Man the hell up!
You’re bitching about nothing. Its not hard to live a strict bodybuilding lifestyle and still do other things.
rocketman122, you’ll get little to no sympathy here for two reasons. One is for the whiny tone of your message, which is not good. It shows how you are dealing with your problems and it’s leading nowhere. The other is about your lifestyle, to which I can relate. To specify, I’m talking about friends being away and an introverted approach to social life. Introversion is in a minority position with extroversion and I’ve got the feeling that, among bodybuilders, the introversion is even rarer.
You already explained that you had some issues in the past, about your wife and how you were very fat then young. I’ve got the feeling that these fears have way too much influence in your life. Add stress on top of that and you are probably not happy with your life. Virgo or not (that’s not important at all), you need to overcome those fears and try to be happy.
You can start by relaxing a bit about the eating and the training. You train every four or five days, so I’m sure it’s fine if you postpone it one day more so you can spend time with your girlfriend. Also, skipping a meal is not the end of the world and you can make up for it later. Also, cheating is not so nasty if you do it time to time
Think about it, how a single meal once a week is going to cause that many issues? You have 49 meals a week, ONE is not going to ruin anything at all. Plus, cheating doesn’t need to be candy and cakes, it can also be some burgers or pizzas or whatever and those have nutrients as well. You’ll not go fat for cheating time to time. You may not even pack a single gram of fat from it either.
Now, I’m not a specialist, but I think you have to be very honest with yourself and recognize that there are some issues deep there that need to be fixed. It seems that your psychologist is slacking or going circles. It’s NOT easy at all to sit down, think and write what’s wrong with you. It’s certainly not pleasant, but only from there you can start chasing happiness.
So, write down why you are stressed. It’s not because you’re virgo, for sure.
[quote]Hallowed wrote:
wrong girl for you whats your confusion here?[/quote]
This.
Didn’t bother to read the responses beyond that because I am pretty sure you were told to:
- Stop bitching/whining
- Find someone who understands and supports your goals
- Stop bitching/whining
- Stop being a whiny bitch
Catch my drift? Another thread about this subject? Really?
[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
[quote]rocketman122 wrote:
Met her on a dating website. she didnt stop sending me notes. we hit it off when we first spoke. 3 hour convo. driving to her is tiring though. I just dont know how to kill because I know its going to get worse.[/quote]
See, stuff like this looks really bad unless you are a serial killer. Then it looks like an everyday thought, but even in that context, it still looks really fucking bad to a normal person.
Maybe you should see a real life psychiatrist.
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Okay I thought I was the only one to pick up on “I JUST DONT KNOW HOW TO KILL” WTF
[quote]Edevus wrote:
rocketman122, you’ll get little to no sympathy here for two reasons. One is for the whiny tone of your message, which is not good. It shows how you are dealing with your problems and it’s leading nowhere. The other is about your lifestyle, to which I can relate. To specify, I’m talking about friends being away and an introverted approach to social life. Introversion is in a minority position with extroversion and I’ve got the feeling that, among bodybuilders, the introversion is even rarer.
You already explained that you had some issues in the past, about your wife and how you were very fat then young. I’ve got the feeling that these fears have way too much influence in your life. Add stress on top of that and you are probably not happy with your life. Virgo or not (that’s not important at all), you need to overcome those fears and try to be happy.
You can start by relaxing a bit about the eating and the training. You train every four or five days, so I’m sure it’s fine if you postpone it one day more so you can spend time with your girlfriend. Also, skipping a meal is not the end of the world and you can make up for it later. Also, cheating is not so nasty if you do it time to time. Think about it, how a single meal once a week is going to cause that many issues? You have 49 meals a week, ONE is not going to ruin anything at all. Plus, cheating doesn’t need to be candy and cakes, it can also be some burgers or pizzas or whatever and those have nutrients as well. You’ll not go fat for cheating time to time. You may not even pack a single gram of fat from it either.
Now, I’m not a specialist, but I think you have to be very honest with yourself and recognize that there are some issues deep there that need to be fixed. It seems that your psychologist is slacking or going circles. It’s NOT easy at all to sit down, think and write what’s wrong with you. It’s certainly not pleasant, but only from there you can start chasing happiness.
So, write down why you are stressed. It’s not because you’re virgo, for sure. [/quote]
Great post.
[quote]lewhitehurst wrote:
[quote]Hallowed wrote:
wrong girl for you whats your confusion here?[/quote]
This.
