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oh and BTW

back then it was very uncommon for a child to be a black belt, these days they hand out black belts to boost the childs ego and give them a false sense of pride,this I dont agree with
I earned mine I had to physically take down and submit grown men 3 times my size.
I had to break the same amount of boards as these grown men,I basicly had to go through the exact same tests that any grown artist had to go through.
now I sit in on a TKD class and the child classes are different and the child tests are different than the adult ones.

I was crushed, it took me 4 tests in as many years to prove to him i was good enough for my Dan Rank
I was passed up by students that were in this a lot shorter time frame than I was

notice the white stripe? usually its a solid belt and then a stripe which is a mid rank between the ranks
kind of like private and private first class
not with the Dans
traditionaly the white stripe is to offset the black because black is the color of death and mourning.

and because a black belt is not the end of your training its actually the start of a new phase of training,the start to serious trainging
getting a black belt is like graduating high school.
feels good to finish but the real work is about to start.

this was tang soo do/moo duk kwan by the way

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[quote]giterdone wrote:
Nich wrote:
age 10
with the only man that I can say raised me and treated me like a son
Master Darryl D. Khalid

its quite sad actually
I dont have any newer pics at about age 14 I left home to live on the streets and the gang life

years later I went back to his dojo which had moved by then and I had to find him,and he looked at me was hardly able to reconise me because i have both grown up and aged so horribly but after looking at his photos on the wall and looking at me and realising who I was he attacked me with hugs like you would when reunited with a lost child.
in a mall or something

I had plans of going back to him for guidance and to start off where I had left him at 14-15 and what he didnt know was I was in the middle of a very long downward spiral.
but that night I was awake all night and I was thinking.
and I was so ashamed of how this man pumped everything he knew into me and tried so hard with me because he knew my home life and him living the same hard knocks type of life he understood and wanted to make a difference.
just as he would with child he sees suffering.

it is the only thing that causes me to break down and cry,just thinking how badly I let him down.
I havent seen him since I cant face him
I have more respect for him than I do anyone ever,and I am 30 now and i plan on in couple years getting back into fighting and being a success and doing it right and facing him and finally making him proud.

I have been in martial arts both in a dojo and then after on my own for 26 years now,martial arts has been the backbone of my life no mater what i have been through its one of the few things that I have learned that has not only became what I do but what I am.
once your “into”" it long enough it becomes more of a life than a hobby,for me it did anyways

sounds cheesy but true.

Fuck man. Go see him. You don’t need to have your life in perfect order first. Just like any parent, or mentor, he won’t care what your current state is.

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see in my head I understand this,but its something I cant get over its more a personal pride self worth type thing

he tried so hard for me to give up? its not right and I dont want to be the one to show him what i have turned into
I want to save him from tha tcause i know he will take it personal that I did poorly as well.
like any true parent or teacher when his kids do well he does well,when they fail he fails in his head

and too some people dont understand how important martial arts are to some people.
they are just as important to some as relegion
thats why im watching Pch2s log,and I admire her
she found something she loves and going for it head on and that I really do admire
and I hope she sticks with it and does the best she can
ya know?
because I once was in her shoes
I was the underdog I was the one that had to prove I was better than any one else like me.work harder than the next
nothing seemed fair at all,everyone was against me and everyone was stronger,smarter,better.

just like she has to prove herself,being one of the few females around thats doing what shes doing
she is learning just like I learned theres no outside restrictions,nothing standing in your way,just yourself and all you need to do is shut the hell up and do it and youll do great
I think her bruises,sore muscles and scratches all prove her dedication.

now i will sneak back to the shadows as to not clutter her thread.

crap,through out my ramblings,I forgot to mention.
after Tang Soo Do when I left to live my life I also went to local night clubs and bars that held sponsored “tough man” fights and cage fights
where local fighters woul come in and fight for a cash prize.
I fought in those for a while,did pretty well actually but never followed through to become a real amature fighter.
these are like the fights people go to before they go on the amature card.
like legal back yard fights.

