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[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Of course not. Why should I have to? That’s like stopping for gas, getting out and paying for it and saying, “I’m gonna pay for gas, please don’t steal my car”.

Going through a cell phone is a breach of privacy. That’s why they did it behind my back, because they know they are wrong. I think that’s fairly obvious.[/quote]

But…I think you’re confusing trust with snooping…did you ever ask them, “did you look through my phone just now?” If they lied then they’re liars and not trustworthy…if they said “Yes as a matter of fact I did. Since you and I have exchanged bodily fluids and you’re comfortable enough around me to go jump in the shower I figured I’d just look into your phone. Are you telling me you don’t trust me just because I looked through your phone without asking your permission? What kind of maroon leaves their phone laying around and doesn’t expect someone to look through it. I figured you’d left it here on purpose for me to look for” then they’re trustworthy…

Anyway…I think there’s different levels of trust…I trust She Say pretty much with my life and not to fuck around, etc…but I don’t trust her for a minute to put my fuckin’ hammer back in my tool box after she’s taken it out to do whatever with it…I spent a lot of time saying, “Hey…can you put the tools back in the toolbox rather than just leaving them wherever you happened to be when you finished with them” all to no avail…now…I just put the damn hammer away myself. This goes double for the shop vac.

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[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]angry chicken wrote:

[quote]ouroboro_s wrote:
Most people don’t survive life. No one dies unscathed. I can wager if you talk to anyone here or in your life, they all have a sad or tragic story to share. How you carry on, conduct yourself and treat others is a choice. Don’t they say living well (and happily) is the best revenge? If you want to be a victim of your own sad/tragic incident(s) carry on as you are.[/quote]

I would say that wearing a condom is good insurance against being a victim of sad/tragic circumstance. An unplanned pregnancy or STD is life altering event. All the living well in world won’t put that genie back in the bottle.[/quote]

I cant read too many Angry Chicken posts-

I am accustomed to deal with pretentious bullshit, too much common sense overloads my shitjustgotreal-meter[/quote]

WTF?

He had a streak going until you interrupted him.[/quote]

Lies, look at the time stamps.[/quote]

Oyurishi wo itadakitaku zonjite orimasu!

(Sorry)[/quote]
lol[/quote]

If you got that, then your Japanese is a lot better than I would have expected.[/quote]
I didn’t :(. I’ve seriously been slacking. I have, however, dreamed in Japanese, and I’m pretty sure that’s not normal for someone at my fluency level.[/quote]

He he.

I only dream in Japanese when there is a Japanese person who can’t speak English in my dream! Why else would I be speaking Japanese? :wink:

Not for nothing, but I also went through a really interesting phase where it was like there was a Japanese me co-habitating with the normal guy inside me. He would literally say things that “I” had no intention of saying. They would just come out of my mouth!

I think that that was at the beginning of my coming to be able to not “think in English, then say it in Japanese.” I’m on it, Chusin-sama.

As for your slacking, namakeru na! [/quote]
Yeah that’s what it felt like for me. I just found it odd given how little time I’ve put in, but I have been “hearing the language” for years.

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[quote]csulli wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:
I’m at a loss too

What is it that men really want in a long term partner/wife?

Apparently not a gf who wants to f*ck and blow them every day, buys them an M1A just because, cooks awsome food, rototills and plants the garden, and helps them cut down trees. Yes, and not someone who picks up a sport and learns it just to share their passion. Not a woman who gives her all, loyally, without going through his phone or keeping track of him, who always gives him his space and freedom.

So wtf makes a woman worthy of an “I love you”? [/quote]
Is all that describing you? If so then I love you. Seriously.[/quote]
That’s what I deduced. Same feels.

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[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]csulli wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:
I’m at a loss too

What is it that men really want in a long term partner/wife?

Apparently not a gf who wants to f*ck and blow them every day, buys them an M1A just because, cooks awsome food, rototills and plants the garden, and helps them cut down trees. Yes, and not someone who picks up a sport and learns it just to share their passion. Not a woman who gives her all, loyally, without going through his phone or keeping track of him, who always gives him his space and freedom.

So wtf makes a woman worthy of an “I love you”? [/quote]
Is all that describing you? If so then I love you. Seriously.[/quote]
That’s what I deduced. Same feels.[/quote]

Thanks guys…I’m seriously looking for an answer from everybody though. Alot of guys on here are quick to say what they don’t like but what the hell, What do you all actually want in a woman?

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OPs girlfriend is carrying my baby.

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[quote]theBeth wrote:
I’m at a loss too

What is it that men really want in a long term partner/wife?

Apparently not a gf who wants to f*ck and blow them every day, buys them an M1A just because, cooks awsome food, rototills and plants the garden, and helps them cut down trees. Yes, and not someone who picks up a sport and learns it just to share their passion. Not a woman who gives her all, loyally, without going through his phone or keeping track of him, who always gives him his space and freedom.

So wtf makes a woman worthy of an “I love you”? [/quote]

The partner, someone who compliments you on all aspects of life, financial, sexual, emotionally and mentally. Someone that has faults that you recognize and respect, but they also see, respect and recognize yours.

