Let's Process Our Feelings II

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Hockey and I had a conversation I thought was funny.

As I’ve mentioned, he’s very even-tempered. Anyway, so a couple of nights ago I asked him if he thought we’d ever have a horrible fight, because right now I can’t picture how it would work. And he said “Of course we’ll fight. You’ll start yelling at me about something and I won’t know what you’re talking about, even though you’ll explain it very well. So I’ll look at you like this [palms-up gesture, see Shrek photo for facial expression] and say ‘you’re upset about THAT?’ And that’ll incite you even more.”

So I offered that I can’t imagine myself yelling right off the bat; I’d be more likely to stew and worry for a couple of days because I don’t like conflict, then finally talk to him very tactfully about my important issue. And he goes: “But I won’t listen to you! Even though it’s important!”

It cracked me up because it’s so spot-on.

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I see. It probably doesn’t help that I’m drinking and smoking again as well. BBL, sorting my life out.

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[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

But you you’ll be happy to know that your name came up ;-)[/quote]

You’ll be surprised to hear that curiosity about this is killing me. In what context? WHAT WAS SAID? lol

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What happens in Pittsburgh stays in Pittsburgh!

Nah, Skyz just made reference to this thread via your name.[/quote]

Aw, were you guys processing your feelings in person? :slight_smile:

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

But you you’ll be happy to know that your name came up ;-)[/quote]

You’ll be surprised to hear that curiosity about this is killing me. In what context? WHAT WAS SAID? lol

[/quote]

What happens in Pittsburgh stays in Pittsburgh!

Nah, Skyz just made reference to this thread via your name.[/quote]

Aw, were you guys processing your feelings in person? :-)[/quote]

Yes, but it was a very testosterone filled conversation.

We covered a lot of ground in a short time, but I could have hung out with Chushin for hours. The waitress was very good patient with us too, but I wouldn’t want to test her.

Edit: Also in a strange twist of things from the internet comming to friution in real life- I found out today that I actually work for a Hungarian cabinet maker! The owner was telling me today about his apprenticeship when he was a kid, and it was in cabinet making. I started cracking up as he told me this and he had no idea why, other than the conclusion he came too last week- which is that I am nuts.

Thanks Nards. It wouldn’t have been funny without you.

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I’m still having nice feelings. In case anyone’s wondering.

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I’m still having nice feelings. In case anyone’s wondering. [/quote]

Actually I was just wondering about that.

That is good!

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[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I’m still having nice feelings. In case anyone’s wondering. [/quote]

I figured your absence from this thread meant that you no longer had need of us since you are all in love and stuff. ;-)[/quote]

Ha, partly true! I still need you, I just don’t have time since I’m all in love and stuff. :slight_smile: We’ve been spending a lot of time together. Two weeks ago he met my best friend, last weekend my family, or pieces of it.

I think he and I both feel that we’ve hit the jackpot. Neither of us is perfect, God knows, but to this point we seem to be just right for each other. We have eerily similar dreams and priorities, and completely agree about how to have fun. He’s nice to sleep with (in all the ways) and wake with. I think our politics and religions match (we’re both inconsistent in these arenas) and our senses of humor, work ethics, and levels of competitiveness seem in line.

He’s so competent and relaxed. And have I mentioned that he’s debt-free? ~swoon~

I can’t stop listening to mushy songs - especially the ones that usually irritate me!

Life is good.

How is your trip going?

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Yo Emily!

Have you ever thought about doing a veiled podcast where you let people ask you questions like such on Youtube?

Kinda like, Yo Elliot?

:stuck_out_tongue:

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
And have I mentioned that he’s debt-free? ~swoon~
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Note to self; start opening with this line when I meet women.

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[quote]Severiano wrote:
Yo Emily!

Have you ever thought about doing a veiled podcast where you let people ask you questions like such on Youtube?

Kinda like, Yo Elliot?

:stuck_out_tongue: [/quote]

No, I have never thought of that, but my best friend and I did talk about doing an advice show at a local-ish volunteer radio station, a la Dr. Laura or Frasier, but more fun. We were going to call it “You Got a Problem?” (said belligerently) with a following “We’ve Got a Solution!” (said cheerily). But we never found time for it, alas.

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[quote]csulli wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
And have I mentioned that he’s debt-free? ~swoon~
[/quote]
Note to self; start opening with this line when I meet women.[/quote]

It would work on me!

Actually, I initiated that one inadvertently. I was talking about something - living cheaply to sock away money toward a house, maybe - and then got nervous that I sounded like I can’t afford my life. He’s always trying to supplement me, which also makes me nervous, so I started babbling about having long term and short term savings and no debt, then got lost and couldn’t remember what I was talking about originally and asked him what was my point and he said: “You were saying that you’re not a pauper.” And then he told me that he has long term and short term savings, too, and pays off his credit cards every month.

This was pillow talk. lol

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[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
I’m still having nice feelings. In case anyone’s wondering. [/quote]

I figured your absence from this thread meant that you no longer had need of us since you are all in love and stuff. ;-)[/quote]

Ha, partly true! I still need you, I just don’t have time since I’m all in love and stuff. :slight_smile: We’ve been spending a lot of time together. Two weeks ago he met my best friend, last weekend my family, or pieces of it.

I think he and I both feel that we’ve hit the jackpot. Neither of us is perfect, God knows, but to this point we seem to be just right for each other. We have eerily similar dreams and priorities, and completely agree about how to have fun. He’s nice to sleep with (in all the ways) and wake with. I think our politics and religions match (we’re both inconsistent in these arenas) and our senses of humor, work ethics, and levels of competitiveness seem in line.

He’s so competent and relaxed. And have I mentioned that he’s debt-free? ~swoon~

I can’t stop listening to mushy songs - especially the ones that usually irritate me!

Life is good.

How is your trip going?[/quote]

Really happy for you. You deserve it.

(Obligatory “stay grounded!” comment: But how do you fight?)

Been back in Japan for a week now. (I guess time flies when you’re in love :-). As I get older, the jet jag gets worse, but nothing beats hanging with friends of 35 years!
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When it’s time for you to come back, I’m going to disclose my secret location, because I don’t want to miss it next time.

I don’t know how we fight because we haven’t had a single cross word yet. I’ve told him a couple of things that are important to me and he’s listened and that was that, except he still pushes for the unbalanced financial thing (paying for everything).

Maybe I’m being overly optimistic, but I think we’ll fight well when the time comes.

We’ll see!

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
except he still pushes for the unbalanced financial thing (paying for everything).
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Yes, because now its a war of frames.

This is a traditional guy and you like him.

Let him be traditional.

If you think its too one sided, up the ante and make it even by doing something traditional for him.

Like cooking.

Nekkid in high heels.

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[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
except he still pushes for the unbalanced financial thing (paying for everything).
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Yes, because now its a war of frames.

This is a traditional guy and you like him.

Let him be traditional.

If you think its too one sided, up the ante and make it even by doing something traditional for him.

Like cooking.

Nekkid in high heels. [/quote]
but do you love him enough to fry bacon?

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[quote]silverblood wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
except he still pushes for the unbalanced financial thing (paying for everything).
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Yes, because now its a war of frames.

This is a traditional guy and you like him.

Let him be traditional.

If you think its too one sided, up the ante and make it even by doing something traditional for him.

Like cooking.

Nekkid in high heels. [/quote]
but do you love him enough to fry bacon?[/quote]

No.

Even if I did I would not steal her man.