Funny I have thought the same of your posts. There have been a few that I rolf for a while. Peace man.
I’m totally with you, stella…if my wife called me “The Wife” I’d be freakin’ pissed…
Oh, I misunderstood your post, though actually it was clear enough. It isn’t your husband that says this.
You’re worried about what other people
are doing!
I think you must have a very pleasant and cozy life if you have time to worry about such trivial little shit.
I don’t think me aversion to hearing other people refered to as “the wife” is any different than someone else’s aversion to looking at perfect strangers in spandex. I simply was expressing my pet peeve. I was under the assumption that that is allowed on these boards.
Yes, Stella, people do cite pet peeves on this site. However, you should not be surprised that your pet peeve is generally discredited, given that the site is titled “TESTOSTERONE,” not “ESTROGEN.”
You should rage over being called “Mrs”_____ then. The root of “Mrs.” = “Mister’s”
Actually, Mrs. is a contraction of “mistress.”
I call my wife the woman sometimes. It’s a joke thing we started a long time ago to make fun of Neanderthals that use terms like that without even thinking about it. One thing she won’t be called is “the old lady”. That always sounded like guys were talking about their mothers anyway…
I don’t like it, and don’t expect to ever be referred to as such. I find it disrespectful. I would never refer to the man I choose to spend the rest of my life with as ‘the husband’ or ‘the old man’. I will be proud to be associated with him, and proud to call him ‘my husband’ I would hope he feels the same way about me.
guys are innately animalistic go figure
Aha–so it appears that I’m not the only one that doesn’t like this term. Glad to hear it. SteelyEyes: I think your neanderthal joke with your wife is funny! Joking around this way in the confines of a relationship is funny and respectful. Michelle: it is the “my” that I’ve been getting after, but I bet that some people may jump on the possessiveness of the word. It is precisely this that I think is more respectful as well–to introduce someone, or even just refer to them, by name or as “my wife” or “my husband”. And you know what? I don’t think I have ever heard a woman refer to her spouse as “THE husband”. So then is “the wife” another aspect of the “I am man–hear me roar” syndrome? Maybe.
Get a life. This is a good example of why men think of THE GALS as airheads. The freakin world is blowin up and your worried about shit like this!
Stella I think you have too much time on you hands. There are better things in life to “bother” you. Your husband doesn’t refer to you as “the wife” so it should not concern you what someone else calls their significant other. In other words people should mind their own business! If it bothers you when someone uses it too bad we do have freedom of speech in this country! I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill. I don’t refer to my wife as "the wife’ but if someone else does I really don’t care, that is their business not mine OR yours.