Let's Process Our Feelings II

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
So, I’ve fractured my elbow, which two things: one is that the sling adds a whole 'nother layer of problematic to the naked cooking idea, and the other thing is that I’ve been backing off on the paying and refusing help thing. I let him zip my jacket over the sling, which initially I was going to refuse (“I don’t need it zipped! It’s fine! I’m not helpless!”) because of posts here, and didn’t quarrel about the check at dinner, which in my opinion I should have because he sat with me for 4 hours at the ER (although it passed quickly and we had fun), so the onus should have been on me.

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Geez, I take a quick break, and you do the same to your arm?!

I see a new Woody Allen movie on the horizon… :slight_smile:

Seriously though, hope it heals soon.
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None of this would have happened if you’d stayed home to offer sound advice! But no, you had to go gadding about for no good reason (other than the reasons you had).[/quote]

Oh man, I feel so bad…

I know that I am responsible for your well-being, and I take that seriously!

I’m sorry, and will check with you before traveling again.

Then again, if you’d JOINED us as I asked, none of this would have happened!

:-P[/quote]

Injuries happen in PA, too, you know! I’ve had them there!

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
Jui Jitsu on ice! Way better than the ice capades!
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Pedantic “Look at me; I’m an expert!” comment: “jitsu” is a mistake made by early martial artists who could not speak Japanese (and still propagated by modern folks). Its potential meanings include “day” and “truth / sincerity,” but nothing related to the martial arts.

“Jutsu” is “techniques” or “skills.” [/quote]

I should have gotten that one, especially after that discussion of the significance of “jutsu” and “do”.

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
So, I’ve fractured my elbow, which two things: one is that the sling adds a whole 'nother layer of problematic to the naked cooking idea, and the other thing is that I’ve been backing off on the paying and refusing help thing. I let him zip my jacket over the sling, which initially I was going to refuse (“I don’t need it zipped! It’s fine! I’m not helpless!”) because of posts here, and didn’t quarrel about the check at dinner, which in my opinion I should have because he sat with me for 4 hours at the ER (although it passed quickly and we had fun), so the onus should have been on me.

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This Ice Skating thing that you are doing- Is it down hill or something? I’ve been on ice ever since I can remember and it never hurt that much.

All kidding aside, those fractures sound painful. It’s nice that he sat with you in the ER too, and you were even able to have fun. Not that most good men wouldn’t have the patience, but it would be kind of rotten if he hadn’t.
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It’s really not painful now that it’s in a sling and not popping out of place. THAT part sucked.

The skating, no, not downhill. Flat surface. I just find jumping the hurdles really challenging.

Seriously, though, I’m a competent skater in some ways and it makes me do stupid stuff. I did a lot of inline skating when I lived in Texas, where parks tend to have long pathways. So I’m comfortable with speed, avoiding obstacles, and stopping in hockey skates. What I can’t do are ice rink things like quick turns to backward skating and crossovers. I want to do those things and I’m very suggestible, so when my coach says “It’s a lot easier if you go faster” I get all excited and do it faster and then next thing you know, ER. :confused:

I can’t even imagine Hockey not going to the emergency room with me. In fact, I think if he’d been able to, schedule-wise, he’d have followed me to work this morning to open my car door and carry my stuff in. He’s a really good guy. I like him so damn much. :slight_smile:

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Don’t hold me to this (yet), but I think you found the right guy.[/quote]

Guess who drove me to work this morning so I wouldn’t have to clear my car or manage my manual transmission in the snow with the hurt arm?

Don’t hold me to it, either, but I think so, too.

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I’m going to have to meet him to be sure, of course.

(Snow? A hint as to where you are hiding!)[/quote]

If you ever meet him, you’ll like him. I really don’t see how anyone could not.

This morning he shoveled both of us out as well as my neighbor, who’s had surgery on his ankle. I got into a warmed car and found potato chips on the seat waiting for me, to go with the wrap I made for lunch - he’d gone to the store for them while I was getting ready for work. He’s making dinner again tonight.

