I think that says a lot about the loneliness epidemic.
Like, itās cool you can do this, but itās sad to see that theres such a demand that it pays.
Renting a personā¦isnāt that prostitution???
Asking for a friend
Service animals might seem to perform a similar function for many.
Covid had a weird effect on people, who were already socializing far less, perhaps in part due to digital addictions. Even very social people cut way back on the time they spent with friends.
This reminds me, I need to vacuum.
Reference:
Harris, E. A., Gormezano, A., & van Anders, S. M. (2022). Gender inequities in household labour predict lower sexual desire in women partnered with men. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 51(8), 3797ā3812.
You gonna tell me this study didnt start with a conclusion and work backwards to find proof?
God forbid women be wives.
Rage baiting isnāt just fun for humans, turns out.
If I run that through my translator it goes
Dog with paw: āBro, come on broā.
Dog with teeth: āNot your bro!ā.
Repeat 3x.
Some dudes and chicks just donāt want to be bros.
I could see that being the dialogue. There was clearly a funner dog in that scenario. Love how he pranced away all happy with himself.
He did his part. The invitation was sent. It just wasnāt well recieved.
āSOMEONE is not a good boy, but itās not me!ā
Hahaha thatās totally what heās saying!
I hate when adults behave like childs in relationships.
Itās okay to have some agreed responsibilities, and I think that more often than not it is a communication issue.
But Iāve seen enough man-childs (or women childs) in my life to know thatās the case too at times.
Hereās a cool āpsychology thing.ā Itās called transactional analysis, and briefly, it represents what ego state each partner is in during any given transaction. Ideally in a marriage we spend most of our time in adult > adult, but itās healthy to move up and down the scale. An example would be Iām sick on the couch and my husband comes and adjusts the blanket on me, then offers me a drink. Now Iām vulnerable child and heās nurturing adult. When weāre scratching our heads over the difficulty that is obtaining clear info about when people are going to be at our house, hungry, we are parent > parent and joking about never hosting anything again ever. When weāre giggling in the middle of the night or blowing off grocery shopping for the third time this weekend, weāre child > child. Occasionally one or the other of us is the problematic child to the otherās parent, which as an occasional thing is charming/funny. The problem comes when the transactions happen too often in a way that is uncomfortable for one or the other partner. When she keeps having to be the parent to his child around housekeeping, for instance. Which does kill the sexy pretty quickly. Or when he is the buzzkill scolding parent to her parties-too-much child. Itās a really helpful way to think about it. Ideally we each find someone we can be children with, someone we can be scolding Karens with, and someone we can relate to as equals, along with having someone who can step into a parent role when we need to be a child for a minute.
Thatās very cool. Thanks!
Good post and good points!
What you described is definitely a part of healthy relationship, when it works. If changing ārolesā comes naturally for both, it tells something about trust betweethe two.
Snippet from an article I came across:
Psychopaths Move Their Heads Less
Researchers set out to quantify the body language of inmates with psychopathic traits. They used automated tracking algorithms to measure the head movements of 507 incarcerated men while they participated in videotaped conversations. The interviews, which ranged from one to four hours long, were used to score each inmateās level of psychopathy using a standard diagnostic tool.
The digital camera was focused only on the inmate, who was seated and facing forward. A machine learning program then analyzed the footage to measure how much and how often each personās head moved, providing a set of objective data on their nonverbal behavior during the interview.
The study found a strong connection between psychopathic traits and reduced head movement. Inmates who scored higher on psychopathy tests tended to keep their heads more stationary during their conversations, creating the effect of a rigid and focused āstare.ā
This stillness was primarily linked to the antisocial elements of psychopathy, meaning that individuals with a long history of diverse and persistent antisocial behavior were the most likely to exhibit fixed head positions. The researchers suggest that this is a first step, and more work is needed to see if these findings apply to other groups, like women or adolescents.
Not sure where to put this, but here it is. @BrickHead.
Thanks. I read the article. I have Brad Wilcoxās book and saw him on the Chris Williamson show. I think heās a good guy. His messages and book are good, but he leaves out analysis of the divorce regime and the sexual market.
