[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:
[quote]angry chicken wrote:
The cell phone litmus test: Leave your cell phone in a certain exact position (not obvious) with a small hair being held under the phone, and you phone set on a certain spot at a certain angle, opened to a certain app/contact or whatever. When she comes over, leave her alone in the room with the cell phone and make an excuse to step out for five or ten minutes (or take a shower). They will NOT be able to resist the temptation! They will snoop through your shit every time. Most wont just stop with the cell phone, either. They’ll go through your medicine cabinet, your file drawers, your desk, your bedside table. I had more than one girl try to open my SAFE! It was hidden…
Try it sometime. SEE for yourself if they can be trusted. And treat them accordingly.
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Interestingly enough, I could say the same about men.
See a few of them more than a couple of times, and after that, they already think they’ve got the right to go through my phone when I’m not around. I purposely leave it unlocked for ‘‘shock factor’’.
When it’s not the phone, it’s my laptop, which is locked thankfully, but I know when I returned to the room that it had been moved.
I’ve also done this with a pile of cash left on purpose in the bed side chest drawer. And every single time, they’ve opened the drawer to check what is in there.
Bottom line, women are not the only ones who love snooping through their fuckbuddies’ stuff.
Some women don’t give a fuck about what you keep in your cupboard or whatever saved in your phone or laptop. And the same could be said about some men. I’d assume that those who act that way, want to get to know about your character, see what kind of person they fucking, create a stronger bond, other than sex, or… they are just snoopy by nature.
Curiosity is human nature, and you can’t just state all women are not to be trusted, just because most of your sex partners have failed the ‘‘cell’’ test.
But anyway, I’m like you. I don’t trust anyone. Even myself. However, I know there are some good men and women out there. I’m not looking to pursue relationships, just have fun, so there is no need for me to carry out some kind of test on men and women I sleep with.[/quote]
I’ve never felt the need to snoop through someone’s shit. It’s a very clear boundary in my mind: whats MINE and what’s THEIRS. I leave what’s THEIRS alone unless they feel the need to share it with me.
I have no need to go through someone’s personal shit. First of all, I structure things to be open - especially in the beginning. I know that most people are not a “clean slate” or 100% available when I meet them. Most people have that fuck buddy or two on the side. I allow them plenty of time and space to wind that down if I like them before I even broach the topic of exclusivity.
So if we’ve left it open, why the fuck do I need to check on them? And, more importantly, why would they need to check on me? When asked if I’m seeing other people, the answer was YES! Not some, slippery slimy bullshit like, “ask me no questions and I’ll tell you no lies” or anything evasive. It’s “yes, I’m dating a few people, nothing serious though”.
And I’ve also had the attempt on the laptop, or going through my beside drawer, etc… So why the fuck do they do that?
