Didn’t know who else to talk to so I thought I ask the largest group of people I know.
I met a girl a few months ago….yeah it’s like that.
Everything has been cool and we have been spending all our time together. Talking, taking day trips, going out and the normal stuff.
She is 19 and a sophomore in college and I’m 22. So Friday we were having dinner and talking and I asked her who else she had slept with because I never thought it would bother me. Her answer was 3 making me 4 and I felt the world stop spinning.
Am I being an asshole about it or does that seem high. I guess it can’t be too high as my count is 7 but I just assumed it would be 2. One in high school and one in college.
Anyway what do you all think about this. Is her number too high? I’ve read that 4 is the median for woman so…. I’m sure I’ve been with other girls that have a higher number but I like this one and feel conflicted.
I’ll also add to my previous post with reiterating what I just mentioned: personal consideration. Do you consider that number high for a nineteen year old woman? At 22 years of old, judging from my life experience, knowledge of women, observation up until then, I’d say, no, three is not too high.
As a 43-year-old man with my current knowledge, experience, and observation, I consider it high for a nineteen-year-old woman. But that’s me. I’d consider more than one too high if I knew at 22 what I know now. But that doesn’t mean I’d dump the woman. I would quiz her for an explanation and what is her outlook on sex and what she believes a relationship with a man should be like. Then I’d make my final decision depending on what she said.
I don’t think you’re being an a___ considering what hefty sex-partner counts have been shown to do to women, specifically a decreased pair-bonding ability.
It makes me uncomfortable, She explained all the circumstances and I felt a little better. Her first boyfriend/ love was in high school and his family ended up having to move out of state suddenly due to a job relocation of his parents. Her 2nd was a year later as a senior. They broke up when he left for college. The 3rd was last year in college to a guy that lied to her and was seeing another girl at the same time. With all that said I feel a little better but still kinda passed off
I’m all for women having as much fun as men. I was basically a human popsicle from 13 onward, and I know a lot of those girls went on to meet nice guys and have nice marriages and never divulged where or how they got those python wrestling skills.
I wouldn’t ask unless you could easily get a job as an actor in a certain industry.
That one is just a mine field. Many women are very off on the high side about their previous partners (probably the fault of previous partner). Be careful what you believe. In a group, this girl mentioned that two of her previous partners were 9". She was quite confident, so I told her I’d bet my house that they were not.
This only gets worse as you age usually. You are young. She is young. I would focus on your career and establishing yourself.
Now, the numbers deal has never been an issue to me. I don’t dive down that deep into the psychoanalyzing of number of sexual partners. I mean if we are hitting like 50+ and heading towards triple digits - that is another story.
This all happened starting Friday and I went into a tailspin. I spoke to a few close friends and everyone seems to think I should move past it and not hold it against her. I guess I’m really causing us a ton of stress over 1. I just figured it was one in high school, the typical first love and a fling.