so yes I practiced martial arts and i also really fought.
learned a little grapling on my own with fighting people and seeing what they did to me.
that kind of thing

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[quote]giterdone wrote:
Nich wrote:
age 10
with the only man that I can say raised me and treated me like a son
Master Darryl D. Khalid

its quite sad actually
I dont have any newer pics at about age 14 I left home to live on the streets and the gang life

years later I went back to his dojo which had moved by then and I had to find him,and he looked at me was hardly able to reconise me because i have both grown up and aged so horribly but after looking at his photos on the wall and looking at me and realising who I was he attacked me with hugs like you would when reunited with a lost child.
in a mall or something

I had plans of going back to him for guidance and to start off where I had left him at 14-15 and what he didnt know was I was in the middle of a very long downward spiral.
but that night I was awake all night and I was thinking.
and I was so ashamed of how this man pumped everything he knew into me and tried so hard with me because he knew my home life and him living the same hard knocks type of life he understood and wanted to make a difference.
just as he would with child he sees suffering.

it is the only thing that causes me to break down and cry,just thinking how badly I let him down.
I havent seen him since I cant face him
I have more respect for him than I do anyone ever,and I am 30 now and i plan on in couple years getting back into fighting and being a success and doing it right and facing him and finally making him proud.

I have been in martial arts both in a dojo and then after on my own for 26 years now,martial arts has been the backbone of my life no mater what i have been through its one of the few things that I have learned that has not only became what I do but what I am.
once your “into”" it long enough it becomes more of a life than a hobby,for me it did anyways

sounds cheesy but true.

Fuck man. Go see him. You don’t need to have your life in perfect order first. Just like any parent, or mentor, he won’t care what your current state is.

[/quote]

I agree with giterdone, go see him. I’m sure it will mean a lot to him that he’s stuck with you all these years. We all mess up, he sounds like a great guy, he’ll understand. There’s no perfect time to do anything, do it now, let him be part of the process. If you’re working on getting things together, trust him enough to share your mess with him and ask him to help you out of it. He won’t see the mess ups, he’ll see the trying to make things better.

Oh, and there’s nothing cheesy about having someone and something influential in your life. Too many people care about nothing; it’s wonderful that you have him, and ass kicking skills :slight_smile:

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[quote]pch2 wrote:
giterdone wrote:
Nich wrote:
age 10
with the only man that I can say raised me and treated me like a son
Master Darryl D. Khalid

its quite sad actually
I dont have any newer pics at about age 14 I left home to live on the streets and the gang life

years later I went back to his dojo which had moved by then and I had to find him,and he looked at me was hardly able to reconise me because i have both grown up and aged so horribly but after looking at his photos on the wall and looking at me and realising who I was he attacked me with hugs like you would when reunited with a lost child.
in a mall or something

I had plans of going back to him for guidance and to start off where I had left him at 14-15 and what he didnt know was I was in the middle of a very long downward spiral.
but that night I was awake all night and I was thinking.
and I was so ashamed of how this man pumped everything he knew into me and tried so hard with me because he knew my home life and him living the same hard knocks type of life he understood and wanted to make a difference.
just as he would with child he sees suffering.

it is the only thing that causes me to break down and cry,just thinking how badly I let him down.
I havent seen him since I cant face him
I have more respect for him than I do anyone ever,and I am 30 now and i plan on in couple years getting back into fighting and being a success and doing it right and facing him and finally making him proud.

I have been in martial arts both in a dojo and then after on my own for 26 years now,martial arts has been the backbone of my life no mater what i have been through its one of the few things that I have learned that has not only became what I do but what I am.
once your “into”" it long enough it becomes more of a life than a hobby,for me it did anyways

sounds cheesy but true.

Fuck man. Go see him. You don’t need to have your life in perfect order first. Just like any parent, or mentor, he won’t care what your current state is.

