If they are just friends, there should be no issues with you seeing what’s being said… just a thought
Best damn advice in this thread! Takes a woman to know a woman I think!
ask her to stop and if she won’t respect your boundaries, there are countless better women who wouldn’t even entertain such an absurd notion and would be glad to be wholly devoted to one man.
NO!
That’s messed up.
First, the deception.
Second, why? This one can vary widely and may be benign, but ask her, “Would you like that I text my ex-lover, then hide it from YOU!?” If she answers no, then you might be in big trouble.
The highway has to go both ways, right?
My initial impression is that she is a deceiver. She may have a habit of loving to hide things that she is not supposed to be doing. In her own mind, it’s okay, because whatever she does she’s going to rationalize it to be okay, otherwise how can she live with herself.
I suspect some sociopathic tendencies.
There are other ways to find out about that. Has she cheated before? How is she with animals? Does she have a pet? Is she loyal to that pet and would stick with it to the end? Or would she give it up if the stress of keeping it too much affected her life?
For me, I deserve honesty and loyalty above all. My partner would be able to empathize with me and treat me as she likes to be treated.
If she has one rule for herself and another for you, then she possibly is not a keeper.