It’s good that you edited your post where you vented! One thing to learn in living in a society- vent privately and where it leaves no permanent record! Be very mindful of what you are leaving a record of.
In all seriousness, I understand that attempting to lead and organize people can quickly get aggravating, but that’s why being in a leadership position is amazingly difficult. It’s one that you have to grow and develop into. Shouting at people is not leadership- getting people to do what you want while being ok with it is good leadership.
I asked those questions because they are probably what serious students who are looking to actually excel at their college education will be asking themselves when they look to join an academic group. If your group has no tangible, whether real or perceived, benefit to join then people won’t join.
Remember what T3hPwnisher and I wrote to you earlier. Focus on those who come and don’t worry about those who don’t. You cannot lead those who don’t care. And if people in the student org feel that you’re doing a good job then it is likely that more people will come just out of word of mouth.
I know nothing about your major and your college, so I can only give general suggestions and thoughts.
Most student orgs don’t mean much on a resume. At worst they literally look like something the applicant wrote on their resume to fill it up with words because they got nothing better to write, especially if they’re not looking for their entry-level job. Getting a 4.0 GPA and graduating with honors matters a lot more than saying you were in a student org linked to your major. In fact, for someone who is fresh out of college, I feel that is about the only important thing. Priority #1 is grades. Priority #3 is internships and work experience. I deliberately skipped #2 because, afaik, it does not exist. If you got a 3.0 GPA and a bunch of internships then you will probably get skipped over by the person who has a 4.0 GPA… because of computer algorithms that toss your resume into the trash bin.
This is dependent on your major though- in some majors and fields you are expected to have something you actually created/developed. My brother was an Industrial Engineering major and he was expected to have actually done some IE work, either through work internship or by working with professors at his college. In those cases you need a 4.0GPA and the expected work experience.
Point being- internships and extracurricular activities tend to be icing on the cake. Companies don’t care about the icing if the cake sucks.
Typically student orgs are a great way to socialize among the people who are in your major, AKA networking. Networking generally is very important. I cannot imagine a single job where networking is not useful in some fashion.
Typically student orgs are a great way for people to learn more about their major/field of study and actually see what career paths exist with that major. A lot of people sleepwalk their way through college and don’t really know what their major is, so it’s good to have resources that help them figure this out. It’s important to think broadly about your career. I feel the worst thing young people can do is limit their thinking in why they’re at college. In a truly great college your student advisors and professors should be able to help you with this. Perhaps consider finding ways to create an easy path between them and the people in your major?
Typically student orgs are a great way to create some sort of link between the real world and your major. I agree that internships will be frowned upon by companies. As you mentioned, most companies are not looking for interns- they are looking for disposable assets who can help them get something done, and they most certainly do not care about the wellbeing of the intern. I agree that shadowing seems a better option, especially if it has no impact on the company. And shadowing is useful to the student if they’re paying attention.
Best of luck. I suggest that you try not to lose your head over this and DW. Your grades matter more!