I keep remembering things I’ve said or done in the past that were stupid and thinking how dumb I was. Some things are little but almost all of it doesn’t matter anymore. Stuff from many years ago, things from my childhood, things from the recent past. What’s the best way to get over this?
Do as much crazy psychotic and dumb shit as you possibly can today so that in comparison the things you did in the past are nothing!
Problem solved! Next question…
I do the same thing. Sometimes the shame and embarrassment feels like physical pain. I just chalk it up to learning. Won’t make that mistake again. We are young you and I, supposed to fuck up. I get a little smoother with every passing year.
summary: Its good for you. learn from those cringe moments.
Heres a good rule to prevent some of those moments in my experience:
RULE 1. VOICES CARRY. DON’T TALK SHIT ABOUT PEOPLE IF THERE IS ANY CHANCE THEY CAN HEAR YOU
thats my new rule borne of hard learning.
If anyone wiser has any other rules they live by to avoid awkwardness and embarrassment I’d sure like to read em.
It’s called being a human being.
Just that you recognize your past errors means that you have learned, use that to build a better future.
Time heals my friend. As long as it doesn’t bother you to the point where everyday life is a struggle, don’t sweat it. Like everyone said, chalk it up as a learning experience and don’t make the same mistakes over and over.
I went on a trip today and heard a Holocaust survivor speak. Think about what she has to remember for the rest of her life. I truly applaud her and I almost shed a tear listening to her story. Makes me think about my life and to remind myself to stop bitching about every little thing that pops up and just face it like a man.
this is funny actually, I was thinking the same thing today. Memories that come back to me that are totally stupid and in most cases totally insignificant. Annoying!
This probably means you have too much free time. The mind wanders when its not engaged…if you have something you wish you could fix, it goes there first. Try to recreate those situations and own them this time around.
ex.
At a club you meet a girl and she’s into you but you’re wasted and puke in front of her and she storms away
fix?
go out and get “tipsy” and talk to a girl and get her
the success should replace the fail and when your mind wanders instead of going to you puking it goes to you getting a blowjob in the parking lot.
This happens to me too. I thought I might be schizophrenic, so I’m glad I’m not the only one.
It usually has to deal with mistakes I’ve made with women, or at least those are the ones that torment me the most.
It goes like this…
Unconscious: Remember that girl.
Conscious: Yeah, why are you making me think about her.
Unconscious: Because she wanted to bang and you screwed it up dumbass.
Conscious: butt puckering feeling of regret
Its kinda like the evolution of being a kid and you threw a baseball through the window or something and you just wish you could go back in time.
Its called regret.
Listen to old Life of Agony albums. It might make you feel better, it could make you feel worse.
Thinking about past fuck ups actually makes me happy. I think about what a dumb ass I was, and how my life is so much better now. Just waking up, going to work, and going to the gym everyday puts a smile on my face. The funny thing is, the happier I am, the better I do in life. It’s like that book, The Secret. I don’t know if I buy all that asking the universe and shit, but having a positive outlook can do wonders.
One time my mom gave me and my (then) girlfriend $50 to go to a nice dinner for our 1 year anniversary. We hit up Mcdonald’s and spent the rest on booze. I still feel bad about it.
Whew! That feels good!
Who’s next?
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
One time my mom gave me and my (then) girlfriend $50 to go to a nice dinner for our 1 year anniversary. We hit up Mcdonald’s and spent the rest on booze. I still feel bad about it.
Whew! That feels good!
Who’s next?[/quote]
LOL
You can only move forward from where youre standing now. Fuck the past, better youreself and move on.
this is perfect foul bachelor frog material. moar.
In the words of the legendary Sam Elliot from Roadhouse- “Cut it the fuck loose.”
That’s a saying that can apply to many, many aspects of life, including most of the threads in the Sex and the Male Animal forum.
Consider it shit you got away with. Phew.
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
One time my mom gave me and my (then) girlfriend $50 to go to a nice dinner for our 1 year anniversary. We hit up Mcdonald’s and spent the rest on booze. I still feel bad about it.
Whew! That feels good!
Who’s next?[/quote]
while trying to hook up with this chick, I was listening to her complain to earn some points. She was bitching about how her ex used to say she looked better in jeans. I went on and on about how he was a douche, blah blah blah.
Then she took off her pants and turned around.
He was right.
I always felt guilty for talking so much shit about dude and then agreeing with him
I’ve hooked up with a ton of chicks that were cheating on their boyfriends. Some of them weren’t even slutty girls either.
If I worried about every stupid mistake I’d ever made, I’d go insane.
Eliminate failure by learning from it.
One thing that started bugging me again the other day. Last October I wanted to play the lottery so I picked my numbers but before going to get the ticket I decided one of the numbers couldn’t possibly come up since it was a single digit number so I changed it. So after the drawing I looked at my ticket, oh cool I got three numbers plus the mega ball. Sweet 150 bucks isn’t a ton but it isn’t nothing then I notice that the number I got rid up came up too so if I wasn’t a idiot I would’ve walked away with 10 grand.