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x3
[quote]JaseHxC wrote:
Have you ever considered the fact that you might be a homosexual and all the stress in your life is caused by you choosing not to come out of the closet? Seriously, don’t fight who you are dude. Maybe getting cornholed (I’d imagine you’d be a “bottom”) by a group of a guys every Saturday night is just what you need![/quote]
lol
You have the same disease as JFK? That shouldn’t stop you, JFK got laid ALL THE FUCKING TIME, and he was a pretty busy guy too. I’m sure you can find the time and energy for it.
But seriously, if you are having girl trouble, it is very easy to break up with someone (as long as you aren’t tied together through children or major financial deals). Just tell her it’s not working out, or we should see other people, or it’s not you it’s me, or have her read this thread. So many people on these forums make dating way more complicated than it is.
Let go of the drama - it looks like it consumes you in every facet. You’re too old for that shit.
Words fail me.
Usually I wouldn’t post in a thread like this, but I feel compelled, mainly because if you read some of my stuff you’d see that I’m pretty insane with my diet/working out as well.
I think one thing you need to ask yourself- ARE YOU HAPPY? Think about it. When you eat your balanced well timed meals, and you’re in the gym, do you do it all with PLEASURE or are you doing it as a CHORE? I can tell you flat out- I LOVE every minute I put into myself. There has not been one time this summer that I didn’t enjoy my steamed broccoli and plain grilled chicken.
I enthusiastically gulp down my broccoli/greek yogurt/Metabolic Drive shake every morning. Are you MISERABLE eating all the stuff you do? Take a real look at yourself, and then answer. Again, if this is all a chore, and you really aren’t happy, then you may want to reconsider your schedule/eating/plan/whatever.
2nd thing (someone mentioned- i didn’t read through the answer)- why do you workout? Not going to elaborate on this- but what’s the reason you are so obsessed with working out? Is it to get laid (honestly- you may not want to admit it- but do you really hope to be getting laid out of all your work?) If it is, then I think theres a bit of a “paradox” (is that the right word?) - Think about it- you’re working out to get laid, but now instead getting laid, you need to workout- see the cycle?
I need to go, but lastly, you really, REALLY can’t have sex before bed and then just fall asleep, EVEN if it’s every day other than your leg day? If sex makes you tired, then do it before bed, and then fall asleep together. If you’re in a loving relationship then you should be happy to go to bed with her in your arms.
-Another note- if you don’t want to have sex because of the girl, or you’d rather jerk off than have sex- you need to dump this girl and find a new one.
Shouldn’t need to elaborate on this one. If you WANT to have sex (which you should- at least relatively often like a couple times a week minimum) but you find you rarely want to rip your girl’s clothes off and have your way with her, you probably aren’t attracted to her, and since your’re relatively young (ie- you arent 85 years old) you can find a girl who you’re physically and mentally attracted to.
Did you ever consider maybe YOU aren’t ready for a girlfriend? Just a thought.
My only advice is to never ever complain about your exercise/eating to people in real life.
Actually, try not to talk about it at all. If you start to look good just let people you naturally look that good and that going to the gym and weighing your food is for fags.
[quote]H factor wrote:
I hardly ever post here, but this is blowing my mind if you aren’t trolling.
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Why do you train? Seriously? What for? You aren’t competing. I’m not competing. I train to get laid and looking great helps you get laid. You aren’t very old. And yet getting laid doesn’t seem to be a high priority. Not trying to be a dick, but this sounds like an actual problem. I’m not trying to say sex is everything, but young men should want sex.
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You sound like the most stressed out person I’ve ever met. You’ve cheated once in 14 months or whatever you said? What the fuck does that mean? How tight is your asshole? You’re one of those guys that stopwatches his meals aren’t you? And you’re not competing so it makes no sense. Do you read this site? How much do you read professionals on this site talk about cutting back on stress. How much do you read about the benefits of cheating? Benefits for your body and mind. If you pulled the stick out of your ass I bet you’d see better results. And you’d be happier which brings me to my last point.
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You don’t seem happy. At all. You have a maybe decent girlfriend (I can’t really tell) who wants you to relax because you are uptight as hell about something you do way less than I do anyways. You only have two friends and they don’t live nearby? Why? Why are you not out meeting people? You sound like you need some hobbies, and I’m not talking about training. Meet some guys, play some fantasy football or Xbox, make some friends. Let’s say you dedicate yourself and have the perfect body…then what? That doesn’t create happiness. I love lifting and I love looking good…but not nearly as much as my friends, family, fiance, job, etc. You should be healthy to enjoy those aspects of your life better. It sounds like you’re killing yourself and miserable as fuck, but won’t relax because this is “what you do.”
