I have to disagree. I’m platonic friends with one female–she and I were friends before each of us got married to our respective spouses actually (and her husband and I were groomsmen for each other). We’ve been friends a good decade now, and both her and her husband have helped me through some serious shit and vice versa.
[quote]Chushin wrote:
[quote]paulwhite959 wrote:
One of the saddest fucking things I’ve ever read on this website.
I love sex. My wife and I have fairly good sex (well, not for another two weeks–stitches in the vagina and all that). But really? The relationship is good apart from the sex too. I want more than a fuckbuddy. I could have that easily enough I guess, but goddamnit, I want someone to act as a life partner. Someone that’ll help me around the house, be supportive after a shitty day, honestly care for me, etc. The sex is definitely important in a relationship, don’t get me wrong…but if that’s all you care about in relationships, then you’re a sad deluded person.[/quote]
Stop making sense, please.[/quote]
He doesnt.
He talks about what he wants not what reality is like.
If she wanted to marry a woman, she could have done so.
Alright, I want a harem, with a 17 year old Jessica Alba as my main woman.
I think its sad that people reduce it all to relationships and thereby spoiling the beauty of my romantic vision.
Personally, I think women should women up to be more harem compatible instead of constantly clinging to the fantasies of their childhoods, like “committment” and “intimacy” and all that puerile drivel.
Also, this whole career and self development nonsense has to go, they should devote their time and energy to what really matters, staying fit and attractive, learn how to suck a mean dick and how to participate in a non ackward threesome.
There, that was my male equivalent to the female standard fare which guys like the one above have so internalized that they are simply unable to meet women halfway because they already live in a 3/4 female reality.
If you want all that you described above, you need to be the best man she can get, at least long term and I am being very generous with the last bit. [/quote]
Where is that incompatible with what I said? And where does that tie in to not wanting to go drinking to excess with people till 3am?
Seriously. There’s more to being a good spouse/lover/partner than proving you can go party.
I have zero need to pretend to be an Alpha Male. I cna’t tell if you’re a troll here or serious.
But I can build a computer, fix a gun, survive in sub zero weather (that’s F, not C), handle large carnivores (FFS, I keep reticulated pythons, have found and tracked wild bears, been within pissing distance of cougars, and regularly handle rattlesnakes), or discuss poetry intelligently and argue about the causes and repercussions of WWI.
Being a “man” isn’t about going drinking with a bunch of dipshits that think the height of life is drinking till you get hungover every weekend. It’s about providing for your family and cope when stuff goes haywire.
It’s about having your spouses’s back, valuing their opinion too.
It’s about knowing what matters to you, and what matters to your family and finding a balance.
I kind of hope you’re either trolling, or I’ve totally misread what you meant.
I don’t need to go drinking at a bar till 3am with a bunch of old college buddies to prove I’m a man or to drive up my sexual market value.
I can handle myself. I can handle life. I can provide for my wife and my child.
That’s being a man.
If you don’t understand that, get a goddamn vasectomy before you breed.
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]paulwhite959 wrote:
If you want all that you described above, you need to be the best man she can get, at least long term and I am being very generous with the last bit. [/quote]
Where is that incompatible with what I said? And where does that tie in to not wanting to go drinking to excess with people till 3am?
Seriously. There’s more to being a good spouse/lover/partner than proving you can go party.
I have zero need to pretend to be an Alpha Male. I cna’t tell if you’re a troll here or serious.
But I can build a computer, fix a gun, survive in sub zero weather (that’s F, not C), handle large carnivores (FFS, I keep reticulated pythons, have found and tracked wild bears, been within pissing distance of cougars, and regularly handle rattlesnakes), or discuss poetry intelligently and argue about the causes and repercussions of WWI.
Being a “man” isn’t about going drinking with a bunch of dipshits that think the height of life is drinking till you get hungover every weekend. It’s about providing for your family and cope when stuff goes haywire.
It’s about having your spouses’s back, valuing their opinion too.
It’s about knowing what matters to you, and what matters to your family and finding a balance.
I kind of hope you’re either trolling, or I’ve totally misread what you meant.
