Going to the gym for a couple hours isn’t the same as not being in the same zip code for almost 24 hours every other Saturday(for softball).
We don’t know even how this ‘ultimatum’ was given? It could have been ‘I can’t move forward with getting married if you’re going to be gone every other weekend’
I agree that all of this should have been taken care of before the child was conceived.
[quote]csulli wrote:
[quote]gregron wrote:
…and then I would go on massive fast food/ice cream eating binges, turn into a 350+ pound monster[/quote]
Sounds like you should be doing this regardless. I mean only an idiot would look at a 350lb gregron and only see fat. Think of the gains you are sacrificing.[/quote]
I stick to miniature fast food and ice cream binges 
[quote]mbdix wrote:
A coupe of thoughts here.
@Brother you might want to look at getting a different therapist because reading the last few pages it seems obvious to me that you indeed have major mommy issues that would be a benefit for you to work through with a professional.
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Haha, no. I don’t have a therapist. I have already spent most of my money on surgeons, until I start working again I don’t think that is a possibility. And, I only bring up my mommy issues to prove a point (at least from what I see said here), and I don’t much think much about them as it never bothered me except when I was 13-14 years old.
[quote]mbdix wrote:
zip code for almost 24 hours every other Saturday(for softball).
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I think you need to up date that, because if I go eat breakfast this morning and walk across the street, I’ll be in another zip code.
[quote]jwrhoades1 wrote:
I should ask if I can go play a round of golf with the guys and see how that goes over.
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Pretty much exactly this. When you are married or have a kid with your partner this is always what you should do. You ask.
A few months ago I said to my wife something like “Hey ya know my shoulder has really improved over the last couple of years and I’m in the best shape I’ve been in in a long time. I think I could play baseball again and I’d like to see if I can get the boys interested in playing if they see me playing. Would you mind if I played again this summer?” My wife always says yes but the proper approach in a marriage is to ask, not just do. If she were to say no, either I’d just accept it or if it was important to me I’d try to make my case or maybe reach some kind of compromise. I wouldn’t make a fuss though if it was still no.
Now to try to catch back up with this thread…
Gregron, you look great!!
[quote]gregron wrote:
^^lookin big Cap[/quote]
Thanks man!
[quote]gregron wrote:
[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Here’s the thing. He played softball BEFORE he married her and had kids. She KNEW what she was getting into. Also, on his side, there were probably times where she showed she could be a controlling cunt. Dating the single mommy with issues cuz it was an easier piece of ass (first mistake). He knocked her up anyway (second mistake). He tried to do the “right thing” and married her (third mistake). So both of them are at fault to a degree. But for her to give an ultimatum is bullshit. Especially since she knew it was/is his passion. That’s not “wife material”. That’s called being an uber cunt. And uber cunts tend to drive men away. Hence, the other babies…
You can’t change people. You won’t make an uber cunt turn into a loving wife unless SHE has some kind of life changing epiphany. He is better off single and searching for his happiness, finding it and taking custody of his kid and raising it in a somewhat ‘normal’ family. The world is full of too many entitled uber cunts that ruin men, families and their kids because of their selfishness. It’s a shame we can’t stone them in the street.[/quote]
Totally agree.[/quote]
[quote]debraD wrote:
Gregron, you look great!![/quote]
speaking of looking great!!!
hey, Deb - (wowzers)
[quote]on edge wrote:
[quote]usmccds423 wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
but this ultimatum of softball or wife is the most completely ridiculous thing I’ve ever seen supported on a site supposedly filled with testosterone.
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Yup[/quote]
I agree. It’s totally irrational for her to kick him out because he’s gone all day every other saturday. Now he’s gone all the time because she kicked him out, how the hell does that make sense?
Never the less, he made a baby with her and a man needs to live up to his obligation to his family when a kid gets created.
Men put up with jobs they don’t like and bosses they don’t like when they need to support their family. Why? Because it’s the right thing to do. So why shouldn’t a man accept that he made a baby with a control freak and make the best out of the situation? That’s the right thing to do by his kid. Especially if we take him at his word that there isn’t really anything else wrong with the relationship.
This might be a good time to mention that when I hear “dinner out with the girls” and “playing tennis” I’m tempted to start making Key Logger recommendations.[/quote]
I don’t think any rational woman would kick their bf, husband, or baby’s daddy to the curb over a hobby that takes up 2 days out of every 30 (or 4 whatever it is). You don’t think that’s a little nuts?