I don’t know if that will help out at all, but you inspired me to post and I pretty much never post on here. Just reading this blew my mind. Good luck if you aren’t trolling. And kudos on a good troll if you are. And you look too old to be wearing Hollister, Abercrombie anyways. Just saying. [/quote]
This reminds me of when someone asked me why do I modify my car so much. Why do you need it to go so fast. You can’t go that fast anywhere anyways, so why bother. People who ask that, will never understand, either about cars or bodybuilding.
I simply like knowing i have a superior car compared to you. I like knowing my supercharger cost probably as much as your whole car does. I like knowing at any given time, i can blow you car off the road like its standing still. same with bodybuilding. I like and take great joy in knowing, im physically bigger and stronger than you. That i can crush the life out of you at any time I choose. I like that feeling of being superior. Am i saying i am superior, No. But being bigger and stronger than 99.99% of the people on this planet gives me great joy.
I’d advise you to find some better eating habbits. There’s no science backing the “6 meals a day” idealism. Take a look around at all the big and strong people you know, that’s if you actually know any. How many of them train only once every 4 days? That would be 0, unless you consider the 165lb hardasses you’ve met on these forums to be big. There’s nothing wrong with being passionate about training, just realize that no one is really going to give a fuck.
Unless you’re planning on leading an incredibly lonely and uninteresting life I’d suggest bloom some balls in that skin sack dangling in between your legs and realize this. Obsessing over training and diet is only going to stress you out and wreck your mind. Go eat sushi. Get laid. Drink a beer every now and then. I could have taken this opportunity to troll the absolute shit out of you, but I decided to give you some advice.
[quote]roguevampire wrote:
[quote]H factor wrote:
I hardly ever post here, but this is blowing my mind if you aren’t trolling.
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Why do you train? Seriously? What for? You aren’t competing. I’m not competing. I train to get laid and looking great helps you get laid. You aren’t very old. And yet getting laid doesn’t seem to be a high priority. Not trying to be a dick, but this sounds like an actual problem. I’m not trying to say sex is everything, but young men should want sex.
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You sound like the most stressed out person I’ve ever met. You’ve cheated once in 14 months or whatever you said? What the fuck does that mean? How tight is your asshole? You’re one of those guys that stopwatches his meals aren’t you? And you’re not competing so it makes no sense. Do you read this site? How much do you read professionals on this site talk about cutting back on stress. How much do you read about the benefits of cheating? Benefits for your body and mind. If you pulled the stick out of your ass I bet you’d see better results. And you’d be happier which brings me to my last point.
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You don’t seem happy. At all. You have a maybe decent girlfriend (I can’t really tell) who wants you to relax because you are uptight as hell about something you do way less than I do anyways. You only have two friends and they don’t live nearby? Why? Why are you not out meeting people? You sound like you need some hobbies, and I’m not talking about training. Meet some guys, play some fantasy football or Xbox, make some friends. Let’s say you dedicate yourself and have the perfect body…then what? That doesn’t create happiness. I love lifting and I love looking good…but not nearly as much as my friends, family, fiance, job, etc. You should be healthy to enjoy those aspects of your life better. It sounds like you’re killing yourself and miserable as fuck, but won’t relax because this is “what you do.”
I don’t know if that will help out at all, but you inspired me to post and I pretty much never post on here. Just reading this blew my mind. Good luck if you aren’t trolling. And kudos on a good troll if you are. And you look too old to be wearing Hollister, Abercrombie anyways. Just saying. [/quote]
This reminds me of when someone asked me why do I modify my car so much. Why do you need it to go so fast. You can’t go that fast anywhere anyways, so why bother. People who ask that, will never understand, either about cars or bodybuilding.
I simply like knowing i have a superior car compared to you. I like knowing my supercharger cost probably as much as your whole car does. I like knowing at any given time, i can blow you car off the road like its standing still. same with bodybuilding. I like and take great joy in knowing, im physically bigger and stronger than you. That i can crush the life out of you at any time I choose. I like that feeling of being superior. Am i saying i am superior, No. But being bigger and stronger than 99.99% of the people on this planet gives me great joy.[/quote]
Who’s Dave btw?
