Never had anyone.

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Hey everyone.
don’t know why im posting this. at this point I feel I need to.
here goes.

Ive never had a real girlfriend before, and ive only had sex once. ive had some encounters sort of here and there. but not much really.
this year ill be 30. the people I know in my life say this isn’t a bad thing. but I know better. I know what ive missed out on.

I never learned how to alk to women correctly, and it took me a while to be able to be normal since my childhood abuse. but ive come to a point where I know who I am, its hard to explain, ive actually improved my self esteem greatly. but everyone treated me like I didn’t deserve a woman.

I figured if I came here and got opinions from people who at least understand just how fucked up my life is that id feel validated to move on. it was not easy to live that way, and for a long time I dreamed of death, but did not have the courage to end my life.

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I don’t know how fucked up your life was, so I don’t know how that will relate to you finding a woman. You need to have confidence in yourself and not be afraid of rejection. If you don’t believe in yourself, how is a woman going to believe in you.

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Say this too yourself 10 times in the morning everyday: I deserve a woman.

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Quit lamenting your life and get on with it. Reinvent yourself and get out there. If you don’t care enough about yourself, no one will.

Answer me this.

  1. where do you work / what do you do?
  2. what do you do after work
  3. with whom do you do the things afetr work with.
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There are more people than you’d think who haven’t had a woman when they’re 30 years old. It sucks but look at the future.

Talking to people and women can be learned, just like anything. I recommend “How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie to start.

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[quote]Xav wrote:
There are more people than you’d think who haven’t had a woman when they’re 30 years old. It sucks but look at the future.
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Yeah, I have 1 or 2 mates in the same boat. Probably one of the most depressing things imaginable.

Especially in this day and age where tinder/okcupid/online dating reign supreme. There are guys in my work who have went for years without pussy, signed up to a dating site and have been banging chicks fairly quickly. If they can do it, anyone can!

Whereabouts in Scotland are you from, OP?

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If you learned how to walk, talk and feed yourself, you are capable of learning how to bang a chick. It’s not rocket science.

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You think your life is messed up?

Hell, when I was just a tiny sperm cell my dad used to beat the snot out of me and my brothers.

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[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
You think your life is messed up?

Hell, when I was just a tiny sperm cell my dad used to beat the snot out of me and my brothers.

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got choked alot?

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[quote]silverblood wrote:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
You think your life is messed up?

Hell, when I was just a tiny sperm cell my dad used to beat the snot out of me and my brothers.

[/quote]

got choked alot?[/quote]

Then kicked out without a second thought. It was horrendous.

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If that’s you in your avatar, I see where your problem is.

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have you tried foam rolling?

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yes, and it doesn’t work lol

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[quote]Arthritisboy wrote:
yes, and it doesn’t work lol
[/quote]

Well, have you read the Book of Pook?

http://www.djbible.classicalgasemissions.com/book_of_pook.pdf

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BRO!! I feel ya…

I really do.
Honestly, so much crazy talk running through my head somedays I figured there was actually no way in hell I’d ever meet anyone willing to put up with me and the family of nuts jobs living inside my head.

Actually, fuck that, a family my ass.
An army. An army of nut jobs yelling at me 24/7 about how unworthy I was. How incapable I had become over the years of even just making eye contact with the opposite sex.

Like terrified to death of them I was.
I knew a few guys at the gym who would always smile at me and I would go out of my way just to avoid that 3 seconds because it made me so nervous.
And actual physical contact?! PFFT! Forget that noise.

My friends would go through like 2 engagements and 3 boyfriends and I wouldn’t have hugged a dude in that amount of time.

It’s scary because time passes and the older you get the worse it becomes because it feels as though at some certain age it will be totally “unacceptable” to be in that boat.
But you know what? People come out of no where.

People enter your life without warning and on any given day someone could look at you and think of you differently.
Something could stem from a hello or a smile.
You just have no fucking clue when it’s going to happen, but don’t ever assume it never will.
Thinking like that serves you no purpose, really…

I met someone and I was pretty much hopeless…
Now I get to do fun things like fuck my dude in his car and whatnot.
I went from not being able to look at him to fucking him in his car.

This whole post was actually just to brag about getting to fuck in a car.
New territory for me…

Seriously,

Keep ya head up

Ooohhhh child things are gonna get easier

THUG LIFE BABY

Spock-out.

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I wasn’t too much different from you one year ago, insomuch as I led a very fucked-up life. 34 years old, obese, depressed, alcoholic, not getting any good sex (even though I had a GF), you name it. I’m in the middle of the turn-around, so to say, but I’ll try to be concise with what helped me.

I got mad about it, realized I deserved better.

