Also the butch / femme combo goes both ways in the gay community. Typically gay dudes will partner up in ‘top’ and ‘bottom’ relationships. Seems to me the top is usually the butch one.[/quote]
More often than not, I’ve found that to be the opposite. Then again, there’s the whole world of versatile, but I don’t think y’all are ready for that discussion yet, lol.
Back to the OT, I can definitely see the validity in what the article says. Men are turned on a lot more by physical appearance, regardless of if it’s a guy or girl or both that does it for them, thus it follows that people that want attention from men would put more effort into being not fat (I didn’t want to say skinny, because I can’t stand guys without discernible muscle mass). As far as lesbians go, 95% of the ones I know are extremely athletic, not the lethargic androgynous masses previously described.[/quote]
your saying in your experience the butch one is usually the bottom? or that you just never know and it varies on a case by case basis?[/quote]
The butcher guys I’ve dated have tended to be more of the bottoms, the skinnier guys always wanted to top, but yeah, it really does depend on chemistry between the two.
[quote]Professor X wrote:
Dumb study…since it is a trend in the gay community to look fit to some degree even if they avoid weight lifting.
Many gay women seem to like the look of “androgyny” so they gain fat to look like a fat guy with a pot belly. I don’t know if this is their specific reason for wearing plaid and Doc Martins while having a gut as big as a construction workers, but it makes sense to me.[/quote]