[quote]Stern wrote:
[quote]roguevampire wrote:
[quote]H factor wrote:
I hardly ever post here, but this is blowing my mind if you aren’t trolling.
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Why do you train? Seriously? What for? You aren’t competing. I’m not competing. I train to get laid and looking great helps you get laid. You aren’t very old. And yet getting laid doesn’t seem to be a high priority. Not trying to be a dick, but this sounds like an actual problem. I’m not trying to say sex is everything, but young men should want sex.
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You sound like the most stressed out person I’ve ever met. You’ve cheated once in 14 months or whatever you said? What the fuck does that mean? How tight is your asshole? You’re one of those guys that stopwatches his meals aren’t you? And you’re not competing so it makes no sense. Do you read this site? How much do you read professionals on this site talk about cutting back on stress. How much do you read about the benefits of cheating? Benefits for your body and mind. If you pulled the stick out of your ass I bet you’d see better results. And you’d be happier which brings me to my last point.
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You don’t seem happy. At all. You have a maybe decent girlfriend (I can’t really tell) who wants you to relax because you are uptight as hell about something you do way less than I do anyways. You only have two friends and they don’t live nearby? Why? Why are you not out meeting people? You sound like you need some hobbies, and I’m not talking about training. Meet some guys, play some fantasy football or Xbox, make some friends. Let’s say you dedicate yourself and have the perfect body…then what? That doesn’t create happiness. I love lifting and I love looking good…but not nearly as much as my friends, family, fiance, job, etc. You should be healthy to enjoy those aspects of your life better. It sounds like you’re killing yourself and miserable as fuck, but won’t relax because this is “what you do.”
I don’t know if that will help out at all, but you inspired me to post and I pretty much never post on here. Just reading this blew my mind. Good luck if you aren’t trolling. And kudos on a good troll if you are. And you look too old to be wearing Hollister, Abercrombie anyways. Just saying. [/quote]
This reminds me of when someone asked me why do I modify my car so much. Why do you need it to go so fast. You can’t go that fast anywhere anyways, so why bother. People who ask that, will never understand, either about cars or bodybuilding.
I simply like knowing i have a superior car compared to you. I like knowing my supercharger cost probably as much as your whole car does. I like knowing at any given time, i can blow you car off the road like its standing still. same with bodybuilding. I like and take great joy in knowing, im physically bigger and stronger than you. That i can crush the life out of you at any time I choose. I like that feeling of being superior. Am i saying i am superior, No. But being bigger and stronger than 99.99% of the people on this planet gives me great joy.[/quote]
Who’s Dave btw?
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Life Partner, damn Stern how many times do I have to tell you man.
[quote]DJHT wrote:
[quote]Stern wrote:
[quote]roguevampire wrote:
[quote]H factor wrote:
I hardly ever post here, but this is blowing my mind if you aren’t trolling.
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Why do you train? Seriously? What for? You aren’t competing. I’m not competing. I train to get laid and looking great helps you get laid. You aren’t very old. And yet getting laid doesn’t seem to be a high priority. Not trying to be a dick, but this sounds like an actual problem. I’m not trying to say sex is everything, but young men should want sex.
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You sound like the most stressed out person I’ve ever met. You’ve cheated once in 14 months or whatever you said? What the fuck does that mean? How tight is your asshole? You’re one of those guys that stopwatches his meals aren’t you? And you’re not competing so it makes no sense. Do you read this site? How much do you read professionals on this site talk about cutting back on stress. How much do you read about the benefits of cheating? Benefits for your body and mind. If you pulled the stick out of your ass I bet you’d see better results. And you’d be happier which brings me to my last point.
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You don’t seem happy. At all. You have a maybe decent girlfriend (I can’t really tell) who wants you to relax because you are uptight as hell about something you do way less than I do anyways. You only have two friends and they don’t live nearby? Why? Why are you not out meeting people? You sound like you need some hobbies, and I’m not talking about training. Meet some guys, play some fantasy football or Xbox, make some friends. Let’s say you dedicate yourself and have the perfect body…then what? That doesn’t create happiness. I love lifting and I love looking good…but not nearly as much as my friends, family, fiance, job, etc. You should be healthy to enjoy those aspects of your life better. It sounds like you’re killing yourself and miserable as fuck, but won’t relax because this is “what you do.”