I need to figure out what big, nice thing I can do for him, because he’s doing so many nice things for me.

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

… or manage my manual transmission in the snow with the hurt arm?
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Whoa, whoa, whoa… you drive a stick?

[quote]Dr. Pangloss wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

… or manage my manual transmission in the snow with the hurt arm?
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Whoa, whoa, whoa… you drive a stick?
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Yes. More fun.

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]SkyzykS wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
So, I’ve fractured my elbow, which two things: one is that the sling adds a whole 'nother layer of problematic to the naked cooking idea, and the other thing is that I’ve been backing off on the paying and refusing help thing. I let him zip my jacket over the sling, which initially I was going to refuse (“I don’t need it zipped! It’s fine! I’m not helpless!”) because of posts here, and didn’t quarrel about the check at dinner, which in my opinion I should have because he sat with me for 4 hours at the ER (although it passed quickly and we had fun), so the onus should have been on me.

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This Ice Skating thing that you are doing- Is it down hill or something? I’ve been on ice ever since I can remember and it never hurt that much.

All kidding aside, those fractures sound painful. It’s nice that he sat with you in the ER too, and you were even able to have fun. Not that most good men wouldn’t have the patience, but it would be kind of rotten if he hadn’t.
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It’s really not painful now that it’s in a sling and not popping out of place. THAT part sucked.

The skating, no, not downhill. Flat surface. I just find jumping the hurdles really challenging.

Seriously, though, I’m a competent skater in some ways and it makes me do stupid stuff. I did a lot of inline skating when I lived in Texas, where parks tend to have long pathways. So I’m comfortable with speed, avoiding obstacles, and stopping in hockey skates. What I can’t do are ice rink things like quick turns to backward skating and crossovers. I want to do those things and I’m very suggestible, so when my coach says “It’s a lot easier if you go faster” I get all excited and do it faster and then next thing you know, ER. :confused:

I can’t even imagine Hockey not going to the emergency room with me. In fact, I think if he’d been able to, schedule-wise, he’d have followed me to work this morning to open my car door and carry my stuff in. He’s a really good guy. I like him so damn much. :slight_smile:

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Don’t hold me to this (yet), but I think you found the right guy.[/quote]

Guess who drove me to work this morning so I wouldn’t have to clear my car or manage my manual transmission in the snow with the hurt arm?

Don’t hold me to it, either, but I think so, too.

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I’m going to have to meet him to be sure, of course.

(Snow? A hint as to where you are hiding!)[/quote]

If you ever meet him, you’ll like him. I really don’t see how anyone could not.

This morning he shoveled both of us out as well as my neighbor, who’s had surgery on his ankle. I got into a warmed car and found potato chips on the seat waiting for me, to go with the wrap I made for lunch - he’d gone to the store for them while I was getting ready for work. He’s making dinner again tonight.

I need to figure out what big, nice thing I can do for him, because he’s doing so many nice things for me.

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Does he have a sister?

Ok, I have to ask, since this is getting serious: Is he kind to strangers and inferiors, too, or just to women that he’s having sex with?

I’m not sure guys need “things” done for them. Just being appreciative, sweet, considerate and, well, you know, in bed, is likely the best thing you can do for him.[/quote]

He’s very kind. He’s been shoveling my injured neighbor out when storms are bad (retired male with ankle injury), he cuts wood (clearing land) and gives it away to various neighbors, and is always pleasant to waitstaff and such.

On the other hand, he doesn’t like living close to people and seems to draw clear boundaries between himself and needy others.

[quote]Chushin wrote:

Sounds good.

What does this amazing man do for a living?[/quote]

He installs, services, and trains users on bio-medical equipment at hospitals, universities and research facilities.

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

Sounds good.

What does this amazing man do for a living?[/quote]

He installs, services, and trains users on bio-medical equipment at hospitals, universities and research facilities.

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He creates cyborgs…

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

Sounds good.

What does this amazing man do for a living?[/quote]

He installs, services, and trains users on bio-medical equipment at hospitals, universities and research facilities.

