[quote]csulli wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
Secondarily:
The ex-husband is dating and asking my advice about women things. Recently: should a woman he’s seeing get upset that he and I talk, which suggests that I am “still pulling his strings.” (Um, I dunno? Ask an impartial person? But right off the top of my head I’d say she shouldn’t be telling you what to do on week three and there may be some hints as to her own nature here?)
I still have not been able to shake Tim loose, even though the last thing I wrote to him finished with “I don’t even want to be your friend,” which are very harsh words for me. I don’t think I’ve ever spoken them to anyone before.
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I still think it’s incredibly weird that you talk to your ex husband.
Secondly, who would win in a fight, Hockey or Tim?
And thirdly, who can deadlift more?
And you didn’t mention; how is he hanging on? Have you blocked his number and his email? Is he physically confronting you?[/quote]
Hockey would win in a fight against Tim, hands down. Against the ex. . .not sure. Ex is a martial artist, successfully competitive in his young adulthood. He also lifts (secondary TNation exposure). Hockey hauls boulders around and takes trees down to move, cut up, load into dump truck, etc. He’s strong. Not sure who would win a DL contest; I suspect that each of them would die trying. Tim is not strong or particularly fit. But he was able to break both of his father’s legs and one arm, so I guess we can’t rule him out completely. He is apparently willing to use whatever is at hand to achieve his goals.
He lives 10 hours from me, happily, and sends emails very occasionally. This one came a couple of weeks ago and referenced our first date, which was the night before Mother’s Day. He sent a lingerie ad and noted that “this would have made a good anniversary gift.” I responded with something to the effect of “I’m not even angry. Just empty toward you. Let it go.” Before that was March 14th, he wished me a happy holiday with a link to steak and blow job day. I ignored that. Before that was probably January - I think he managed to let Valentine’s Day pass.
Why don’t I block him - at one time I was worried that he was so close to the edge, and didn’t want to cut him off in case he needed some sort of intervention. Now I just want to know where he is with regard to me. I’m reassured by the length of time between his contacts and will feel better still when it stops naturally.
And let’s face it, it’s difficult to not know what’s going on even without anything to worry about.
As for the ex, I don’t know why it’s weird. We still share family. It wasn’t a passionate relationship and it wasn’t a passionate breakup. I suspect it will reduce down to almost nothing if/when Hockey and I take the next step, whatever that is. We already talk much less. He knows things are getting serious here. I’m guessing he has feelings about that. It wouldn’t bother me one bit for him to find someone.
