your problem is ur from mass, and it sucks period. all boston people suck. no joke. get out of there asap. move to ny now.
Ive been there man. Things will get better if you make an effort. If not then where you live sucks. Come here to UGA in athens, ga. The girls here outnumber guys here 2:1 and im sure you would get all the ass you wanted with your attitude. I see fine girls all day. All damn day. Damnit I love this town.
Your social life will reconstruct itself the moment you work in the restaurant industry. Anywhere, every time.
You also get some interesting folks and late night outing opportunities because of the massive amount of meth and blow that stupid servers throw their money at. You don’t have to do that shit, obviously, but hanging around tweakers at and seeing what kind of weird shit they get into can be entertaining, especially when you work with them.
I will echo what sen says about getting older and it being easier to get chicks. it is a cruel joke from God, and I’m not a God-fearing man but this one really makes me wonder sometimes. I am 25, had to take time off from school to help my father with his business, and my university actually has a huge population (33K+) and the highest average undergraduate age of 27. But, it is a commuter school so no real ‘campus life.’
Still, plenty of chicks. Just make sure not to stack all your intro GE classes (intro to econ/psych/soci/poli sci) in one semester; those are your real sources for easy lays. You want to spread this out over the duration of your stay at JC.
I’m serious for once. That’s some Mt. Fucking Sinai wisdom for you.
[quote]Vicomte wrote:
LiveFromThe781 wrote:
thats my other problem, i dont have a legit excuse. im not saying im GQ cover material but im not an ugly dude and im the only person at my school who looks like they lift, at least from what ive seen and im there every monday and wednesday from 8 to 3:30 so i think i have a good idea.
i brought this up in another thread and basically a few girls ive talked to, just casually, have said that i look like a manwhore. i dont know why either. i do have a lot of shirts with half-naked (some fully naked) girls on them, but i was wearing this shirt (it says “peace”
in the upper left corner)
http://www.80spurple.com/catalog/images/1small/obey_otszpwolv1.jpg
a pair of basketball shorts and sandals (that can be seen in my profile pics if you reaaaaally wanna see em) and still this girl was like oh, you look like a manwhore. but idk maybe it was a compliment? because after she said well if you were like a nerdy dude or something id tell you.
i mean idk ive heard plenty of girls say things whether it be yelling out a window or saying something or even at school when i walk by.
and yea, wtf is with EVERY girl having a boyfriend these days? like its boggling my mind because its like anytime a girl in one of my classes has a story to tell it involves their boyfriend, most the time its a girl i wouldnt want to date anyway but even still in my mind its like im pulling up a list of names and running a red marker across it, like “ok so we still have…that foreign girl, no no the other foriegn girl, the one who sits behind me in History and has that thing near her lip. well at least theres still the janitor chick who is way too hot to be a janitor.”
Live, you present yourself like a man-whore. Ever since I saw you post the first time, I thought you seemed like a narcissistic player-type who thinks all the bitches want his shit. Even if this isn’t true, it’s how you come across, brother.
But I feel you on the ‘every girl has a boyfriend’ thing. Every girl I know worth dating or fucking has a boyfriend. Every girl I meet has a fucking boyfriend. And I’m not talking about getting shot down by the line, these girls really have fucking boyfriends.
Past summer I spent the better part of the night flirting with a fun, very attractive girl I met at a friend’s place. After about three or four hours of this, I felt I had it in the proverbial bag. I was almost disappointed in how easy is was. I was just waiting to get her alone before pulling the trigger when someone mentioned cops. Suddenly, and completely innocently, she says, “Oh, my boyfriend wants to be a cop.”
I think I just started at her in disbelief for a few moments.[/quote]
Three or four hours, fuck me. I get annoyed if it takes more than a half hour for that to come up in conversation.
Hey man, I’m in the exact same boat you are and it sucks. Hope you find a way off.
i was much like live when i was 21. same kind of job, working friday and saturday nights in a restaurant. i thought i knew it all, i asked for advice and then disagreed with what was given, i thought i was better than i was, quite frankly. once i got over all that shit, especially the idea i was too good for certain friends or “calibur” of woman, my life got a lot better.
or, keep telling yourself how handsome, outgoing, and awesome you are, remain “too good” for everyone else…and be alone.
in short, the problem is most likely YOU, not the environment. i know its hard to accept, is was for me, as well. but you’ll just disagree with everything i said, anyway. good luck in improving your life.
GO TO A BAR
Seriously man, strike up a random conversation with random people. They need not even be the people you reallllly want to talk to, but if people see you socializing, they will think youre social.
If alcohol makes you antisocial, dont drink a lot. A bar need not necessarily, be a place for drunkenness.
WHAT ARE YOUR INTERESTS?
Outside of girls and the gym, what are your interests?