I don’t understand your argument. Once you’re a dad you have to completely abandon things you enjoy, if, the mother (or father) is a total douche/cunt about it? I agree you have to take responsibility for your child, 100%. I think you can do that and play softball, or whatever, for 10 hours a month.
Agree that we are likely only getting half the actual story.
[quote]jwrhoades1 wrote:
[quote]gregron wrote:
[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Here’s the thing. He played softball BEFORE he married her and had kids. She KNEW what she was getting into. Also, on his side, there were probably times where she showed she could be a controlling cunt. Dating the single mommy with issues cuz it was an easier piece of ass (first mistake). He knocked her up anyway (second mistake). He tried to do the “right thing” and married her (third mistake). So both of them are at fault to a degree. But for her to give an ultimatum is bullshit. Especially since she knew it was/is his passion. That’s not “wife material”. That’s called being an uber cunt. And uber cunts tend to drive men away. Hence, the other babies…
You can’t change people. You won’t make an uber cunt turn into a loving wife unless SHE has some kind of life changing epiphany. He is better off single and searching for his happiness, finding it and taking custody of his kid and raising it in a somewhat ‘normal’ family. The world is full of too many entitled uber cunts that ruin men, families and their kids because of their selfishness. It’s a shame we can’t stone them in the street.[/quote]
Totally agree.[/quote]
It’s not what she’s asking for now, it’s what’s next. What’s it about? Control. Based on your story, she want’s to control you. You give in on something you have compromised on already, you’re going to be giving in all the time.
She was willing to bag the relationship, even though you share a child because she wanted to control you over something petty. That’s traditionally a bad sign.
You have a child, do what’s right by the child, you have to do that. But you do not have to live your life in misery as somebody’s puppet.
If you are already out and she laid on you a bunch of conditions, sounds to me like gettin’ while the gettin’s good.
All women have vagina’s, so don’t worry you won’t be losing anything.
I could see all the conditions if you had wronged her in a major way, but this just looks like red flags.
You do what you want. You know all the stuff we don’t, but it’s a much bigger deal to demand you give up softball, than you give up softball. Conditions and demands to me look like a skull and cross bones, it’s poison.
I have seen similar things before, the person who bails looks happier then the person who relents.
Be the best dad you can be, that’s the only obligation you have. Get it all legal like and quit dating psycho’s.
A lot of people have said I am only telling part of the story. What questions would you all like for me to answer? What other information do you need?
[quote]jwrhoades1 wrote:
A lot of people have said I am only telling part of the story. What questions would you all like for me to answer? What other information do you need?[/quote]
How much are you having to pay to enter these tournaments? Other than time is there any other reason, even a little one, that would cause her to hate this so much?
[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
[quote]jwrhoades1 wrote:
A lot of people have said I am only telling part of the story. What questions would you all like for me to answer? What other information do you need?[/quote]
How much are you having to pay to enter these tournaments? Other than time is there any other reason, even a little one, that would cause her to hate this so much?[/quote]
Yea like are you banging the cheerleaders?
Spending money at the strip clubs?
20 to 30 dollars is the entry fee. Absolutely no cheating of any kind ever and no strip clubs either.
How long has this tournament play been an issue? Ever since the second season of every other week, before she got pregnant?
Did you ever tell her you would be quitting tournament play?
How did it become an ‘ultimatum’?
[quote]jwrhoades1 wrote:
A lot of people have said I am only telling part of the story. What questions would you all like for me to answer? What other information do you need?[/quote]
Is she the control freak we suspect or is it something else like fear of abandonment which she might know isn’t rational but can’t help or maybe she’s overwhelmed by having the kids the entire day and it makes her miserable? I know when each of my kids was under 2, being left with them was torture for me. Unless of course they were asleep.
I still think you should give up softball even if she is just being a control freak but it would be nice to know if its for a better reason.
[quote]on edge wrote:
I still think you should give up softball even if she is just being a control freak but it would be nice to know if its for a better reason.[/quote]
“It’s just a small piece of land, and theyre mostly Germans anyways. No big deal”
Neville Chamberlain.
[quote]Aggv wrote:
[quote]on edge wrote:
I still think you should give up softball even if she is just being a control freak but it would be nice to know if its for a better reason.[/quote]
“It’s just a small piece of land, and theyre mostly Germans anyways. No big deal”
Neville Chamberlain. [/quote]
I get it. I still think it’s better to keep an intact home for the kids.
Hey JW, what’s home life like not counting all this bullshit over softball vs staying home? Are their other control issues? Do still you love her? Is it a healthy environment for the kids?
Would you rather raise your kid and her kids or have some dude move in and raise them instead of you?