Like Catone and WS4JB, I’m pretty lucky.
I’m pushing 200lbs at 5’6 (still not big enough), and my girlfriend tells me how my chest is lagging, I need more carbs, I should forcefeed a meal, etc.
No suprise that I will be marrying her.
[quote]catone wrote:
My wife is constantly overfeeding me, filling up plates with food it takes me an hour to finish. When I try to lower my portions she goes “you worked out today, shouldn’t you eat more carbs?” It would make sense if I weren’t already 260 lbs. She likes me big, when I cut she always says I’m skinny :)[/quote]
thats the most romantic thing ive ever heard.
i want a Slavic wife cause i feel like they would represent in the kitchen and laundry department.
i think if i were to take any wrestlers physique itd be Batista. guy has serious shoulders/traps.
[quote]bsims80 wrote:
My wife is the same, she always tells me to not get any bigger. Or accuses me of taking steroids and threatens to leave me if I am!! I usually just laugh at her and go make a shake!
She also gets mad when I’m cooking ground beef, steaks, chickin for my lunches bc I am not making her and my sons lunches too…I’m so selfish! I guess I’m missing something about her being home all day with the kiddo while I’m stuck in the office and don’t have time to leave for lunch. I just tell her to help herself to my plain ground beef and sweet potatoes…she says yuck. Lol, guess you just can’t win those battles.[/quote]
Girlfriends and wives say that they’ll leave if you take steroids but think about it… You’ll be leaner, more muscular and last for more rounds in bed… They will deffinetly stick around.
[quote]Westclock wrote:
… dont listen to your mother, shes your mom she isnt trying to fuck you.[/quote]
LOL
You will always be too big because your mother will remember you as their child. you will always be between the age of 1 and 10 in your mother’s eyes.
Just smile and nod and say “I love you mom. I am taking care of myself and you have nothing to worry about I promise.” Parnets have a lot of fear. It is natural and fed by the media. (reenforced anyway)
Now - spouses and other people? That is different. I think Prof X has a point. While a little ‘give and take’ is expected there comes a point when it becomes a control issue. It isn’t so much that they do not like you big, or small or skinny or fat. It is wether their input is important enough to you to change your behavior. It is not always concious but the fact that there are things about your relationship they can’t control is unsettling to many people and opens up the possibility that this is not the only thing.
[quote]boatguy wrote:
Her concern with me getting too big wasn’t looks, though(she digs the muscle), it was more about having that weight on top of her in bed.[/quote]
You could get a bigger bed…wait…you’re not talking about sleeping…you’re talking about sex right? There’s some other positions my wife was telling me about…I’ll pass them along to you once she shows me.
[quote]LiveFromThe781 wrote:
catone wrote:
My wife is constantly overfeeding me, filling up plates with food it takes me an hour to finish. When I try to lower my portions she goes “you worked out today, shouldn’t you eat more carbs?” It would make sense if I weren’t already 260 lbs. She likes me big, when I cut she always says I’m skinny 
thats the most romantic thing ive ever heard.
i want a Slavic wife cause i feel like they would represent in the kitchen and laundry department.[/quote]
You know the origin of Slavic isn’t slave, right?
(just in case your English is like your Math :))
[quote]PRCalDude wrote:
it was more about having that weight on top of her in bed.
I think women are engineered to be able to take that sort of thing. They’re very durable. [/quote]
They are. I’m an engineer and I also weigh 2x (+a few pounds) more then my girl. I’ve thoroughly tested that out…jsut make sure your girl doesn’t have osteoporosis.
[quote]catone wrote:
LiveFromThe781 wrote:
catone wrote:
My wife is constantly overfeeding me, filling up plates with food it takes me an hour to finish. When I try to lower my portions she goes “you worked out today, shouldn’t you eat more carbs?” It would make sense if I weren’t already 260 lbs. She likes me big, when I cut she always says I’m skinny
thats the most romantic thing ive ever heard.
i want a Slavic wife cause i feel like they would represent in the kitchen and laundry department.
You know the origin of Slavic isn’t slave, right?