Been married almost 15 years, my wife is my best friend and partner in life. Everything I do is in our present and future, she is the same. We are yin and yang. Her successes are my successes and vice versa, her pains and hurts are my pains and hurts.

As it should be.

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[quote]angry chicken wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]angry chicken wrote:

Now, before people jump up my ass and call me a home wrecker, I NEVER ask if a woman has a man when I approach them. I always assume she is available. If she is taken, she’ll let me know and I’ll back off or recruit her…[/quote]

What is sufficient notice for you?

If she mentions that she’s married, but still seems to be interested in a little “sotai dosa,” do you back off or continue to pursue? [/quote]

If she says she is married I note it and incorporate it into my qualification strategy. Many women SAY they have a BF or a husband early on (even if they don’t) before I have effectively sparked attraction as a strategy to make a man stop pursuing them. It’s just a shit test many times. If it is brought up, I always revisit it several times. If I eventually believe that she is indeed married (and not separated, or doesn’t have an arrangement), I will NOT sleep with her. But will I back off at the first mention of a “husband”? No, as many times it is a false disqualifier.

As for girls who have a BF, well, I think Beyonce said it best: “If you like it then you should have put a ring on it”. They are all fair game.[/quote]

Why is it that they will tell you but not me?

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[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:
I’m at a loss too

What is it that men really want in a long term partner/wife?

Apparently not a gf who wants to f*ck and blow them every day, buys them an M1A just because, cooks awsome food, rototills and plants the garden, and helps them cut down trees. Yes, and not someone who picks up a sport and learns it just to share their passion. Not a woman who gives her all, loyally, without going through his phone or keeping track of him, who always gives him his space and freedom.

So wtf makes a woman worthy of an “I love you”? [/quote]

The partner, someone who compliments you on all aspects of life, financial, sexual, emotionally and mentally. Someone that has faults that you recognize and respect, but they also see, respect and recognize yours.

Been married almost 15 years, my wife is my best friend and partner in life. Everything I do is in our present and future, she is the same. We are yin and yang. Her successes are my successes and vice versa, her pains and hurts are my pains and hurts.

As it should be.[/quote]

This is good stuff. Men of integrity don’t look for women to do things for them, they’re self reliant. There’s a special feeling you get for serving one another that doesn’t exist in any other relationship. Love is an action as well as an emotion. The more you love, the more you love. I really don’t care if this sounds cheesy because I know that I have a PIC for life who will back me up through thick and thin. We’ll be on the right side of that 50%.

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[quote]theBeth wrote:
I’m at a loss too

What is it that men really want in a long term partner/wife?

Apparently not a gf who wants to f*ck and blow them every day, buys them an M1A just because, cooks awsome food, rototills and plants the garden, and helps them cut down trees. Yes, and not someone who picks up a sport and learns it just to share their passion. Not a woman who gives her all, loyally, without going through his phone or keeping track of him, who always gives him his space and freedom.

So wtf makes a woman worthy of an “I love you”? [/quote]

They don’t exist in my state.

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[quote]Derek542 wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:
I’m at a loss too

What is it that men really want in a long term partner/wife?

Apparently not a gf who wants to f*ck and blow them every day, buys them an M1A just because, cooks awsome food, rototills and plants the garden, and helps them cut down trees. Yes, and not someone who picks up a sport and learns it just to share their passion. Not a woman who gives her all, loyally, without going through his phone or keeping track of him, who always gives him his space and freedom.

So wtf makes a woman worthy of an “I love you”? [/quote]

The partner, someone who compliments you on all aspects of life, financial, sexual, emotionally and mentally. Someone that has faults that you recognize and respect, but they also see, respect and recognize yours.

Been married almost 15 years, my wife is my best friend and partner in life. Everything I do is in our present and future, she is the same. We are yin and yang. Her successes are my successes and vice versa, her pains and hurts are my pains and hurts.

As it should be.[/quote]

Exactly, Derek. Yay for you two!

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[quote]theBeth wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]csulli wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:
I’m at a loss too

What is it that men really want in a long term partner/wife?

Apparently not a gf who wants to f*ck and blow them every day, buys them an M1A just because, cooks awsome food, rototills and plants the garden, and helps them cut down trees. Yes, and not someone who picks up a sport and learns it just to share their passion. Not a woman who gives her all, loyally, without going through his phone or keeping track of him, who always gives him his space and freedom.

So wtf makes a woman worthy of an “I love you”? [/quote]
Is all that describing you? If so then I love you. Seriously.[/quote]
That’s what I deduced. Same feels.[/quote]

Thanks guys…I’m seriously looking for an answer from everybody though. Alot of guys on here are quick to say what they don’t like but what the hell, What do you all actually want in a woman?

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Hmmmm…

First, what I wont do is what women do which is leaving out what gets them wet.

Youth and beauty.

Yeah, its that simple, yeah it is so beyond cultural boundaries.

Having said that, what gets women wet, is some mix of social dominance and comtrolled aggression.

I can do that?

But sometimes its hard.

I would like some form of warmth, quiet support and emotional generosity in and out of the bedroom.

As you can see, that would be a nice addition to the role I have to play if this is supposed to work.

