[quote]therajraj wrote:
[quote]Cortes wrote:
And we all know what benign matronly society’s those based upon “reason” have turned out to be, don’t we?
Your little slantwise comment about personal feelings “looming large” for me is absolutely correct, but not in the way you mean it. I am experienced enough to understand that you cannot make decisions reliably without using BOTH scientific data AND personal feelings as means of discernment. This is true in all aspects of life.[/quote]
Yes I use both too. I am talking about believing something solely on personal experience even in the face of overwhelming or strong evidence to the contrary.
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Well luckily for me. I have plenty of evidence. I have personally known more than a few women, among whom were extremely close friends of mine. One of them was my own grandmother. They confided to me the unimaginable guilt, pain, sense of loss, regret and self-loathing they felt at their act. A pain many of them seemed to feel would never leave them. I can imagine if there are a few that I know, there are a lot more. A whole lot more.
On a related note, I have never once met anyone who spoke anything but roundly negatively of the experience. And I’ll bet there are some I know who’ve never let me know. There’s a reason for that, too, and it doesn’t match up with your study, either.
What are you trying to prove, exactly? That this does not occur? That we shouldn’t worry about it? That it isn’t a problem? Because if that’s what you are trying to show, one of us will indeed come away looking pretty foolish, and you won’t need a single scientific study to determine why.