I agree with giterdone, go see him. I’m sure it will mean a lot to him that he’s stuck with you all these years. We all mess up, he sounds like a great guy, he’ll understand. There’s no perfect time to do anything, do it now, let him be part of the process. If you’re working on getting things together, trust him enough to share your mess with him and ask him to help you out of it. He won’t see the mess ups, he’ll see the trying to make things better.

Oh, and there’s nothing cheesy about having someone and something influential in your life. Too many people care about nothing; it’s wonderful that you have him, and ass kicking skills :)[/quote]

thank you,but this thread isnt about me.
And with that said arent you supposed to be working on your ass kicking skills?

get busy woman!!! we all want to hear more. :wink:

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A little more about your post then I’ll update about Monday’s little girls and grip fighting.

[quote]Nich wrote:
he tried so hard for me to give up? its not right and I dont want to be the one to show him what i have turned into
I want to save him from tha tcause i know he will take it personal that I did poorly as well.
like any true parent or teacher when his kids do well he does well,when they fail he fails in his head[/quote]

I think you’re missing bits here. While you’re right that when children do well or poorly it’s going to effect their parents, but parents are there for support. I can really only talk about my relationship with my parents, but for them it’s much worse to not share a failure then it is to actually fail. My parents feels as though their job as parents is to create an enviroment where I trust her enough to come to her during my lows. They’re there to help you along, no one is perfect. Parents don’t expect perfection, they do expect openness and honesty. It’s easy to share your highs with everyone, the messy deep dark lows are hard to share. When someone shares those lows it means a lot. He won’t see your mess ups as his failure. He’ll see the trust in him he was able to instill so that you’re able after all of these years to still depend on him.

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After my conversation about how it would be nice to roll with a girl, a girl showed up to class. It was the same girl as the first time a girl came to a class I was in. In other words little girl number 1.

So we warmed up, because now it’s winter. We did various guard pass warm ups: knee on belly on each side, then side control on each side, then sitting in base on each side. We do each one for two minute rounds. Who knew 2 minutes was so long?

We continued with the stand up theme and jumped to closed guard. I love it! I feel so much more confident in my ability to take someone to the ground when I jump into guard than with a take down.

I was working with a girl. I get why no one wants to work with the girl. She’s probably 5’2 and weighs 109 (I asked). I had to jump on her. While size wise I wasn’t much bigger than her, I’ve got 35lbs on her, I kept worrying about smushing her. You can’t learn how to properly jump on someone when you’re worried about not jumping too hard. Then she had to jump on me. I’m not the best at keeping base while standing with someone on me (I suck at the scarecrow drill!), yet she’d jump and I wouldn’t move. I then didn’t know if I should just let her take me down, because if I were her size, I’d go down, but she should know that anyone bigger than her isn’t going to be moved. I let her take me down a few times, but after that I stopped letting her.

If all of this is going through guys heads when they work with me, I feel bad. Not bad enough to do anything about it, because what would I do? But, it lends some insight.

Next we went down into open guard. I also like this, though not as much as the jumping. It’s basically just pivoting them around your leg, so no worries with the little girl.

We then did grip fighting rounds (for these rounds of stuff, we always switch partners every two min). Everything I know about grip fighting left me, and I just ended up being swung around a bunch. Ugh. If you were to ask me what to do, I could tell you, but the actual doing hasn’t quite sunk in yet.

Then we did takedown rounds. More ugh, my first round was with Aikido guy. He kept laughing and bopping me on the head. It really just pissed me off. I’d attempt a takedown, and he do stupid Aikido flying. He didn’t actually take me down though. I managed to be not taken down for my next rounds too, but I didn’t take anyone down either.

After class I drilled the double leg with the blind guy. It was a bit of passive agressive - Oh, you don’t want to work with girls huh - but now I have the end of the double leg down. The shoot I’m still working on.

I then rolled a bit with the Mexican (the guys all have nicknames, and none of them are PC). He says he used to be a powerlifter. You know those guys that are like - yeah I used to bench 400, but powerlifter’s are all fat and that’s not functional - he’s one of them. Anyway, I managed to roll a bit strangely onto my ankle and it made a loud noise. It didn’t really hurt at the time, but I stopped rolling. It got a bit swollen monday night, so I wrapped it, and while it’s a tad sore now, it’s not a big deal.

