[quote]orion wrote:
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[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
[quote]ouroboro_s wrote:
[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
[quote]kpsnap wrote:
[quote]ouroboro_s wrote:
This isn’t really directed to the original poster but to everyone else who jumped to the conclusion that she is pregnant with another man’s baby. Perhaps people should try having sex/a relationship with a better class of person than one you think would screw around on you. You’re known by the company you keep. If it’s with a skank, what does that say for you?[/quote]
Too much logic.[/quote]
It lacks logic, to me.
If I’m afraid my wife is screwing around, then yes, I should be weary of myself because of the company I keep. If I’m concerned about someone else’s wife screwing around on them, that doesn’t say anything about my wife or myself, does it? After all, she’s not the one I’m concerned with. [/quote]
It’s more the frame of mind that they immediately think she’s a slut/skank. It seems like an over familiarity with that type of behaviour which leads me to believe they associate with people who behave poorly. I don’t expect the worst of people because I don’t marry, sleep with, hang with or become friends with people who I believe will shit on me. That doesn’t mean I haven’t experienced it but it’s the exception rather than the expectation.
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Fair enough - and I don’t totally disagree. [/quote]
I do, and here is why.
From an evopsych perspective, we have developed to err on the side of caution in many cases, because there are disproportionate risk/rewards.
If something rustles the grass it might be the wind, it might be a lion.
If you automatically assume its a lion, you may err often, but whats the harm?
If you automatically assume its the wind you may be right often, but only err once.
Its better to err on the side of caution if the risk/reward is laid out like it regrettably is , i.e. men having almost no reproductive rights in our society.
If the one exception can ruin you, better to be vigilant always.
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Have fun being paranoid your entire life.
There is a tremendous harm in ALWAYS erring on the side of caution. It’s like Pascal’s wager when he says there is no risk in believing in God. There certainly is a huge risk in spending your entire life living by certain principles, worshiping a fictional character (if you’re wrong) and spending so much of the limited time you have devoted to God.
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That’s kind of my thought (except the God part). Unless you live in a war zone in which paranoia is well founded you risk living a sad, shriveled existence when you distrust everyone. You may not get burned but the price to your soul seems pretty high.
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And again would you trust a man you barely know with 100000$
You would, wouldnt you?
Otherwise, your constant paranoia might damage your soul…
Or maybe you would engage in an activity that could lead to serious emotional, social and financial harm with a group of people who are known to reneg 50% of all time and there is shit all you can do about it?
Well, yes, you would do that too, because otherwise you risk bitterness.
BULLSHIT.
If you had the same reproductive rights as men, if you were in the same position as men are in al Western nations, women themselves would sew their vaginas shut.
The very fact that women have bit by bit and inch by inch made it so that they hold all the cards in the reproductive game and that they complete devalued the male provider role by choosing to get at our resources via state coercion instead of cultivating female virtues so that a man might commit means first and foremost one thing.
YOU DONT TRUST US ONE BIT.
But, you would like us to trust you.
Because the whole house comes down if we stop doing so in sufficient numbers. [/quote]
Okay.
I’m sure you understand calculating risk. You don’t give a random stranger $100,000. I would suggest you don’t stick your dick into a random stranger either.
You attempt to govern your behaviour in a manner that minimizes your own risk. That doesn’t mean treat everyone as though they intend to rob you or foist someone else’s child upon you. That means don’t fuck crazy or morally corrupt and don’t walk through dark alley’s at night. There is a vast distance between blindly trusting and distrusting everyone. It is the grey area in which most of us operate.