I don’t need to go drinking at a bar till 3am with a bunch of old college buddies to prove I’m a man or to drive up my sexual market value.
I can handle myself. I can handle life. I can provide for my wife and my child.
That’s being a man.
If you don’t understand that, get a goddamn vasectomy before you breed.
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coughs uncontrollably**
I am sorry, all that straw flying around.
What I was saying was, hell yeah, if you want to live in your fairy tale, your SMV so totally matters.
[quote]Chushin wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
So, keep your SMV up and your chances have just increased dramatically.
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Seriously?
You reduce it down to this?
I have no choice but to conclude that you have never been in a truly meaningful relationship.
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Reduce it?
Thats the bedrock you can prefer to build on sand if you like.
[quote]Chushin wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Chushin wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
So, keep your SMV up and your chances have just increased dramatically.
[/quote]
Seriously?
You reduce it down to this?
I have no choice but to conclude that you have never been in a truly meaningful relationship.
[/quote]
Reduce it?
Thats the bedrock you can prefer to build on sand if you like. [/quote]
Huh?
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You claimed I reduced it to the SMV.
I say if you do not have a handle on this, whatever pretty little edifices you build on top do not matter to me.
this is real bad. If Orion is telling the truth then my girl’s going to leave me…
I HAVE NOTHING TO OFFER
[quote]rds63799 wrote:
this is real bad. If Orion is telling the truth then my girl’s going to leave me…
I HAVE NOTHING TO OFFER[/quote]
So, get a gun, go out in the woods and kill something.
You need to make sure though to do what a friend of mine did, bring 20 lbs of bloody meat home and slap it on the counter.
She was skocked, shocked I tell you…
Anyhow, if you cannot conveniently kill Bambis mom, act like a dick.
If you cannot scratch your balls in public, leer at other girls and say something so self centered that Donald Trump would be in awe, you cannot even compete with the average trailer park inhabitant and are not worthy of a woman, you barely qualify for a fleshlight.
[quote]orion wrote:
Anyhow, if you cannot conveniently kill Bambis mom, act like a dick.
If you cannot scratch your balls in public, leer at other girls and say something so self centered that Donald Trump would be in awe, you cannot even compete with the average trailer park inhabitant and are not worthy of a woman, you barely qualify for a fleshlight. [/quote]
this is getting interesting now, what would this achieve?
[quote]rds63799 wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
Anyhow, if you cannot conveniently kill Bambis mom, act like a dick.
If you cannot scratch your balls in public, leer at other girls and say something so self centered that Donald Trump would be in awe, you cannot even compete with the average trailer park inhabitant and are not worthy of a woman, you barely qualify for a fleshlight. [/quote]
this is getting interesting now, what would this achieve?[/quote]
Yes, I think so, too. ~waits for enlightenment~
but Emily, surely as a girl you already know the answer?
Oh well…of course…but I have an early meeting, so I’m going to have to let orion explain.
[quote]rds63799 wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
Anyhow, if you cannot conveniently kill Bambis mom, act like a dick.
If you cannot scratch your balls in public, leer at other girls and say something so self centered that Donald Trump would be in awe, you cannot even compete with the average trailer park inhabitant and are not worthy of a woman, you barely qualify for a fleshlight. [/quote]
this is getting interesting now, what would this achieve?[/quote]
I am assuming the acting like a dick bit?
To demonstrate that you dont give a fuck.
You defy social conventions and get away with it you bad, bad, baaaaaad boy.
Admittedly, that probably only works on trailer trash and, ironically, on the hottest of the hot, but that is really the ground level, half a step above a chimpanzee.
There is no reason why you cannot instill a low level of dread every now and then, come home drunk as a skunk once every month, forget her birthday and whatnot.
The trick is in not apologizing.
Nothing fancy, just installing in her mind that she is not the center of your universe and that you are not that impressed with how she feels about things.
If you had laid strong foundations you would not do any of this, but you havent, havent you?
I bet you bought her…flowers… shudders… before you had sex even…
[quote]orion wrote:
You defy social conventions and get away with it you bad, bad, baaaaaad boy.
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Lol. “I don’t play by anybody’s rules. Not even my own.”