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[quote]Nich wrote:
pch2 wrote:
giterdone wrote:
Nich wrote:
age 10
with the only man that I can say raised me and treated me like a son
Master Darryl D. Khalid

its quite sad actually
I dont have any newer pics at about age 14 I left home to live on the streets and the gang life

years later I went back to his dojo which had moved by then and I had to find him,and he looked at me was hardly able to reconise me because i have both grown up and aged so horribly but after looking at his photos on the wall and looking at me and realising who I was he attacked me with hugs like you would when reunited with a lost child.
in a mall or something

I had plans of going back to him for guidance and to start off where I had left him at 14-15 and what he didnt know was I was in the middle of a very long downward spiral.
but that night I was awake all night and I was thinking.
and I was so ashamed of how this man pumped everything he knew into me and tried so hard with me because he knew my home life and him living the same hard knocks type of life he understood and wanted to make a difference.
just as he would with child he sees suffering.

it is the only thing that causes me to break down and cry,just thinking how badly I let him down.
I havent seen him since I cant face him
I have more respect for him than I do anyone ever,and I am 30 now and i plan on in couple years getting back into fighting and being a success and doing it right and facing him and finally making him proud.

I have been in martial arts both in a dojo and then after on my own for 26 years now,martial arts has been the backbone of my life no mater what i have been through its one of the few things that I have learned that has not only became what I do but what I am.
once your “into”" it long enough it becomes more of a life than a hobby,for me it did anyways

sounds cheesy but true.

Fuck man. Go see him. You don’t need to have your life in perfect order first. Just like any parent, or mentor, he won’t care what your current state is.

I agree with giterdone, go see him. I’m sure it will mean a lot to him that he’s stuck with you all these years. We all mess up, he sounds like a great guy, he’ll understand. There’s no perfect time to do anything, do it now, let him be part of the process. If you’re working on getting things together, trust him enough to share your mess with him and ask him to help you out of it. He won’t see the mess ups, he’ll see the trying to make things better.

Oh, and there’s nothing cheesy about having someone and something influential in your life. Too many people care about nothing; it’s wonderful that you have him, and ass kicking skills :slight_smile:

thank you,but this thread isnt about me.
And with that said arent you supposed to be working on your ass kicking skills?

get busy woman!!! we all want to hear more. :wink:
[/quote]

I was going to type in “hijack” in response to you, just in an effort to lighten the mood on some heavy stuff you’re dealin’ with, but since you don’t know me, I didn’t think it was in the best taste.
But, enjoy the lols of an explained, unused joke now. I know you will.

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[quote]LightsOutLuthor wrote:
Nich wrote:
pch2 wrote:
giterdone wrote:
Nich wrote:
age 10
with the only man that I can say raised me and treated me like a son
Master Darryl D. Khalid

its quite sad actually
I dont have any newer pics at about age 14 I left home to live on the streets and the gang life

years later I went back to his dojo which had moved by then and I had to find him,and he looked at me was hardly able to reconise me because i have both grown up and aged so horribly but after looking at his photos on the wall and looking at me and realising who I was he attacked me with hugs like you would when reunited with a lost child.
in a mall or something

I had plans of going back to him for guidance and to start off where I had left him at 14-15 and what he didnt know was I was in the middle of a very long downward spiral.
but that night I was awake all night and I was thinking.
and I was so ashamed of how this man pumped everything he knew into me and tried so hard with me because he knew my home life and him living the same hard knocks type of life he understood and wanted to make a difference.
just as he would with child he sees suffering.

it is the only thing that causes me to break down and cry,just thinking how badly I let him down.
I havent seen him since I cant face him
I have more respect for him than I do anyone ever,and I am 30 now and i plan on in couple years getting back into fighting and being a success and doing it right and facing him and finally making him proud.