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He creates cyborgs…[/quote]

Yes. Soon I’ll have an army.

I had a nightmare Sunday night about my ex-husband. The sad thing was that the whole thing was just the dark side of the marriage, so a nightmare made of bland normalcy. In it we were selling a house, but it wasn’t ready to show. I had plans with a friend, who was expected to be over at any time, but the ex was cleaning in such a clenched, angry way that I felt like I needed to do some, too. I decided to tackle the bathroom, but was worried about splattering cleanser with bleach on my clothes. I was tense almost to the point of panic. Over nothing, really. Someone else’s shitty mood.

I brought this line of orion’s over here because I didn’t want to derail the thread it was in. . .

[quote]One of the sentences I like the most is “At first I thought you were an asshole, but…”, because, sex.

If I hear that I know that my work is practically done.[/quote]

I said that to my ex-husband. It turns out he WAS kind of an asshole. I read him correctly.

Em - do you put any stock in dreams?

Will they steer your choices at all? If a client came to you and said they’re trying to decide between 2 jobs and had a good dream about one of the jobs, would you advise them to act on it?

As an aside, I had a dream last night I was selling a house and was washing the windows. Every time I swiped a window with a rag, the rag would be red with what I understood to be blood. But there was no visible blood on the windows.

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]One of the sentences I like the most is “At first I thought you were an asshole, but…”, because, sex.

If I hear that I know that my work is practically done.[/quote]

I said that to my ex-husband. It turns out he WAS kind of an asshole. I read him correctly.

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First, you did the nasty with him. ( I hope, who knows these days).

Second, there is the caring and the uncaring asshole.

The asshole that cares kills the tingles, the asshole that barely notices you, thats the asshole that creates the tingles.

If you go out of your way to be mean to a woman that accomplishes nothing.

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I had a nightmare Sunday night about my ex-husband. The sad thing was that the whole thing was just the dark side of the marriage, so a nightmare made of bland normalcy. In it we were selling a house, but it wasn’t ready to show. I had plans with a friend, who was expected to be over at any time, but the ex was cleaning in such a clenched, angry way that I felt like I needed to do some, too. I decided to tackle the bathroom, but was worried about splattering cleanser with bleach on my clothes. I was tense almost to the point of panic. Over nothing, really. Someone else’s shitty mood.

I brought this line of orion’s over here because I didn’t want to derail the thread it was in. . .

[quote]One of the sentences I like the most is “At first I thought you were an asshole, but…”, because, sex.

If I hear that I know that my work is practically done.[/quote]

I said that to my ex-husband. It turns out he WAS kind of an asshole. I read him correctly.

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Well, hell. Don’t just lurk. Answer the questions poised in the thread.

Am I doomed to attract pyscho women?

[quote]thethirdruffian wrote:

Am I doomed to attract pyscho women?
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Yes.

But you don’t have to enter a relationship with them just because they’re attracted to you. You have some choice in the matter. A better question to ask is, “Why do I keep repeating the same patterns in my relationships?”

[quote]Dr. Pangloss wrote:
Em - do you put any stock in dreams?

Will they steer your choices at all? If a client came to you and said they’re trying to decide between 2 jobs and had a good dream about one of the jobs, would you advise them to act on it?

As an aside, I had a dream last night I was selling a house and was washing the windows. Every time I swiped a window with a rag, the rag would be red with what I understood to be blood. But there was no visible blood on the windows.

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Dream interpretation is not something I’m particularly interested in, but I certainly think they can give information about what’s going on in our heads. If the client with the job dream came in I would probably ask what about the place might have been the impetus for the positive dream, and go from there. I would imagine that ultimately yes, we together would lean toward the dream job, but only because something about it struck such a positive chord. On the other hand, if both jobs had the same happy vibe after we explored the matter, I’d say go for money and short commute. I think sometimes the emotions behind the dreams are very clear, and those are interesting to me. Others just seem like weird shit, and I’m not woo enough to want to assign meaning to them.

Your dream goes into the symbolic realm, which I don’t know much about. What do you think it represents?