I accepted that it would take a long time and lots of effort on my part.

I made a promise to be brutally honest with myself about my lifestyle and my conduct as a man.

I started working to improve myself in the gym, in the kitchen, at the home, at my office and in my own mental spaces.

14 months later my life, while far from perfect, is much better. I’m still working towards my goals, but my entire outlook on life is different.

There is nothing - repeat - NOTHING special about me. I’m just a guy who is putting the work in.

Best of luck to you. Don’t ever quit.

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[quote]Arthritisboy wrote:
yes, and it doesn’t work lol
[/quote]

how about coconut milk? that shit works wonders~

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[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Arthritisboy wrote:
yes, and it doesn’t work lol
[/quote]

Well, have you read the Book of Pook?

http://www.djbible.classicalgasemissions.com/book_of_pook.pdf

[/quote]

just checked it out,…is this really good stuff?

the good thing is , I can get dates, ive attracted a few girls, but I fuck it up somehow. ive gotten to the point where I can text very infrequently with them, and almost never call them. and I actually had a fitness model hot on my tail. interestingly enough, the first time she sked me to hang out, it was crazy, we were at some stupid bar, and at 12 at night she was like so…you wanna crossfit with me in the morning? im like umm, I cant,( I had an elbow injury at the time that was almost better, but not quite. shed keep throwing that out there all the time when I knew her. we hanged out, I asked her out to movie, that never came through and then one time for a date… didn’t see her for 2 weeks, then all of the sudden she calls me an tell me to hang out with her friends. I did, again, I acted like I didn’t care about much, restrained my neediness, and afterwards shes like lets go to ihop, she sat there telling me a shit ton about her, it was crazy, then later on, about 130 or something, she tarted talking about sex, and how she loves to please her man, and that shed be willing to hook up for a fuck. …I was in such disbelief she said this to me I guess I fucked it up. because after that night she invited me to meet her mom and the whole time she was making jabs about me being …just a nice guy.
godamnit, I was so fucking mad.
but I learned. she even may have joked about me being gay.
oh well, so I think if I can just learn what to do around them when the stakes are that high, ill be good.
it was confusing cause I didn’t know if I was being friend zoned, but after meeting her mom I knew

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[quote]ChongLordUno wrote:

[quote]Xav wrote:
There are more people than you’d think who haven’t had a woman when they’re 30 years old. It sucks but look at the future.
[/quote]

Yeah, I have 1 or 2 mates in the same boat. Probably one of the most depressing things imaginable.

Especially in this day and age where tinder/okcupid/online dating reign supreme. There are guys in my work who have went for years without pussy, signed up to a dating site and have been banging chicks fairly quickly. If they can do it, anyone can!

Whereabouts in Scotland are you from, OP?
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ok cupid? really, that sounds promising.

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[quote]Arthritisboy wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Arthritisboy wrote:
yes, and it doesn’t work lol
[/quote]

Well, have you read the Book of Pook?

http://www.djbible.classicalgasemissions.com/book_of_pook.pdf

[/quote]

just checked it out,…is this really good stuff?

the good thing is , I can get dates, ive attracted a few girls, but I fuck it up somehow. ive gotten to the point where I can text very infrequently with them, and almost never call them. and I actually had a fitness model hot on my tail. interestingly enough, the first time she sked me to hang out, it was crazy, we were at some stupid bar, and at 12 at night she was like so…you wanna crossfit with me in the morning? im like umm, I cant,( I had an elbow injury at the time that was almost better, but not quite. shed keep throwing that out there all the time when I knew her. we hanged out, I asked her out to movie, that never came through and then one time for a date… didn’t see her for 2 weeks, then all of the sudden she calls me an tell me to hang out with her friends. I did, again, I acted like I didn’t care about much, restrained my neediness, and afterwards shes like lets go to ihop, she sat there telling me a shit ton about her, it was crazy, then later on, about 130 or something, she tarted talking about sex, and how she loves to please her man, and that shed be willing to hook up for a fuck. …I was in such disbelief she said this to me I guess I fucked it up. because after that night she invited me to meet her mom and the whole time she was making jabs about me being …just a nice guy.
godamnit, I was so fucking mad.
but I learned. she even may have joked about me being gay.
oh well, so I think if I can just learn what to do around them when the stakes are that high, ill be good.
it was confusing cause I didn’t know if I was being friend zoned, but after meeting her mom I knew[/quote]

Is the Book of Pook any good?

I refuse to answer that question.

Read it or dont.

Then, “the stakes are that high…”

No.

Just because she has a tight ass and boobs there still are no stakes, let alone high ones…

Oh, she is “one a million”…

Only 999 999 left then?