[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
That would be disappointing…[/quote]
Yeah, that’s one word for it, lol.
You’ve got children who you love on one hand, and a partner who betrayed you over and over and over on the other…
It would take a lot of fucking work to sort all those feelings.
[quote]Bismark wrote:
My girlfriend of almost a year often has a difficult time accepting or reciprocating compliments. While physically she and I are very affectionate, I feel that there is a disparity when it comes to that aspect of verbal communication between us. I believe that being able to both receive and give genuine compliments is an important part of any healthy relationship. It isn’t just in regards to her physical appearance, but non-corporal things such as her efficacy or intelligence. It is petty of me to be upset by something so seemingly trivial in an otherwise very satisfying relationship?[/quote]
I understand where you are coming from except it is the reverse in my household. Words to me do not mean much, but actions on the hand do. My wife is much like you in that she the verbal affirmations. There is a book out there call “The Five Love Languages” it is a very interesting read. You need to remember that she may be missing something from your relationship as well.
[quote]JCMPG wrote:
[quote]Bismark wrote:
My girlfriend of almost a year often has a difficult time accepting or reciprocating compliments. While physically she and I are very affectionate, I feel that there is a disparity when it comes to that aspect of verbal communication between us. I believe that being able to both receive and give genuine compliments is an important part of any healthy relationship. It isn’t just in regards to her physical appearance, but non-corporal things such as her efficacy or intelligence. It is petty of me to be upset by something so seemingly trivial in an otherwise very satisfying relationship?[/quote]
I understand where you are coming from except it is the reverse in my household. Words to me do not mean much, but actions on the hand do. My wife is much like you in that she the verbal affirmations. There is a book out there call “The Five Love Languages” it is a very interesting read. You need to remember that she may be missing something from your relationship as well.[/quote]
I was just going to suggest reading the love languages book, then JCMPG beat me to it!
Does she argue with you when you give her a compliment? You say she’s pretty, and she starts saying no and showing you the cellulite on her thighs? See quote. Self-image issues like that can run deep.
OR some people just don’t know how to say “thank you” without going into some attempt to be all modest and humble by deflecting the compliment.
[quote]Dr. Pangloss wrote:
[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
That would be disappointing…[/quote]
Yeah, that’s one word for it, lol.
You’ve got children who you love on one hand, and a partner who betrayed you over and over and over on the other…
It would take a lot of fucking work to sort all those feelings.
[/quote]
And an airtight alibi.
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Dr. Pangloss wrote:
[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
That would be disappointing…[/quote]
Yeah, that’s one word for it, lol.
You’ve got children who you love on one hand, and a partner who betrayed you over and over and over on the other…
It would take a lot of fucking work to sort all those feelings.
[/quote]
And an airtight alibi. [/quote]
Maybe meet a Stranger on a Train.
[quote]Bismark wrote:
My girlfriend of almost a year often has a difficult time accepting or reciprocating compliments. While physically she and I are very affectionate, I feel that there is a disparity when it comes to that aspect of verbal communication between us. I believe that being able to both receive and give genuine compliments is an important part of any healthy relationship. It isn’t just in regards to her physical appearance, but non-corporal things such as her efficacy or intelligence. It is petty of me to be upset by something so seemingly trivial in an otherwise very satisfying relationship?[/quote]
not at all petty. My wife doesn’t give very many compliments but I sure love it when she does. She’s just hard to impress so I try a lot harder. 
[quote]Powerpuff wrote:
BUT - If something happened to him, I’d probably go with a golden retriever and a vibrator. 
I’ve told that joke here before, after that DAMN Orion told me that my sexual market value is dropping like a stone with every passing year.
[/quote]
Proverb 28
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Powerpuff wrote:
BUT - If something happened to him, I’d probably go with a golden retriever and a vibrator. I’ve told that joke here before, after that DAMN Orion told me that my sexual market value is dropping like a stone with every passing year.
[/quote]
Proverb 28[/quote]
New favorite term: virgin/whore complex
[quote]csulli wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Powerpuff wrote:
BUT - If something happened to him, I’d probably go with a golden retriever and a vibrator. I’ve told that joke here before, after that DAMN Orion told me that my sexual market value is dropping like a stone with every passing year.
[/quote]
Proverb 28[/quote]
New favorite term: virgin/whore complex[/quote]
You can have as many favorite terms as you like, but ancient dude is spreading his far more sophisticated wisdom far and wide.
Also, this piece is what we have come to know under the moniker of “chickcrack”.
Which just happens to be true in this instance.
So you dont have to feel dirtay when you use it.
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Powerpuff wrote:
BUT - If something happened to him, I’d probably go with a golden retriever and a vibrator. I’ve told that joke here before, after that DAMN Orion told me that my sexual market value is dropping like a stone with every passing year.
