PAUL: Shhhhh! Don’t tell it to Smithers! ;ppppppp
The women I have been with have on many occasions not been interested in giving me a blow job, even after I had been down there for some time (sometimes a very long time) and quite frankly I understand perfectly. If you’ve just climaxed (perhaps even a couple of times) relaxation takes priority.
Likewise, If I was given a blowjob, I wouldn’t like the idea that I had to “pay it back”.
HOWEVER, if it is part of the foreplay, which is probably the most common time for oral sex, I’d say reciprocation is pretty much a given.
Alas, such is not always the case, and apparently that goes both ways.
/Jacob
Here Dan C - this one’s longer
“Bucko”
Your a complete idiot.
Did I hit a sore spot? To relieve all that stress you have try getting your cock sucked instead of being a …
I just have to point to mine, chicks love me so it’s not an issue.
Yeah, you hit my ‘I expect quality replies’ button. T-Forums usually has a certain baseline of intelligent replies. And a tradition of keeping standards high. Remember Bigconan.
Other than to signify your disapproval of my viewpoints, you post did not add nothing more. Except an unwarranted negative twitst, to which I replied in kind (Bucko).
Now if you have nothing more to say, to prove me wrong and/or assert the depth, please do all forumites a favor and abstain from commenting in such a way. It adds nothing, and it can be done far more civilly.
And, should you need it, I will have no problem in kicking your ass back if you want this to degenerate to a flame war. When one asks for it, he gets served. Your choice.
smithers - I’m not usually anal about spelling & grammar, but you really don’t want to fuck up a statement like this:
“Your a complete idiot.”
And the matter at hand is called “bobbing for diamonds”. There are women (I’ve heard them say it) that are thankful for the wedding day, because they know that they don’t have to give any more blowjobs.
Another possibility is that a lot of women grew up not seeing a lot of affection (and hopefully not blowjobs!) between their parents. We base a lot of our decisions and actions on what we grew up with, because it was “normal”.
Hm, I guess I take my wife for granted. We have been together for 14 years, and she still takes great care of me. My sexual appetite is MUCH higher than hers and she knows it. We have two kids and work full time, so we don’t get sex nearly as much as we used to (once or twice a week), but if I want sex and she is not up for it, she will give me a bj just to placate me. Here is the kicker… She is still really good at it, if not better than she was when we were young. She knows exactly how I like it. Sometimes, if it is late she will rush me a little, which isn’t the best of all possible scenarios, but hey, I can’t complain… it is far better than nothing.
I do take regular showers though so I smell good, plus I exercise regularly, and I am hardly unambitious, so things don’t have to suck (no pun intended) just because the honeymoon is over. But, Luli did make the point that some men don’t fall apart, some do. I guess I am in the first category. I am glad I read this thread though, because although I am always wanting sex, I have to realize that for our age and circumstances, we don’t have it all that bad.
jp - ever tried a blowjob on a swiss ball?
Just messing with you.
just to explain…i was with the same guy for seven years. i hope he was just bad…i think it was probably just him but he was disgusting towards the end. I think he changed his underwear like once a week after we’d been together for five years or so but at least he did bathe regularly. So…i guess its not all guys that are pigs. just him.
At least he sees the errors of his ways now. and so do i. the next guy i go out with will be getting plenty of blow jobs…as long as he takes care of himself. geez i have pretty low standards too…hmm change your underwear regularly…
You bring up an interesting point, bigprljamfan (damn that’s a pain to type out!), in that I’ve heard that a lot from other women.
I don’t get why some guys are like that, because I ask my wife if I can pay her a little “lip service”, even when she hasn’t hinted that she’d like it. In fact one little game we used to play as soon as we got out of the shower was “taste test”. (She never did fail one of those “tests”, I might add ;))
Also, contrary to the tone of my previous posts, I am lucky to have been married to this wonderful lady for 10 years, and together with her for 14. We still enjoy incredible lovemaking as I’ve kind of adapted to the fact that although the oral pleasure isn’t there as much as it could be in my mind, hell, I certainly don’t have room to complain!
It’s just that the frustration kind of comes to the surface once in awhile, know what I mean?
Oh, and aren’t blowjobs what the office interns are for?
The most potent libido killer for women is…wedding cake!
i am in the same boat as bigprljamfan. However, the sexes are reversed. I go down as often as possible with little or no reciprocation. Not to mention her sex drive died a few months ago despite my best efforts ie, full body massages with candles, eating her out, not moving too fast ect. I feel like I give 110% effort in the relationship and she gives about 10% effort. I clean for her and keep everything nice, take care of myself but to no avail! No reward! Ah well, What would T-man do?!?!?!