I like to write and perform poetry, so I meet people at open mics and such.
I like to read. Ever met someone at a bookstore? Can be quite sexy.
In the end, it does require you to go up to girls and start conversations. Shouldnt expect (not saying you do) for people to come to you. Go to them. Its okay.
AT STORES?
I have talked to and “picked up” so many girls who work in stores as tellers and such. It sounds cliche but it happens.
IN THE END
you just have to put yourself out there man. I am sure you have interesting qualities. Get someones attention, and show them off.
[quote]MarvelGirl wrote:
ndiddy85 wrote:
I didn’t read this whole thread, but I thought I would chime in on the moving to Las Vegas part since I recently moved here. Vegas is defiantly not an easy place to live in, as far as meeting people. I moved here not knowing anyone and started working at a hospital thinking I would meet some people that way, WRONG. Everyone I work with, or see at work is like 40 with families, and of all of the people I have seen, there are like 3-4 decent looking ones. The strip is fun every once in a while, but you have to realize it is VERY expensive to do anything down there, as well as the majority of the people down there are out of towners, so no real chances for friendship. People love taking trips to Vegas with the intention of gambling and losing their inhibitions, but you have to realize it’s different when you live and work in a place like that, I go to the strip like once every 2 months.
People say Vegas is in the top ten for attractive singles,I would like to know where they get their info, these ladies must be hiding cause I dont see them, and Im talking grocery stores, the gym, everywhere. The only place you see them is the clubs or bars. May be its because a lot of the good looking women work at the casinos and they work crazy weird hours, I dont know.
Im not trying to discourage you from moving here you but take into account that it is a very come and go city, some of the people I work with said it took them 2-3 years before they developed a really core group of friends. Im defiantly on outgoing guy too, but Vegas is a tougher city to live than I originally expected.
That’s it exactly, but no one ever wants to believe it. lol
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yeah. it probaly is the truth. i did see Vegas from a pretty nice perspective. my aunt paid for our whole trip, we stayed at the Belagio had $70 Kobe at Polly’s. Plus even my aunt told me, once you leave the strip its nothing.
Look into trasnferring to Texas State in San Marcos, TX. Girls outnumber guys at least 2.5:1 and if you find that girl with teh extra .5…whoaa boy!
A river runs through the damn campus and it is only 25 miles from Austin…
Lots of nice girls there.
[quote]LiveFromThe781 wrote:
polo77j wrote:
yeah i dont live in Boston, i live in Malden, its filled with white trash junkies and foreigners although so is the Cape so im sure you can relate.
i never settle for mediocricy either, i have high expectations and i think thats what keeps me moving every day. i just have the mindset that if you allow yourself to give up once youll do it again and again.[/quote]
yea … the capes a joke when it’s not summer time … and you and I would get along … keep that attitude brutha
I am pretty much in the same situation. MA too. My plan is to go to a real college elsewhere, maybe Cali or FL, and get the hell out ASAP. This place is awful.
lol from what ive been reading from other people perhaps its just that MA sucks?
at least thats what the locals have been saying.
[quote]LiveFromThe781 wrote:
this shit sucks, all i do is go to school, work and go to the gym. i have no social life. i thought when i turned 21 things would change and id more options to go to the bars and clubs but shit hasnt changed at all. [/quote]
Holy crap, you’re 21? I’d always had you pegged at about 15, 16
[quote]actionjeff wrote:
I am pretty much in the same situation. MA too. My plan is to go to a real college elsewhere, maybe Cali or FL, and get the hell out ASAP. This place is awful. [/quote]
Just got back from an extended stay down south … Florida for a year and South Carolina, collectively, for 4 years … I’d go with Florida … it’s friggin’ sweet. Way cooler than MA … but you have to know how to deal with a majority of girls who a. are either way too laid back (loser) or b. think their shit smells sweeter than most (snobs)
Regardless, Florida was an awesome time … I lived near halfway between Pensacola and Panama City and it was honestly the nicest beach I’ve ever seen … so … there ya go.
I’m in a situation where I’ve been partying my ass off and there aren’t really any girls here I want to date. Fuck? yes. Date? no.
However me partying so much is a turn off, I’ve been told.
Oh well I’m young, fuck relationships.
[quote]zephead4747 wrote:
I’m in a situation where I’ve been partying my ass off and there aren’t really any girls here I want to date. Fuck? yes. Date? no.
However me partying so much is a turn off, I’ve been told.
Oh well I’m young, fuck relationships.[/quote]
werent you in this same perdiciment recently?
or have a fuck relationship
[quote]LiveFromThe781 wrote:
i just feel like i need to find some new people to hang out with …[/quote]
Have you tried deleting your T-Nation account?
just get out and talk. use some pickup lines, there are plenty out there…