(just in case your English is like your Math :))
[/quote]
theyre pretty much interchangeable, incase your social studies is like your face
[quote]TheDudeAbides wrote:
I hear something along the lines of that maybe once every couple of weeks, or a month from my wife. “You don’t need to get any bigger. You just need to tone.”
I hear a little bit from my parents, who most likely think I’m extremely overweight. I do weight 250 at 20-35% bf, so they do have a small point.[/quote]
Dude are you serious 20-35% is a huge difference, and either one is fat as hell. This is one story that the parents are right.
[quote]catone wrote:
My wife is constantly overfeeding me, filling up plates with food it takes me an hour to finish. When I try to lower my portions she goes “you worked out today, shouldn’t you eat more carbs?” It would make sense if I weren’t already 260 lbs. She likes me big, when I cut she always says I’m skinny :)[/quote]
I have dreams like this.
Granted, there is a hell of a lot more nudity and size F bras involved…but that’s the dream, none the less.
[quote]B rocK wrote:
…jsut make sure your girl doesn’t have osteoporosis. [/quote]
Squats and milk.
[quote]TheDudeAbides wrote:
I hear something along the lines of that maybe once every couple of weeks, or a month from my wife. “You don’t need to get any bigger. You just need to tone.”
I hear a little bit from my parents, who most likely think I’m extremely overweight. I do weight 250 at 20-35% bf, so they do have a small point.[/quote]
ummmm…20-35% body fat is NOT a range!!!
that’s like saying i can bench between 250-400.
not hating…just made me laugh when i read that.
[quote]drewkearns wrote:
TheDudeAbides wrote:
I hear something along the lines of that maybe once every couple of weeks, or a month from my wife. “You don’t need to get any bigger. You just need to tone.”
I hear a little bit from my parents, who most likely think I’m extremely overweight. I do weight 250 at 20-35% bf, so they do have a small point.
ummmm…20-35% body fat is NOT a range!!!
that’s like saying i can bench between 250-400.
not hating…just made me laugh when i read that.[/quote]
I laughed for 1-3,983,345 seconds.
Professor X you are the ultimate meathead haha.
I can see where you both coming from. Different priorities, different results, but both still happy and satisfied with them.
[quote]Professor X wrote:
bsims80 wrote:
It boils down to the fact that she isn’t into lifting like I am. She doesn’t understand why I cook my own food. Why I eat seperate things than her. Why I decline eating at someone elses house if the meal isn’t something I want to put in my body. Why I get mad if she needs me to come home right after work for whatever reason instead of hitting the gym. Why I get withdrawals if I miss the gym for too long. Why I might go on the weekend instead of spending ALL day at home. It doesn’t mean we aren’t compatable and don’t have a solid relationship/friendship.
What I am getting at is that what you just wrote would be a HUGE issue if it were me. You can’t do this without eating more food…or training whenever you can fit it in…or not sitting at home so you can go to the gym.
Anyone half way serious would find that to be an issue EVERY SINGLE DAY unless you were taking a rest day.
It seems like something worth clearing up if you plan on actually making significant progress.
Maybe it’s just me…but I would think a musician would avoid getting hitched with someone who literally HATES music.[/quote]
[quote]Professor X wrote:
I have dreams like this.
Granted, there is a hell of a lot more nudity and size F bras involved…but that’s the dream, none the less.[/quote]
Ding ding ding ding!
[quote]Professor X wrote:
catone wrote:
My wife is constantly overfeeding me, filling up plates with food it takes me an hour to finish. When I try to lower my portions she goes “you worked out today, shouldn’t you eat more carbs?” It would make sense if I weren’t already 260 lbs. She likes me big, when I cut she always says I’m skinny
I have dreams like this.
[/quote]
Did I mention (in the spirit of the “Marriage…” thread) that she has the same education as I have, makes more money than I do and nobody in her family has ever divorced?
Yeah, baby!
Kind of funny, but I always tell my mom she’s too small and needs to bulk up. Everyone is big or at least tall in my family and she is the smallest one.