I agree with this
Unless you have David Goggins level of motivational powers then people will never listen
Concentrate on you and hopefully they follow suit.
You can take a horse to the water and all that
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I feel like this is the worst advice ever and will surely backfire. I feel like it implies you aren’t happy with him now and will just make him seek happiness in food even more.
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Disagree with this part strongly, but i genuinely agree with the second part.
really? why?
something simple like putting only 1/2 the oil in a stir fry or switching regular pancake mix for a protein pancake mix or using plain greek yoghurt instead of sour cream don’t affect flavour very much but could end up making a difference
Lazy parents used to (and probably still do) hide veggies in petulant kids’ foods as a means of tricking them into eating it.
I think i may have taken your wording the wrong way and implied incorrect context to it. I choose to make every recipe healthy when i can, as long as i know it’s still going to taste good… i don’t see anything wrong with this, as long as it’s not being done in a sneaky way.
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ahh okay. I get it.
I was just trying to avoid the nocebo effect. There’s been times where just saying something is a “healthier” version makes my family resistant to trying something, when, after just making it, they enjoy it.
There’s also some weird psychology where believing you’re eating something “lighter” makes it easier to justify overconsumption or even feel less satiating, but I’m not so convinced of that
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We’re fairly split with who gets groceries - normally whoever gets off work earlier hah. And we check to see what each other would like to add to the list if we’re going to the store - so I get what you’re saying, but might be difficult to implement for us personally.
He’ll run. We’re doing a running program together that we started a week ago. I’m not certain he likes running, but I know he looks to it as his go-to method to lose weight (plus we’re both military, so we have to run for our PT test). Part of this came up because he was talking about how frustrated he was that he was running more but still not losing weight. As many others have pointed out - you can’t out-run a poor diet.
100% agreed, I don’t want to induce scorn or shame at all.
True. I think my frustration is that I’ve been eating fairly healthy (with periods where I’m slightly lazier and periods where I’m neurotic about tracking) and exercising (again, some ebbs and flows, last two years out here I’ve had trouble getting into a really solid workout rhythm) over the last decade we’ve known each other, so at this point I get the sense that I’m not going to magically inspire him through my actions - which is fine, he’s his own person with his own motivations. He’ll even have detailed conversations with me about macros etc when I’m discussing my diet and help me when I’m trying to figure out what to eat.
Overall, I think I’m just going to try to shift the conversation more towards action than talking (I do love talking things to death hah), but only if he brings it up. So, if he brings up being frustrated about weight, maybe, “Ok, what’s one thing we can do to help you address that?” And let him take lead and just support him vs me launching into a fitness monologue.
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If you’re able to sell him on the “75 Strong Challenge”, something tells me this situation will resolve itself.
It’s a hell of a challenge, but he’s enlisted… he didn’t join because it’d be easy.
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I’ll definitely bring it up to him next time he mentions being dissatisfied, thanks for the tip!
Yes, part of the issue we’ve been having out here is that our current billets are pretty demanding/draining (mentally far moreso than physically); for the first two years, he was home early if he was home by 1900. So I think we were both having issues summoning the mental energy to do anything additional. I’ll see if it’s something he’s interested in though.
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You two must have been in nearly 15 years now, right?
I imagine you’re not Staff NCO if not officers… do you guys not have time to stretch your lunch breaks? We used to call it “Gunny Time”, which I’m sure often consisted of naps and netflix - but occasionally the gym as well.
Anyways, I’ll stop spamming up your thread in case anyone else wants to chime in.
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We’re both Majors, I’m coming up on 13 years and he’s around 17 years in (four years older than me).
Hah, Gunny Time is a thing, but we’re also currently both XOs, so while nobody’s going to look at us sideways if we leave to go PT during the day, the catch is that it can be hard to do that from a perspective of feeling like you constantly need to be in the office getting things done (volume of work/expectations). So is it possible? Absolutely. The trap we often fall into can be thinking, “Well, let me just get this task done first . . .oh look, a new email . . .wait, so-and-so did what? Well, that’s going to require a report . . .” etc.
That being said, right now lunch is when we’ve agreed to get our running workouts in together, and I do think we should be fairly successful getting after that. Both of our work tempos have slowed down somewhat in the past few months so I think it’s a good opportunity to start building that habit back in and break the habit of just slogging through work all day (the work will always be there, after all).
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@mnben87 care to expand on this for all on this thread please?
great thread all.
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Just stuff like hiking. Sometimes we go roller skating. Lots of vacations are to national or state parks. Today we snowshowed around a few lakes right by us. Here’s a picture from the snowshoeing.
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I don’t know what number it got up to but add 1 to that. I have my cereal with Greek yogurt, peanut butter and honey. Yum
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