how comfortable do you all feel around your mates? i’ve been with this one girl for about 7 monthes and when we’re not having sex i don’t particulary feel comfortable being naked around her. is this normal or should i get over it?
It varies. I dated a girl for two years that, although very attractive, never once took a shower with me without the lights off and I think we may have had sex a total of five times in the daylight and without the covers on. Me? I’m not shy at all. One time I was rubbing one off and she walked in on me and I didn’t stop…
I know what you mean. Ive recently started dating this very, very, very attractive girl. ive seen her naked now three times. yet sunday she got up to turn the lights off and took the covers with her. i was like, ive already seen you naked. but she still didnt feel comfortable. im not argueing though. as long as she stays with me she can take the covers where ever she wants.
Personally, never had a problem traipsing about nekkid in front of Ko. As a matter of fact, I prefer to sleep sans clothing.
Everyone has insecurities about their body in some way. So it’s all in how you handle it. No matter how fat, ugly or out of shape and unattractive you are, if you just strut your stuff like you’re secure with yourself, you will appear confident. And if you never tell anyone your insecurities and always walk with proper posture, there is a good chance that they will never know you have insecurities. Me and my girl walk naked around each other often. I have plenty of insecurities about myself, but I just strut my stuff. Besides, women’s bodies are just beautiful naked. They always look good. And they don’t have to worry about “shrinkage” either!
Is she comfortable around you when she’s naked? 7 months seems like a long time for this to persist, even if you only see each other on weekends or something similar. It generally takes me a month or so to start getting nake completely comfortably around a girl, and I think I’m more on the modest side. Why do you feel uncomfortable? What are you worried about?
Is this the same beauty pageant girl we heard about a while ago? I never remember seeing an update on that situation.
Well it went south and then got a shit load better. when she came down here we started hanging out and kinda hit it off better than before. so weve been hanging out like crazy over the past month. im going to stay with her this weekend.
Sounds like more than just “hanging out” to me ;-). Congrats!
I get comfortable pretty fast. I sleep naked (unless I’m at my parent’s house!) so if someone’s in my bed they’re seeing everything. No big deal.
O.K, I have a theory about this, but I could be full of shit. Feel free to call me on it if I am. I think men in general are more comfortable being naked in front of others. More specifically, men who have grown up playing a lot of team sports are probably a little more comfortable with this. All the years of changing and showering in front of others just kind of washes away any sense of modesty. I’m am by no means built like a greek god, (more like a silver back, lowland, gorilla) but I have never had any issues with being naked around a partner early in a relationship. To be honest, my partner would often express jealousy at my ability to not care what anyone else thought about my body. The sad part is, the more beautiful the woman is the more uncomfortable she often seems to be with her own nudity.
I’m with Patricia and Michelle on this one - though Magnus does have a good point about the “typical” beautiful girl. Personally, I am as naked as possible as much as possible - provided my son’s not around - I’ll sleep, cook, clean, do laundry and any other household chores in the nude, as well as simple lounging around. Or, if the house is on the chilly side, I have a cute selection of things from VS that are comfy too. For me, being nude is much more physically comfortable than having bra bands/straps, waist bands, seams and such all over. If your girl isn’t psychologically comfortable being nude about the only thing you can really do to impact that is to praise her body till she tells you to shut iiit.
Regarding what Magnus said - girls that are told they are pretty from a young age seem to get sucked into the whole sensationalized, media-ized version of what that means and so are usually more apt to compare themselves with other women. Something in our makeups generally points us to a feeling of inadequacy, even if it is baseless. Girls that are not told this from a young age tend to be more “ok” with not fitting into the stereotype of beauty and so are more secure in their physical selves. No one is expecting them to be beauty queens and so they don’t expect it of themselves. Huge generalities, I realize but from the women I’ve know it bears out fairly accurately.
K, I’m guessing she’s used to your small penis by now. You don’t have to be embarassed anymore.
maybe you would feel more comfortable in front of a hairy old man wearing a thong in the gym locker room.
K if your not having sex with her why would you be naked around her anyway or is that why you’re not having sex? Are you ashamed of your body perhaps? Some people are just not comfortable without clothing. Although I’m no Adonis I’m nude most of the time. That’s my personality though. I only wear clothing for practical reasons, you know work, not wanting to get arrested, stuff like that.
I raced bikes (as in bicycles, not motorbikes) for a few years, and I noticed that no one who was experienced, man or woman, had any trouble changing or urinating in open view. I did, when I first started, but the greatest enticements to disregard modesty are laziness and convinience. There was an ad for Adidas running apparal a few years ago that showed a nekkid runner changing and shocked civilians looking on, the caption said, “Yeah, we’re different”. That spoke to me. I agree with the assertion that locker rooms help acclimate people to nudity. From my observation, women adapt to the inconviniences of sport (at least this one) the smae way as men. anyway…
to the asshole who said it…no i don’t have a small penis. so why don’t you go fuck off you dumb ignorant fuck face fagot.
to everyone else… we have been having sex for 4 monthes now… she is also the same way around me… we are both young and have little sexual excperience with others… finally we both play/ed highschool basketball so we’ve changed in front of others many times.
Seems to me regarding the locker rooms though, guys would often be pulling pranks on each other, snapping towels, and doing other stuff to one another in the locker room. I’m no expert on women’s locker rooms, but don’t they usually have dividers inbetween showers and a lot of girls wouldn’t shower after gym class? Who knows though, I put on my boxers after I have sex, if I’m going to fall asleep, because it bothers me to sleep naked. Something about my weenie on the bed.
Most people who change in locker rooms for team sports are not in the practise of looking and checking out their team-mates. When you are naked with your lover, you do look at them–all over. There is a difference here and it’s that difference that is making you uncomfortable. You say you are young. That too is why you are uncomfortable.For some people it does take awhile to be comfortable naked in front of other people. Usually that comfort is acquired through mutual trust. Please don’t take this as a harsh criticism, but–if you both feel uncomfortable naked in front of each other, I don’t really think you are ready for the emotional committment of a sexual relationship. I would even hazard a guess that you don’t talk about the sex you have and are unable to tell each other what feels good and what you want. I would be very careful that you don’t get yourselves into a troublesome situation.
K, in my experience, I think it has more to do with modesty than anything else. I dated this girl for a few months who certainly was not afraid of sex and being naked in bed, and initiated it very frequently, but outside of bed she was very shy. If she got up from bed, she would always grab the sheet, or cover herself to go to the bathroom. She was just a very modest person, and she was not very comfortable walking around naked even though she had a fantastic body. I think one’s attitudes change as a result of environment such as a locker room or one’s upbringing. For instance, look at Aneesa from the most recent season of Real World. She definitely wasn’t ashamed of walking around ass-naked, and I would speculate that most would agree she didn’t have the best body in the world. She said it was the way she was raised. Have you been uncomfortable naked in front of past girlfriends? I’m sure in time you will become more comfortable.