I’m not so sure on the “get your money back and cut all ties” approach, at least with this limited information.
You need to consider a few things:
Why did he take it? Most cases it doesn’t matter, unless the answer is gambling/drugs/etc…
How did he get access?
It seems as if he has a debit card based on this
[quote]euco09 wrote:
…one of the most recent transactions he had made at a supermarket had a video camera.[/quote]
Is his name on the account or how did he get it? Laws in different countries differ but here if it was a joint account, then it isn’t theft regardless of who deposited the funds.
Is that his kid in your avatar? If so, cutting all ties is likely not a good idea. But you should revisit boundaries.
Most likely the answer is what ID said, set up a repayment plan. Also talk to your bank, you need a new account.
[quote]imhungry wrote:
Why does your ex boyfriend AND your current bf have access to your bank account, anyway?[/quote]
OP, when are you going to respond to this question?[/quote]
There is only one answer to this question, and it’s embarrassing to admit that you’ve made a foolish mistake. Cut her some slack, she’s young and gullible, and men take advantage of this.
[quote]imhungry wrote:
Why does your ex boyfriend AND your current bf have access to your bank account, anyway?[/quote]
OP, when are you going to respond to this question?[/quote]
There is only one answer to this question, and it’s embarrassing to admit that you’ve made a foolish mistake. Cut her some slack, she’s young and gullible, and men take advantage of this.[/quote]
It really isn’t about cutting her some slack. It’s curiosity. There may be a sound reason that this poor girl allowed her EX that she left “THREE YEARS” ago to have access to her bank account. I didn’t want to assume that she is simply gullible.
Him going into your bank account and taking money is a form of fraud; Fraudulent Use of a Debit Card here in Canada. If you’re not getting your money back, go to the police.
Oh, and protect your bank account better next time. No one should have access to it except you.
[quote]kickingking wrote:
You cheated, he didn’t really forgive you. $1000 made it equal haha
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Exactly what I thought.
My feeling is that OP and her ex boy friend are both morally flawed people…she cheated on him, him didn’t have the balls to break up…now he’s stealing money from is slutty and gullible ex…well nice people…
[quote]imhungry wrote:
Why does your ex boyfriend AND your current bf have access to your bank account, anyway?[/quote]
OP, when are you going to respond to this question?[/quote]
This, and why do you consider it “stealing” if you willingly allow him access to the account? If you don’t want him taking the money, take his name off the account/put the money in a new one.
Is it possible that you are upset that he has a new girlfriend and doesn’t seem to care at all about you now? You are his ex, it is not his duty to care about you now. If it were me, I’d cut my losses and move on. Change your pin number or close that account and get a new one. Use this as a learning experience to not let anyone have that information. My ex had a child with his ex and even 5 yrs after they split, she had his debit card. He thought he was doing the right thing so she could use money to spend on their child. After we started getting serious, she apparently got upset and spent over $5,000 of his money, in one month. There was nothing legally he could do because he gave her access to his account.