After spending the afternoon with my brother - who’s suffered debilitating anxiety attacks for 2 years - I venture into the gym, hoping to wind down.
I have a big smile on my face as I snap my fingers at the front-desk girl to get her attention.
‘It’s very disrespectful to snap your fingers at someone’
Some overweight guy snaps out. He must be joking, and I chuckle in return. I’m being playful, and after a rough afternoon the last thing I expect is confrontation.
But no. The fat guy stares at me. He’s got the macho attitude down to a notch. I let him know where I come from - I grew up in Europe - it’s just a playful thing to do.
To my dismay he replies ‘Well, this is America, we don’t do that here’.
I didn’t give him another minute as I walked out. I didn’t care enough to tell him I serve in the U.S. Air Force; I didn’t care to tell him a big smile makes the difference between disrepectful and playful.
I started wondering what kind of guy he is. A big macho attitude, no ability to tell when someone’s messing around, hanging out at the front desk as if it was a bar. Now here is someone who:
Has little of a life
Does not get laid much
Is trying to overcompensate for inadequacies - some of which I would guess involve not feeling like very much of a man
Has a miserable job - and one not requiring much brains
Thinks being miserable and rude will make him a bad boy and girs will flock to him.
Is a loser not worth wasting a minute of my time on.
I’ve never met anybody worth hanging out - or worth knowing - with this type of attitude.
Is it such a tough concept? Real tough guys with pure testosterone flowing feel GOOD and love to have fun and be playful.
Pussies and sick bastards trying to overcompensate for inadequacies have to focus so hard on acting tough and hiding their sickness/weakness they forget life is about having fun.
[quote]Brett T. wrote:
Oh, alright. I see how it works. I’m the only one with enough balls to call this guy out, then everyone else jumps on the bandwagon.[/quote]
Ok. I’ll call him out first. Just send me back in time 20 min so I will read his post before you do.
[quote]Brett T. wrote:
Oh, alright. I see how it works. I’m the only one with enough balls to call this guy out, then everyone else jumps on the bandwagon.
Fucking pussies.[/quote]
Yeah, that took some huge balls. We are all very impressed.
[quote]the juggernaut wrote:
Brett T. wrote:
Oh, alright. I see how it works. I’m the only one with enough balls to call this guy out, then everyone else jumps on the bandwagon.
Fucking pussies.
Yeah, that took some huge balls. We are all very impressed.[/quote]
im not going to dis you for being European, but the fat macho guy is right, we dont do that shit here. you snap your fingers at a dog and say “sit,” you dont snap your fingers at a human being unless you want them and anyone that catches it to think youre an asshole.
it was a mix up, and not a big deal, but i think what i just said above is how youll always be perceived doing that in the US. doesnt mean youre an asshole, just a mix up.
[quote]Brett T. wrote:
rrjc5488 wrote:
the juggernaut wrote:
Brett T. wrote:
Oh, alright. I see how it works. I’m the only one with enough balls to call this guy out, then everyone else jumps on the bandwagon.
Fucking pussies.
Yeah, that took some huge balls. We are all very impressed.
He was being sarcastic, jugular.
haha, I’m glad someone was intelligent enough to catch that.[/quote]
Alright alright, you got me. There are just so many internet hard asses on this forum that I thought you were serious. Im retarded.
[quote]Doug Adams wrote:
If you’re friends with said desk girl, snapping of fingers followed by witty banter such as “come on! Chop chop! Boom boom!” is ok.
If you don’t know the girl, then it’s incredibly rude regardless of whether or not you are smiling.[/quote]
I’m with you here.
I can’t think of one situation that it would be ok to snap your fingers at a total stranger… smile or not.
Also, when you visit or live in another country, it is always optimal to learn their customs. Who really gives a shit if it is ok in Europe or not, you’re not in your home country.
And we always get called out for being rude travelers.
And if you do it in a joking manner, it better be to a good friend with a good sense of humor.