I don’t know if that will help out at all, but you inspired me to post and I pretty much never post on here. Just reading this blew my mind. Good luck if you aren’t trolling. And kudos on a good troll if you are. And you look too old to be wearing Hollister, Abercrombie anyways. Just saying. [/quote]
This reminds me of when someone asked me why do I modify my car so much. Why do you need it to go so fast. You can’t go that fast anywhere anyways, so why bother. People who ask that, will never understand, either about cars or bodybuilding.
I simply like knowing i have a superior car compared to you. I like knowing my supercharger cost probably as much as your whole car does. I like knowing at any given time, i can blow you car off the road like its standing still. same with bodybuilding. I like and take great joy in knowing, im physically bigger and stronger than you. That i can crush the life out of you at any time I choose. I like that feeling of being superior. Am i saying i am superior, No. But being bigger and stronger than 99.99% of the people on this planet gives me great joy.[/quote]
Who’s Dave btw?
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Life Partner, damn Stern how many times do I have to tell you man. [/quote]
haha! I thought you were joking DJ? =D
I thought RV was in to young girls and dead women, not men. Oo
[quote]roguevampire wrote:
This reminds me of when someone asked me why do I modify my car so much. Why do you need it to go so fast. You can’t go that fast anywhere anyways, so why bother. People who ask that, will never understand, either about cars or bodybuilding.
I simply like knowing i have a superior car compared to you. I like knowing my supercharger cost probably as much as your whole car does. I like knowing at any given time, i can blow you car off the road like its standing still. same with bodybuilding. I like and take great joy in knowing, im physically bigger and stronger than you. That i can crush the life out of you at any time I choose. I like that feeling of being superior. Am i saying i am superior, No. But being bigger and stronger than 99.99% of the people on this planet gives me great joy.[/quote]
Some day, you’re going to get whacked off by some 130 lb kid and he’ll say (as he’s laying over your lifeless body), “Superior? no, no you’re not. Crush the life out of me at any time you want? No, no you didn’t.”
then stop whining and go dump her already.
[quote]Stern wrote:
[quote]roguevampire wrote:
[quote]H factor wrote:
I hardly ever post here, but this is blowing my mind if you aren’t trolling.
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Why do you train? Seriously? What for? You aren’t competing. I’m not competing. I train to get laid and looking great helps you get laid. You aren’t very old. And yet getting laid doesn’t seem to be a high priority. Not trying to be a dick, but this sounds like an actual problem. I’m not trying to say sex is everything, but young men should want sex.
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You sound like the most stressed out person I’ve ever met. You’ve cheated once in 14 months or whatever you said? What the fuck does that mean? How tight is your asshole? You’re one of those guys that stopwatches his meals aren’t you? And you’re not competing so it makes no sense. Do you read this site? How much do you read professionals on this site talk about cutting back on stress. How much do you read about the benefits of cheating? Benefits for your body and mind. If you pulled the stick out of your ass I bet you’d see better results. And you’d be happier which brings me to my last point.
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You don’t seem happy. At all. You have a maybe decent girlfriend (I can’t really tell) who wants you to relax because you are uptight as hell about something you do way less than I do anyways. You only have two friends and they don’t live nearby? Why? Why are you not out meeting people? You sound like you need some hobbies, and I’m not talking about training. Meet some guys, play some fantasy football or Xbox, make some friends. Let’s say you dedicate yourself and have the perfect body…then what? That doesn’t create happiness. I love lifting and I love looking good…but not nearly as much as my friends, family, fiance, job, etc. You should be healthy to enjoy those aspects of your life better. It sounds like you’re killing yourself and miserable as fuck, but won’t relax because this is “what you do.”
I don’t know if that will help out at all, but you inspired me to post and I pretty much never post on here. Just reading this blew my mind. Good luck if you aren’t trolling. And kudos on a good troll if you are. And you look too old to be wearing Hollister, Abercrombie anyways. Just saying. [/quote]
This reminds me of when someone asked me why do I modify my car so much. Why do you need it to go so fast. You can’t go that fast anywhere anyways, so why bother. People who ask that, will never understand, either about cars or bodybuilding.
I simply like knowing i have a superior car compared to you. I like knowing my supercharger cost probably as much as your whole car does. I like knowing at any given time, i can blow you car off the road like its standing still. same with bodybuilding. I like and take great joy in knowing, im physically bigger and stronger than you. That i can crush the life out of you at any time I choose. I like that feeling of being superior. Am i saying i am superior, No. But being bigger and stronger than 99.99% of the people on this planet gives me great joy.[/quote]
Who’s Dave btw?
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Dave???