[/quote]
Proverb 28[/quote]
From proverb 4:[quote]Think about how many times youâ??ve been played or watched your friends be played by a
woman. How many free drinks, shopping sprees, trips or gifts have been purchased by men
who received nothing in return? (By the way, Iâ??m typing this on a $1,900 laptop some
chump bought for my girlfriend because he wanted to fuck her. She says he didnâ??t get to, and
I believe her because of that smug little grin on her face â?? the one women get when they play
a man big time). [/quote]
He’s bluffing himself and hoping to god he’s not the one getting played (he is, thats what the smirk is really about)
[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Powerpuff wrote:
BUT - If something happened to him, I’d probably go with a golden retriever and a vibrator. I’ve told that joke here before, after that DAMN Orion told me that my sexual market value is dropping like a stone with every passing year.
[/quote]
Proverb 28[/quote]
From proverb 4:[quote]Think about how many times youâ??ve been played or watched your friends be played by a
woman. How many free drinks, shopping sprees, trips or gifts have been purchased by men
who received nothing in return? (By the way, Iâ??m typing this on a $1,900 laptop some
chump bought for my girlfriend because he wanted to fuck her. She says he didnâ??t get to, and
I believe her because of that smug little grin on her face â?? the one women get when they play
a man big time). [/quote]
He’s bluffing himself and hoping to god he’s not the one getting played (he is, thats what the smirk is really about)
[/quote]
WHY do people hang out with assholes knowingly??
Speaking of which, Hockey asked me last night if I minded him asking me what my intentions are regarding him. Um, honorable? When I wasn’t sure what to say a helpful multiple choice was provided (I love multiple choices, I’m really good at those) about casual dating vs relationships of a couple of different sorts.
Let it be known that we’ve officially agreed to something more than casual dating, with the most serious sort of relationship potentially a goal.
I’ve never been asked what my intentions are before. I think I’ve been hanging around with orion too long and I’m becoming suspect as a result. lol
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Powerpuff wrote:
BUT - If something happened to him, I’d probably go with a golden retriever and a vibrator. I’ve told that joke here before, after that DAMN Orion told me that my sexual market value is dropping like a stone with every passing year.
[/quote]
Proverb 28[/quote]
From proverb 4:[quote]Think about how many times you�¢??ve been played or watched your friends be played by a
woman. How many free drinks, shopping sprees, trips or gifts have been purchased by men
who received nothing in return? (By the way, I�¢??m typing this on a $1,900 laptop some
chump bought for my girlfriend because he wanted to fuck her. She says he didn�¢??t get to, and
I believe her because of that smug little grin on her face �¢?? the one women get when they play
a man big time). [/quote]
He’s bluffing himself and hoping to god he’s not the one getting played (he is, thats what the smirk is really about)
[/quote]
WHY do people hang out with assholes knowingly??[/quote]
My wife could probably answer that better than I can.(:
I couldn’t help but think as I read about the rationalization hamster and entitlement monkey “If you spot it, You got it!”.
I think Orion ought to be next up on the breaking the cycle block.
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
Speaking of which, Hockey asked me last night if I minded him asking me what my intentions are regarding him. Um, honorable? When I wasn’t sure what to say a helpful multiple choice was provided (I love multiple choices, I’m really good at those) about casual dating vs relationships of a couple of different sorts.
Let it be known that we’ve officially agreed to something more than casual dating, with the most serious sort of relationship potentially a goal.
I’ve never been asked what my intentions are before. I think I’ve been hanging around with orion too long and I’m becoming suspect as a result. lol
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I had that same conversation with my wife once we got past that getting to know each other a little better part of the relationship. I think it’s a good one to have too. Helped us to realize that we were both working toward the same goal and set us at ease in moving toward it together.
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Powerpuff wrote:
BUT - If something happened to him, I’d probably go with a golden retriever and a vibrator. I’ve told that joke here before, after that DAMN Orion told me that my sexual market value is dropping like a stone with every passing year.
[/quote]
Proverb 28[/quote]
I loved that. Made my day. Thanks, Orion.
Hey, long-term pair bonding has it’s perks. And if you get married before either of you have any money, you don’t have to wonder if she’s marrying you for it. I know that ship has sailed for you, but the pair bonding part will happen if you want it to, pre-nup or not. And I’m going to stick by the two little girls that adore you part of the story. That would be quite an experience for you, I think. Mark Wahlberg (who I admire for a lot of reasons), has four daughters. He’s a guy who wasn’t very respectful to women earlier in life, and he says his wife and girls “made him a real man.” I’m pretty sure he’d be a “real man” anyway, but that was sweet.
Edited.
[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
Me and the wife just found out for sure that we are having our first child. She is 8 weeks along and I am pretty stoked but extraordinarily nervous as well. It has been a tough road, tried for a year, she had surgery to remove Endometriosis lesions in August, and we were pregnant by October. That’s a lot of emotion packed into a couple of months ha. [/quote]
Update. Its a girl. Something about that makes me twice as unsure of myself and anxious as I was before I knew. The pinkness has already descended on my little man cave and I have been moved out ha.