Speaking for yourself?
You could look at statistics on the subject; educated women are less likely to stay married and have less children.
A potential cause is the belief that things like education and work successes are more important than child rearing.
While this may be true for some individuals - more women are attending college than ever before, and they absolutely dominate men in college participation… so whose gonna have the children if they aren’t?
And who taught them that?
My first thought is a miserable woman in an unhappy marriage
In part, parents. But society as a whole, particularly feminist ideology that is deeply embedded in almost every institution from social media to movies to education.
I think you might be surprised how many successful boomer parents urge their daughters to be hard-driven careerists, which, amongst other things, makes it harder for men to get women and women to have babies.
Ask a woman what she thinks about that when she has a child with that boyfriend. Then she’ll want a man who acts like a father and treats her like a wife.
You’re misunderstanding the quote, or maybe taking it too literally.
In my experience shared goals and responsibilities strengthen the relationship, and parenting is probably the strongest bonding activity. The wining/dining/fun stuff becomes routine after a while, and doesn’t really have any deep meaning. Still important in the mix but very entry level.
You really don’t need that much money to raise children.
Some of the shittiest people I’ve ever met had extremely wealthy parents, and the kids never had to work for anything a day in their life, or learn how to treat people well. Just because you can provide your kids with things, does not mean they will become good people.
How parents conduct themselves and how they raise their children to conduct themselves has a lot more to do with parenting than what they can afford or buy for a kid.
Hey, we agree!
While I generally wish there were less people in the world, it’s true - people (at least most Americans) should be generally more able to raise happy, healthy humans today than ever before.
But we’ve created a culture where people live for themselves and their own goals and desires take priority in their lives, sacrificing the time and ability to create strong families.
Few people would willingly give up what it takes to cure this though.
I’d want my kids to have generational wealth and a high socioeconomic status.
I wonder what kind of effect this is going to have on unmarried, single people later in life. It’s predicted that by 2030 45% of women will be single and childless, which means the same will go for many men.
Then build that for them.
I would add, give them the tools to build that themselves. Generational wealth, as the term implies, is built over generations. You don’t want your kids to just inherit wealth, but maintain and grow that wealth.
One of my HS classmates came from a VERY wealthy family. Her parents more or less neglected her because she is a daughter and not a son. They’d literally just buy her things to get her to shut up.
She did turn out to be a good person though, but was very obviously depressed.
You’ll find shitty parents and depressed kids across socioeconomic levels. You’ll find good scenarios too.
Money doesn’t make you a good parent or a happy person. It lets you buy things.
I would imagine there’s a point where it can buy happiness to the extent you have enough to keep worries over survival basics at bay but beyond that it gives you different logos on your car, not the keys to the secret meaning of life.
Google tells me that 70% of families lose the wealth by the time the kids have it, while 90% lose it by the time the grandkids get it.
If that’s even anywhere close to true, it’s why I’ve never considered building a family fortune to be a very important goal.
A local guy just died who built one of the largest hotel chains in the world. His children turned out okay - they at least built families and work good jobs, but his grandkids, who are my age, produced some teen pregnancies and teenage drinking problems. (So maybe his kids weren’t that great behind closed doors, if that’s how their kids turned out. I don’t know.) That’s been my experience - there’s no guarantee that what it took for one man to become rich will ever make it to his grandkids considering the difference in lifestyle they will have been given from birth. Having something to fight for, some type of struggle, keeps men’s teeth sharp. Being given it all from birth rarely breeds this.
I know I’m snipping from a larger quote here, but I’m curious if you have any thoughts on the “equity” dialogue circulating over the last few years?
Could kick their ass out of the house at 18 if need be and they’ll get the full experience.
Regardless I’m not raising broke ass kids, especially in nickel and dime America. The cost of raising a child (not including college) is utterly ridiculous.
With a hardcore cycle with tren I had no sex for over 6 months and GF is still here 
Curious, did your girlfriend also go without sex for 6 months?