I love giving my guy head and we have been together 13 years. He is great at giving a backrub and for doing the sweet things he always did in the beginning of our relationship. A gentle kiss here and there out of the blue, not just the quick peck goodby. A kiss on my neck as I load the dishwasher and he helps! Sees the laundry basket at the top of the stairs and brings it down for me, without my asking, that type of thing. He also shaves just because I love those little crevaces (sp) that I find and those sweet veins. Oh sorry, probably more than you needed to know.
Maybe its because he always satisfies me mentally as well as sexually. You cannot be aggravated with each other, griping about laundry, bills whatever and then have great sex a few hours later. I say, give me a hand with things and I’ll might make those chores more fun. For instance, the day my guy brought that laundry basket down for me without my asking, we had a great time on that washing machine.
Sometimes you need to do a little work for your loving. Its just not walking around with a hard on, looking to get sucked. Maybe if you try a little more to be how you were in the beginning, you will get more. Or maybe, I’ve got more “t” than some women so I want sex more or maybe my guy seems to know what makes me tick, whatever it is, he knows I still love to go down on him and he always does his time with me. Its give and take and maybe if you give to your women first, you will receive? Just my view.
I have usually been on the opposite end. I give a lot and usually don’t get enough back. It really pisses me off. So, I make sure I get mine first now. Then she gets hers. Since I’m so dam good at foreplay this usually gets me a LOT more head. I would really like a woman who really enjoyed every part of giving sex as well as recieving. It does have to do a lot with give and take but I think a lot of women think that sex is bad/gross period. I wouldn’t say majority anymore but still enough of them have been brainwashed by thier puritan mothers/fathers. These women think of the male body as a big piece of shit, bloated, fat, smelly animal. Funny thing is that when you present them a chiseled, well cared for physique and enough brains to satisify thier needs in bed they become ravenous animals themselves. What I really would like is a woman that can give really good head. Yeah sure getting it is one thing, but getting a nut emptying, I think I’m going to marry you just for your mouth BJ, is another. I’ve actually been with women who I told to stop because they weren’t any good at it. These are usually the same women who lie on thier backs and don’t know any other posistion. This wouldn’t be such a bad thing if they were willing to learn, but I think women are way worse at taking direction in bed then men. I’ve always been willing to try something new and to take critical direction. But every time I tried to give a suggestion they get really upset and offended. I did have one girl who actually asked me to tell her what to do, but when I did she got a complex and thought she was horrible in bed.
Blondeblue… Very EXCELLENT point! I noticed a direct correlation between my help around the house and with the kids and my frequency of nooky (in whatever form that may come in).
Jared, you were joking about the whole swiss ball thing? Well, a bj doesn’t necessarily work well on one, but other things do! 
My guess is that women are as horny as men at start. They want to have their brains fucked out, really. Some just require more ‘foreplay’/caring than others. How many times you see women in the news go crazy (break marriages, etc)because of a dick story? It happens.
(Yes, potential feminists, men are not better. It takes two to do these types of things outside of homo/lesbo circles.)
But there comes a point where too much (foreplay) is just too much. Specially if the woman longs more for foreplay than the act itself - in that case it’s a sign the way of doing things has to change.
Maybe there’s just two types too. The Potpourri gang and the I can take it gang, with a gradient of individuals between the extremes. Throw in a little spice or curve ball every so often and things keep more alive too.
It may sound like an oversimplification, but the truth is often very simple and beautiful things emerge by keeping it this way.
Just my 2 cents.
Dawgontheporch, T-man would find a new vixen that respected his needs as much as he did hers.
Great post, blondeblue!
he he hee “Bobbing for Diamonds”
Everyone just has to face the reality that in the courting phase, all the niceties are attended to. After that, real life sets in. The whole “true colors” deal.
A woman that loves giving head will continue to love giving head. If you truely have such a woman and she has “lost interest” then sac up and face the fact that it’s YOU she’s lost interest in - not in gobbling cock. Check yourself - what have you done (or not done) in the physical, mental, emotional, spiritual and psychological realms to turn her off to you. Fix yourself and then get your knobber.
A woman that doesn’t love giving head will probably fake it until she’s bobbed the appropriate number of times to get her diamond and then fuhgedaboudit! Not much different than the man that doesn’t truely enjoy going down. He’ll do it because he thinks he’s supposed to but will eventually slack off on it and/or come up with any number of excuses to avoid it.
Not rocket science, people.
Fine, ~karma~, point well taken.
Guess I’ll have to get off my ass and actually help around the house.
And maybe get my own beer.
Seems like a lot of work for a freakin’ hummer!