I have been in martial arts both in a dojo and then after on my own for 26 years now,martial arts has been the backbone of my life no mater what i have been through its one of the few things that I have learned that has not only became what I do but what I am.
once your “into”" it long enough it becomes more of a life than a hobby,for me it did anyways

sounds cheesy but true.

Fuck man. Go see him. You don’t need to have your life in perfect order first. Just like any parent, or mentor, he won’t care what your current state is.

I agree with giterdone, go see him. I’m sure it will mean a lot to him that he’s stuck with you all these years. We all mess up, he sounds like a great guy, he’ll understand. There’s no perfect time to do anything, do it now, let him be part of the process. If you’re working on getting things together, trust him enough to share your mess with him and ask him to help you out of it. He won’t see the mess ups, he’ll see the trying to make things better.

Oh, and there’s nothing cheesy about having someone and something influential in your life. Too many people care about nothing; it’s wonderful that you have him, and ass kicking skills :slight_smile:

thank you,but this thread isnt about me.
And with that said arent you supposed to be working on your ass kicking skills?

get busy woman!!! we all want to hear more. :wink:

I was going to type in “hijack” in response to you, just in an effort to lighten the mood on some heavy stuff you’re dealin’ with, but since you don’t know me, I didn’t think it was in the best taste.
But, enjoy the lols of an explained, unused joke now. I know you will. [/quote]

dont you hate when you have to explain the joke to the slower folk?

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[quote]Nich wrote:
LightsOutLuthor wrote:
I was going to type in “hijack” in response to you, just in an effort to lighten the mood on some heavy stuff you’re dealin’ with, but since you don’t know me, I didn’t think it was in the best taste.
But, enjoy the lols of an explained, unused joke now. I know you will.

dont you hate when you have to explain the joke to the slower folk?
[/quote]

In some cases it’s the joke that’s stupid, not the audience. :slight_smile:

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Had to be said. Thanks, Luther.

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Last night I tried something new with my schedule. I was feeling bad because I slept through tuesday’s lifting, so I went to the school’s rec center. Normally I don’t go to the Rec because I don’t like to run into students.

It’s brand new, and right here so I sucked it up. It’s really pretty, and they have a bunch of machine’s I’ve never seen. There’s a circuit of weight machines with cardio equipment between each machine and a recorded voice that tells you what to do and when to move to different machines. I watched a few kids doing it while I warmed up, and while it’s stupid, the machine’s are really fancy. I think I’m going to have to schedule longer to just dick around.

I didn’t schedule well, so just ended up:

MM
YTLW 5 3x8
1 arm db cleans 30 4x5 35 5x1

Then I had to book to BJJ.

I like the cleans as a warm up though, they really do work everything. I think I may do this more often.

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[quote]pch2 wrote:
Nich wrote:
LightsOutLuthor wrote:
I was going to type in “hijack” in response to you, just in an effort to lighten the mood on some heavy stuff you’re dealin’ with, but since you don’t know me, I didn’t think it was in the best taste.

But, enjoy the lols of an explained, unused joke now. I know you will.

dont you hate when you have to explain the joke to the slower folk?

In some cases it’s the joke that’s stupid, not the audience. :)[/quote]

Oh yeah? Well your jokes…are…stupid, er…and smell!

BURN

FACE!

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I’ve been doing stuff, lots of stuff! I’ll fill in details later, but the broad strokes for now:

Wends BJJ: More on the feet! Hip tossing!

Thurs BJJ: We did a take down where you drop and kinda wrap around one of their legs and push them over.

Friday: Sleep!

Sat: Seminar with DD and her Coach.

Sun: More BJJ with DD and her Coach.

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COOL stuff!!

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Wends, we drilled the hip toss. You grab an arm and a lapel. Jerk him forward a bit to cause him to break base. Then step squatted down a little between his legs. Your hips should be lower than his. Then you straighten your legs and tilt a bit which rolls him over your hips and onto the ground on his back.

Coach told us to pair with someone of a similar size, which was the new guy standing next to me. He had had on a long sleeved rash guard, sweat pants that cuffed and socks. I mention his clothes because he kept slipping due to the socks.