But, you know, the way some women are these days, they behave like 3rd tier men, they are loud and obnoxious, without any kind of loyalty or responsibility.

Bascically, all they offer is a vag, and that is just not enough.

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[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]csulli wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:
I’m at a loss too

What is it that men really want in a long term partner/wife?

Apparently not a gf who wants to f*ck and blow them every day, buys them an M1A just because, cooks awsome food, rototills and plants the garden, and helps them cut down trees. Yes, and not someone who picks up a sport and learns it just to share their passion. Not a woman who gives her all, loyally, without going through his phone or keeping track of him, who always gives him his space and freedom.

So wtf makes a woman worthy of an “I love you”? [/quote]
Is all that describing you? If so then I love you. Seriously.[/quote]
That’s what I deduced. Same feels.[/quote]

Thanks guys…I’m seriously looking for an answer from everybody though. Alot of guys on here are quick to say what they don’t like but what the hell, What do you all actually want in a woman?

[/quote]

Hmmmm…

First, what I wont do is what women do which is leaving out what gets them wet.

Youth and beauty.

Yeah, its that simple, yeah it is so beyond cultural boundaries.

Having said that, what gets women wet, is some mix of social dominance and comtrolled aggression.

I can do that?

But sometimes its hard.

I would like some form of warmth, quiet support and emotional generosity in and out of the bedroom.

As you can see, that would be a nice addition to the role I have to play if this is supposed to work.

But, you know, the way some women are these days, they behave like 3rd tier men, they are loud and obnoxious, without any kind of loyalty or responsibility.

Bascically, all they offer is a vag, and that is just not enough.

[/quote]

What is a third tier man? Is that like the omega wolf in the pack?

So what does a woman do when she provides that emotional, physical and financial generosity and it’s dismissed by the dude?

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[quote]theBeth wrote:
So what does a woman do when she provides that emotional, physical and financial generosity and it’s dismissed by the dude? [/quote]

In the simplest of terms, find another dude. Preferably one that isn’t a self absorbed douche.

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[quote]theBeth wrote:
So what does a woman do when she provides that emotional, physical and financial generosity and it’s dismissed by the dude? [/quote]
Find a new dude.

Honestly all I would really want is someone who cares about me and is loyal, aka won’t renege their “love” in the blink of an eye. Anything beyond that is just icing imo.

Okay beta rant over lol.

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[quote]csulli wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:
So what does a woman do when she provides that emotional, physical and financial generosity and it’s dismissed by the dude? [/quote]
Find a new dude.

Honestly all I would really want is someone who cares about me and is loyal, aka won’t renege their “love” in the blink of an eye. Anything beyond that is just icing imo.

Okay beta rant over lol.[/quote]

Done. I took your advice, as of today. Except for the new dude part. No rush on that I guess.

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[quote]theBeth wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:

[quote]spar4tee wrote:

[quote]csulli wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:
I’m at a loss too

What is it that men really want in a long term partner/wife?

Apparently not a gf who wants to f*ck and blow them every day, buys them an M1A just because, cooks awsome food, rototills and plants the garden, and helps them cut down trees. Yes, and not someone who picks up a sport and learns it just to share their passion. Not a woman who gives her all, loyally, without going through his phone or keeping track of him, who always gives him his space and freedom.

So wtf makes a woman worthy of an “I love you”? [/quote]
Is all that describing you? If so then I love you. Seriously.[/quote]
That’s what I deduced. Same feels.[/quote]

Thanks guys…I’m seriously looking for an answer from everybody though. Alot of guys on here are quick to say what they don’t like but what the hell, What do you all actually want in a woman?

[/quote]

Hmmmm…

First, what I wont do is what women do which is leaving out what gets them wet.

Youth and beauty.

Yeah, its that simple, yeah it is so beyond cultural boundaries.

Having said that, what gets women wet, is some mix of social dominance and comtrolled aggression.

I can do that?

But sometimes its hard.

I would like some form of warmth, quiet support and emotional generosity in and out of the bedroom.

As you can see, that would be a nice addition to the role I have to play if this is supposed to work.

But, you know, the way some women are these days, they behave like 3rd tier men, they are loud and obnoxious, without any kind of loyalty or responsibility.

Bascically, all they offer is a vag, and that is just not enough.

[/quote]

What is a third tier man? Is that like the omega wolf in the pack?

So what does a woman do when she provides that emotional, physical and financial generosity and it’s dismissed by the dude? [/quote]

Keep the dude and get a girlfriend too

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[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]theBeth wrote:

So what does a woman do when she provides that emotional, physical and financial generosity and it’s dismissed by the dude? [/quote]

Beth, sadly, the world is full of people who believe that if something is offered freely and generously, it’s not really of all that much value.

This is more often true amoung younger people than us old folks who have learned to see diamonds in some open and outstreched hands…

Basically, what the others have said: Move on, and keep looking. Don’t let the blind guys cause you to change, because you want to be as you are now when you run into one who can see someday.

Having said all that, you also need to be vigilant against being a co-dependent, clingy type. “Open and generous” is often a masquerade for “needy.”[/quote]
looks like the dude holding the fish missed a fine opportunity