About 4 months ago my mum (who lived with me) died. It has just become apparant to me that I have lost all my motivation in life since that time. Yes I go to work I train I watch my died, but I dont live life anymore. Anyone understand this. I have become a food and diet addict, but ther is more to life than this. I dont think I suffer from depression, but I certanily am depressed most of the time.
ok what are the remedies. My ex suggest St Johns Wort. What about Kava Kava. Have any of you been in similar circumstances? I need to regain the motivation to get out into the world, seek new friends and generally have a ball ( with my “perfect figure”. Graham
Bud- my dad’s prstate cancer metastasized to his bones . .he’ll be gone sooner than later . .and I’ve been told every other day he’s about to leave . .for a good year or so. Yup I’m pooped, yup it drains . .and I don’t know how I’ll be when it finally hapens/ All I can tell you is that i know how he wants me to enjoy life . .I know how I’ll want my children to celebrate the good times . .you knwo the problem and it’s outlook . .NOT trying to preserve some extra serotonin.
I have used the homeopathic IGNATIA 30X . .3 “dots” under the tongue every day . .and it did seem to soften the highs and lows.
You’ll make it . .and you knwo how I know you’ll make it ???
You’ve got no choice !
Little steps bro . .little smiles . .a little laughter . .and smaller goals . .the life force will return.
A prayer out to ya bro’
Mike
On March 16th of this year I went skiing with my dad. Just before lunch, he dropped dead of a heart attack right in front of me as he came to a stop on the slopes. This is the first person close to me whom I’ve ever lost. The sad thing was that despite problems in our relationship over the years due to a broken home, my relationship was better than ever with him over the last 3 months of his life. At the same time I’m thankful we had that. He had just turned 63 and had no history of any health problems. He was active and ate a reasonable diet. In fact, he just had a yearly check-up a few weeks before. It just goes to show that despite any precautions you might take, you never know when you’ll go. This experience has affected me in many ways, some I’m sure I haven’t felt yet. But one thing’s for sure: there’s more important things in life that an 18" arm and ripped abs. Seeing this happen to my dad has put my training in a whole new perspective for me. Its not about doing anything at all costs for a great physique. This should be as much about improving our health and our ability to live a better life.
Hang in there, dude. Take time off if need be. I didn't train at all for about 2 weeks after seeing this. Quite honestly (and I know this is irrational because I'm only 25), I was afraid my heart would explode like his did. Take it slow and play it smart. No matter what, make sure that in addition to providing a better physique and strength, that your diet and training make for better health, something of which you can never have too much.
If you are depressed “most of the time,” and this has lasted four months, there is an extremely high probability you are clinically depressed. Most depression lifts within a year whether you treat it or not, but antidepressant medication can shorten this healing process considerably. Most people who take an antidepressant later ask themselves why they waited so long!
You should seriously consider pursuing medical treatment. Depression is quite common and treatable. My only concern would be if you lived in the US where having a medical history of depression might prevent you from getting medical insurance one day. (Yes, medical insurerers are complete cherry-picking jerks who want to take money from only the people who will never get sick, so you must, unfortunately, think about these things if you are self-employed…but I digress.) However, you sound like you may be a Briton or Canadian, in which case this is not a concern–getting into see the doctor before your depression lifts is the problem!
I have some idea what your going through. You will probably make your way home whether you do anything about it, but why suffer any more than necessary? You're in my prayers.
Sorry to hear of your loss.
I can’t offer anything to make you feel better, but the people here have already given good suggestions that are excelllent from their own experiences.
The best thing you can do when your ready is to honor your mom by living the fullest life you can. She gave you life and thats what I would imoagine she would want you to do.
grahm, I’m realy sorry to hear about your loss. I will not try and tell you “I understand” because I can not, its your mom and not mine so I can never understand how you feel right now.(also mike I’m sorry to hear about your dads condition) one thing I can say to anyone who has a loss is to be happy for what you DID have (I know right now that probably will not help)I’m sure your mom was a wonderful person who wants nothing but happiness for you and I’m sure that is not what your thinking right now. you need to see a pro. don’t feel weird about talking to someone, you need someone that you can tell anything to and who will listen to you. if you go to see a pro. and they don’t have the interest that you expect don’t give up, go find another one and if you have to keep looking till you find the right one than keep looking, when you do you will find it well worth the effort (I speek from exp.) PLEASE go find the RIGHT person to talk to, you will be glad you did. one thing I can say is to not fight your love of her, you may want to not feel it 'cause you feel the pain w/ the love, but love does heel, even if the one you love isn’t right next to you. take care and god bless
My father died 5 years ago and it was a devastating experience,made worse by the fact that we never got along too great and I knew I’d never be able to tell him how much I appreciated all he did for me.I reflected a lot after his death and realised that although he may sometimes have had difficulty showing it,he just wanted the best for me.I figured that I’d go ahead and just try to live my life in a way that would make him proud if he were still around.In other words be a decent,honest,productive,benevolent guy and try to succeed to the best of my abilities in all my undertakings,and to do it in his honour.Try and do the same,try and excel,and do it in your Mum’s honour,you know she wouldn’t want you to be miserable.Look for the positives in the situation-although we were close before my Mum and I are closer than ever now.I also make it a point to catch up with friends more regularly,enjoy the company of those who are close to you while they are still here.I come from a supportive Italian family so that helped a lot.Sometimes the most effective therapists in the world are close friends and family who you can talk with when you are struggling.I wish you the best of luck.
I am so sorry. I will pray for you. Continue to train, but of course there are more important things. Check out Psalm 42:5-6 in the Bible. It may keep things centered.
I’ve lost peeps close to me and this may sound cold, but get over it. Man life goes on; people die. It may be bottling the emotions up, but try to forget about it. Fill your life with other things.
My heart goes out to you dude. I for one do not believe in anti depressants as the first and only cure for depression. I personally would try a phychologist first. Too many people turn to anti depressants, and are encouraged to do so when it isn’t needed.
I highly recommend a book: “Victory Over Depression (How to Live Above Your Circumstances)” by Bob George. You can get it at Amazon. Depression is never cured by treating the symptom (emotions); its cured by treating the mind.