[quote]doogie wrote:
I’m going through a divorce and I have a step daughter. I want to kick you in the balls so hard for even asking this question, but I’m going to believe this was just a troll job.[/quote]
how old is she and what are you going to do about her
[quote]doogie wrote:
I’m going through a divorce and I have a step daughter. I want to kick you in the balls so hard for even asking this question, but I’m going to believe this was just a troll job.[/quote]
agree 100% if even if its for real and you can ask this question your a tool!
^also sucks your going through a divorce, I told my wife that I we ever go through divorce that we will never punish are son for what we do
[quote]Chushin wrote:
Are you kidding?[/quote]
No. IT AIN’T MINE.
In today’s world, step parents are in more demand than ever. You should not abandon her. She clearly looks up to you and your relationship will most likely grow as she gets older because she will know you made time fore her.
If she were younger, I could see how it would involve her mother more but as others have said, as she moves into adolescence she will need your advice and guidance.
I don’t see how your relationship with her could ever be considered “baggage” if you intend to remarry (if this thought crossed your mind). You were man enough to take on someone else’s child as your own. Continue to be that man for her and you will never regret it.
My two cents…
marry her when she becomes of age
/thread
[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:
marry her when she becomes of age
/thread[/quote]
Too much Dianabol.
[quote]Highjumper wrote:
be a man and see it through[/quote]
[quote]WN76 wrote:
You’re the only dad she knows, and she’s about to go into adolescence. She needs you.[/quote]
[quote]PaddyM wrote:
Do you love her? She’s already been abandoned by one man and she’s about to enter her teenage years? She needs you now more than ever.[/quote]
[quote]bdocksaints75 wrote:
Yeah stay in her life you’ll regret it of you don’t[/quote]
[quote]cstratton2 wrote:
You already know the answer to the question, stay in contact with her.
Don’t lose you’re soul. [/quote]
[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Man up and act like an adult, not some selfish asshole ducking his moral obligations.[/quote]
[quote]doogie wrote:
I’m going through a divorce and I have a step daughter. I want to kick you in the balls so hard for even asking this question, but I’m going to believe this was just a troll job.[/quote]
Yea - this.
3 posts and this is what you’re asking.
You’re a miserable fucking piece of shit - poor kid, if you’re the closest thing she has to a dad.
Fuck you.
[quote]himynameis wrote:
Would it be evil for me to abandon her?[/quote]
Yes ~
and
Selfish.
Stick it out. Also, when things get tough in those teen years keep in mind that she is going to try to push you away. Don’t fall for it, she will be testing you to see if you will abandon her.
It may be tough in the short term, but if you quit on her now you will probably regret it the rest of your life.
While the evidence suggests that her attachment process will have been altered by her earlier childhood experience of the loss of her biological father, early adolescence is an extremely vulnerable time. I find I try to teach my son (technically my stepson, but after I step took him to school and step read his bedtime story I step stopped thinking about that) by telling him things, but he’s watching what I do.
Most children will watch the same-gender parent for what to do and the opposite-gender parent for what to expect. If you abandon her (your word) now, that’s what you’re teaching her about the world: people can’t be trusted, and when they find you to be more trouble than you’re worth, they’ll just move on. While that’s an element of adult relationships it’s hardly the keynote.
Would it be evil to abandon her? Yes. You will feel guilty, and rightly so, because you will be guilty, and more important than your feelings, you will hurt her permanently. However, if you stand by your statement that ‘‘It’ ain’t mine,’ perhaps ‘abandoning’ her would be the lesser of two evils, compared to what you will accidentally teach her while you stay around.
[quote]Gettnitdone wrote:
[quote]Mr. Walkway wrote:
marry her when she becomes of age
/thread[/quote]
Too much Dianabol.[/quote]
Too little. He needs a 180% increase in his dosage.
Op, you should totally abandon your step daughter. Go call her, and tell you never loved her, and will never speak to her again. While you’re at it you should cut your testicles off with a rusted butter-knife, then cook them in the microwave.
Where’s all the misogyny?
[quote]himynameis wrote:
[quote]Chushin wrote:
Are you kidding?[/quote]
No. IT AIN’T MINE.[/quote]
“It”?
I thought we were talking about a young girl in need of a father, not a lamp.
[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Don’t want to deal with the problems of a teenager who’s been through two divorces? Can’t blame you there. But guess what? There’s things in life that we do because it’s the RIGHT thing to do. Having a positive male role model in a teenage girl’s world will make a HUGE difference in the way she develops, learns to trust men, etc… You obviously won’t be there full time, but you should definitely make SOME time for a child who you’ve been a father figure for. Especially since you were in that role for eight years. That’s a significant amount of time. You can’t just “un-do” that…
Man up and act like an adult, not some selfish asshole ducking his moral obligations.[/quote]
I was going to say a bunch of stuff, but AC beat me to all of it.
You know what the right thing to do is. So do it.
I actually hope this is the troll job it feels like it is, because the alternative is that you really had to ask this question to get the answer you needed?
If this isn’t a troll job, I’m actually starting to think this girl will be better without this so called “father figure” in her life.
Seriously, she’ll have daddy issues but this guy is a piece of shit. And I don’t think she’ll benefit from having a “father figure” who considers her such a burden and constantly thinks about abandoning her. I mean, given this dynamic, is he really “there” for her anyway?
[quote]csulli wrote:
Where’s all the misogyny?[/quote]
I’m quietly accumulating it.
Once I have acquired 51% I’ll control all of the misogyny on T-Nation.
The only thing standing in my way now is that asshole orion…
I’d say leave her. Live life as a single dude or find another woman and start a real family with a daughter who is actually yours.