I second everyone.
Granted itās flipped for me. Iām the one who trains and my husband doesnāt.
He isnāt completely clueless, but heās all over the place most times, and canāt really transfer much to the movements from how he envisions it in his head.
When I first met him he was pushing 265-270, now heās slimmed down to a decent 225-235.
It really isnāt even about paying that much attention to how over weight someone is, let having fun, spending time together, seeing who can beat who, friendly competition, and taking it one day at a time be the driving factor for stuff like this. Typically thereās some mental things that need fixing as well. Focus on that first. A good amount of the time, the overweightness is more or less a symptom of something much deeper. Be it sadness, or illness, or whatever else.
My husband didnāt even really step foot in the gym. Most of what we did, was just doing goofy young people crap.
Seeing who can race who the fastest across the parking lot, jumping in a lake and swimming around when we werenāt supposed to be trespassing anyways, walking the dogs, walking at the park, grappling matches in the living room, running out of gas, and having to push someoneās car because weāre incompetent like that sometimes, moving stuff around, getting lost on foot or while biking, etc.
Make it fun dude. And perhaps work on some self confidence, and developing some sort of dedication and discipline for exercise or keeping in shape, because that too takes work.
Not saying my husband has it down pat, shit, neither do I, but he does small things that have been building up over time. He walks in the morning a couple times a week when he gets off work, cuts out the processed bread and what not, drinks more water, gets more protein in during the mornings before he sleeps, eats more veggies, etc.