How’s your good looking boyfriend?[/quote]

Sasquatch~
If you want to follow my posts and personally attack me, please PM me. I really don’t know what your problem with me is, I’ve tried to ignore you and not stoop to your level but eventually people fight back. All I can think of is you have inferiority issues. But if you want to keep personally attacking me, please PM me.
Thanks.

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[quote]chinadoll wrote:
sasquatch wrote:
chinadoll wrote:
sasquatch wrote:

Why am I not surprised?

Shaddap already.

Is that the kind, positive, trustworthy person of integrity you claim to be?

Or the manipulative, conniving, bitchy underhanded person you loathe?

How’s your good looking boyfriend?

Sasquatch~
If you want to follow my posts and personally attack me, please PM me. I really don’t know what your problem with me is, I’ve tried to ignore you and not stoop to your level but eventually people fight back. All I can think of is you have inferiority issues. But if you want to keep personally attacking me, please PM me.
Thanks.
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LOL. My inferiority issues. Why don’t you saddle up to Fool and come back with something a little better than that. Your post was all about you instead of answering the OP. I merely said that didn’t surprise me.

Check your PM’s

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Hmm, yeah, I’m not sure an enquiring mother qualifies as a toxic person. If you are being a horny little douchebag as another suggests, then your mother might be right to try to get you to hang out with people that have a chance at a future, instead of what she sees as dead end friends.

I’m not saying she’s right, or that you should pick your friends based on another’s opinion, but take a real long hard look at yourself before you decide it is just a toxic mom. Mom’s put up with so much shit, put their lives on hold and basically put their children first for decades. You may want to cut her a tiny amount of slack for trying to be responsible for your upbringing.

There are toxic people, those with perpetual negativity or like China says, complete lack of trustworthiness, who will do nothing but throw troubles in your path and suck the energy out of you.

If you have found one of them, or they happen to be in your family, then minimize their impact on you. By all means, move out, find supportive people, but don’t think that having a different opinion about what’s good for you is toxic. Thinking an education is important, when available, instead of a sports career, is very common.

Find a way to do both, maybe.

Yeah, okay, if you struggled through this winding post, you are doing good. Summary, don’t decide someone is toxic because you have differing opinions about what is good for you.

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[quote]sasquatch wrote:
LOL. My inferiority issues. Why don’t you saddle up to Fool and come back with something a little better than that. Your post was all about you instead of answering the OP. I merely said that didn’t surprise me.

Check your PM’s[/quote]

Stay on topic.

Hijacking every thread here by trying to pick fights with members over and over again is selfish. Don’t hijack, Sasquatch.

I’ve checked my PM’s, nothing there. But I’m sure they’ve proven just how rough and tough you are. Ohh…I’m so scared! (Not!) But if it makes you feel like a bigger person, have at it.

Wow, you’re a tough guy. Eeeek! I’m shaking in my shoes. (feel better now?)

Again, don’t hijack. You have problems with members’ sharing their experiences then pm rather than hijacking entire threads.

Done playing into the hijack.

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[quote]chinadoll wrote:
sasquatch wrote:
LOL. My inferiority issues. Why don’t you saddle up to Fool and come back with something a little better than that. Your post was all about you instead of answering the OP. I merely said that didn’t surprise me.

Check your PM’s

Stay on topic.

Hijacking every thread here by trying to pick fights with members over and over again is selfish. Don’t hijack, Sasquatch.

I’ve checked my PM’s, nothing there. But I’m sure they’ve proven just how rough and tough you are. Ohh…I’m so scared! (Not!) But if it makes you feel like a bigger person, have at it.

Wow, you’re a tough guy. Eeeek! I’m shaking in my shoes. (feel better now?)

Again, don’t hijack. You have problems with members’ sharing their experiences then pm rather than hijacking entire threads.

Done playing into the hijack.
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You haven’t read my pm, but assume what’s on it? Then you freak out.

I made a one line statement and then addressed the OP. The rest of this crap is merely responding to you.

So-my advice to you is to take your own advice. That would be to stop pissing and moaning when someone disagrees with you.

Your response is interesting though. You wouldn’t be trying to get another Fool to try and stand up for you? Get him to attack me? I’ve made no threatening remarks to you at all. Funny how each of your responses to me is elevating the level of discourse here. Yet you try to blame me.

Enjoy your evening.