Needing some opinions from someone other than family and a few friends.
Here is the situation. A few years ago I moved to a new state for work. I had no friends or family in the new state. I made friends quickly playing travel softball which was my main hobby at the time. I was playing league ball two times a week and usually played tournament ball on Friday nights and Saturdays. I had no kids, lived in a small apartment near work and really just did what I wanted outside of work M-F.
Then I met my ex fiance. She had two kids from previous marriages and lived about 45 minutes from me. We began dating and really progressed pretty quickly. When we began dating it was the end of softball season so I really didn’t play much for several months. When the season rolled around again she had a huge problem with me playing every weekend. I understood her point and decided to only play every other weekend. That went fine for that first season. After we had been together and were engaged after about a 2 years, she became pregnant with our baby girl. After the baby came, she basically started to push me to quit playing on weekends period and eventually started giving me ultimatums, I quit or she leaves.
This is the only thing I ever argued with this woman about. I really thought I did a lot for her and her girls and I helped her a ton around the house and cooked the majority of the time etc… This was the one thing I really put my foot down on and she eventually left.
Well, she has been gone for about 6 months now and has recently started trying to get back together but one of her conditions is that I do not play softball on weekends. I know it probably seems like a small thing but it is basically the only thing I do outside of the house. I dont hang out in bars, dont fish or hunt, I even lift in my garage. Travel ball can be very time consuming on saturdays so I do understand that she doesnt like me being away all day saturday and into the night. With that said, I still think playing 2 times a month is an acceptable compromise.
I am really struggling with what to do at this point. I miss seeing my daughter everyday and I do miss my ex but I am really struggling with what to do considering she still insists that I quit weekend ball completely. Its like she wants to get back into the relationship but everything still has to be under her conditions.
Yes, I did try to get her and the girls to come out to the tournaments and I will be the first to say, sometimes they take a long time and are a decent drive away from the house. It is just mens, not coed and we do drink some during the day but I dont go out afterwords drinking. Straight home after.
[quote]jwrhoades1 wrote:
one of her conditions is that I do not play softball on weekends. I know it probably seems like a small thing but it is basically the only thing I do outside of the house. I dont hang out in bars, dont fish or hunt, I even lift in my garage. [/quote]
So your 1 hobby which you do TWICE a month is the thing she wants you to give up?
I have to ask if you’re trolling because that’s completely asinine.
This is what I would ask myself…what would a man 60 yrs ago do. I’ll tell you…the twat would know her place. This modern male bullshit makes me fucking sick. Commercials on tv with kids strapped to a mans chest and the woman is shopping? Dump this cunt right now there are tons of girls that would love for you to have any hobby you want. A real woman would go watch you play softball.
[quote]AliveAgain36 wrote:
You let your family go over travel softball? [/quote]
You think it would have stopped after that?[/quote]
Um no… It’s called marriage.[/quote]
I didn’t say enticing. I said marriage.
So marriage is, like, he gives up all his friends and his only hobby and then she still gets to demand more or else she takes his child hostage.