I asked him why he didn’t just take them off. Why? He doesn’t like touching people. Really? Who does BJJ if they don’t like being in close contact with people? This is not the sport for people who have personal space issues.

If you can’t tell, I just didn’t like the kid. He actually just creeped me out. I was drilling and he was the dummy. So, basically my ass was on his crotch and I could tell he was really enjoying the drill.

What am I supposed to do in those cases? I don’t care if it’s an involuntary reaction, I don’t want to feel dick while rolling. I threw him really hard a few times, but then just let him throw me. How do I insure we’re never partners again?

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[quote]pch2 wrote:
How do I insure we’re never partners again?
[/quote]

You gotta just tell your coach that you are not comfortable with ever working with that guy again. Coach has to make sure his dojo is an inviting place for all participants, and I’m sure without getting to specific, he’ll be able to accommodate you.

Are you sure this kid wasn’t wearing a cup or something? I can’t imagine having that happen at all. Once a guy gets past 13 and doesn’t have to ride the bus to school anymore, it’s no longer involuntary and those situations are perfectly controllable.

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[quote]borrek wrote:
You gotta just tell your coach that you are not comfortable with ever working with that guy again. Coach has to make sure his dojo is an inviting place for all participants, and I’m sure without getting to specific, he’ll be able to accommodate you.[/quote]

I guess I’ll see if he shows up again.

He wasn’t, the pre-class talking lately has been about groin injuries. I know the cup wearing status of all the guys.

[quote] I can’t imagine having that happen at all. Once a guy gets past 13 and doesn’t have to ride the bus to school anymore, it’s no longer involuntary and those situations are perfectly controllable.
[/quote]

Well, he was also handling me like I was a girl. If that makes any sense.

Regardless, I now have someone to avoid.

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[quote]pch2 wrote:
Wends, we drilled the hip toss. You grab an arm and a lapel. Jerk him forward a bit to cause him to break base. Then step squatted down a little between his legs. Your hips should be lower than his. Then you straighten your legs and tilt a bit which rolls him over your hips and onto the ground on his back.

Coach told us to pair with someone of a similar size, which was the new guy standing next to me.

[/quote]

You can toss anyone of any size.
I love hip tosses,it is one of the moves that takes very little strength,
If you are “slamming” him down than you are doing it wrong
should be nice and easy and fluid.

Practice it when you get to tossing guys 2-3 times your size, You will be like
" Yea,whos your momma!!"

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Thursday was another takedown. We started with a collar grip and a wrist. Then dropped down with one leg wrapped around his leg, and then drove them through to the ground. It’s a hard takedown to describe, but I liked it.

The little girl from last week showed up again, but we worked in a group of three so I didn’t really have to deal with taking her down. We just took poor Dean down over and over. He got to work on his break fall.

I was with her for the rounds of take downs, but she was scared, so I just let her take me down. Since she was scared, we worked together for all of the rounds but one. She then worked with coach and I got the Mexican.

He kept pushing my head down when I’d shoot in. I need to remember to keep posture when shooting. He also kept getting really good grips, and in real time none of the breaks were coming to me.

I stayed and drilled the double leg for a while, and had one of the blue belts remind me how to do grip breaks. I left class on thursday feeling really good.

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I’ve been stealing from sleep in order to train and get in lab time. I’m getting about 6 hours a night during the week, and I need more than that. So, Friday’s lately I’ve been coming home and crashing for 12-13 hours. This Friday was no different.

[quote]Nich wrote:
You can toss anyone of any size.
I love hip tosses,it is one of the moves that takes very little strength,
If you are “slamming” him down than you are doing it wrong
should be nice and easy and fluid.

Practice it when you get to tossing guys 2-3 times your size, You will be like
" Yea,whos your momma!!"
[/quote]

I tried it a few times with one of the big guys I’m comfortable with, and it is great. I love tossing the big guys around! The takedowns don’t seem real with small kids.

I slammed him because he was pissing me off.