Let's Process Our Feelings II

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[quote]Chushin wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

Yes, to all of this. (You jet lag well, Chushin.)

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Aw, thanks Emily.

I wish we could be friends in real life.[/quote]

Me too. Maybe someday.

Speaking of which (friends in real life) tonight is the inaugural meeting of my newly-formed Magazine Club. I was looking to start a book club, as diligent readers may remember, but some of my friends balked at having to read books on a schedule, so we decided on magazines since they’re easier and we all work in medical settings and see them as we walk past tables. Reading of the magazines is NOT required, just that we glance at one in passing. I’ve helpfully swiped a WebMD magazine from work in case anyone needs to glance at it tonight.

Plan is white wine, stuffed shells, salad, cheese and crackers, probably some oversharing, and then naturally the processing of any feelings that might arise during the oversharing portion of the evening. Magazine clubs are much like lesbian parties. :slight_smile:

I had dinner with my best friend last night and she pointed out that I now have everything I said I wanted a year ago. And she’s right. It’s pretty nice.

TNation is a nice part of my nice life.

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[quote]debraD wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Severiano wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:
I just sent a woman a picture of a girl that looks just like her, just 20 years younger, in my appartement, scantily clad and all.

She deserves it, but I just might be a dick.

Given that I invited girl A so that I could send pics to girl B.

Guess I have to be really nice to girl A then…[/quote]

Why did she deserve it and why did you do it?

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Because she dragged me along for a while, trying to turn me into a Beta Orbiter…

She was somewhat succesful too…

Somewhat…

Be that as it may, I just wanted to show her what I could do if I wanted to.

Its cheap.

Its vulgar.

I hope it hurts. [/quote]

That’s more spiteful than what the girl did to you isn’t it? And, your fault for following her around, if she didn’t reciprocate interest…

I wish I had that spite though tbh, I’ve been treated way worse by a lady who came onto me and tried to flip it around as if I were trying to pursue her, and had the nerve to cancel and flake on me :slight_smile: She regrets it, and I get to remind her every time she sees me lol. [/quote]

No, its not more spiteful, not even close.

And she actively tried to turn me into her cuddle bitch.

And I told her what I would do, she just did not believe it.

Just provided proof that I can. [/quote]

He who cares least wins. You did not care the least.
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This is true.

The thing is, no one wants me to care like I care when I feel shit on.

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I read this:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

Speaking of which (friends in real life) tonight is the inaugural meeting of my newly-formed Magazine Club. I was looking to start a book club, as diligent readers may remember, but some of my friends balked at having to read books on a schedule, so we decided on magazines since they’re easier and we all work in medical settings and see them as we walk past tables. Reading of the magazines is NOT required, just that we glance at one in passing. I’ve helpfully swiped a WebMD magazine from work in case anyone needs to glance at it tonight.

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Immediately thought “LESBIAN PARTY”

And then read this:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

Magazine clubs are much like lesbian parties. :slight_smile:

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lol

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[quote]Kakarat wrote:
I read this:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

Speaking of which (friends in real life) tonight is the inaugural meeting of my newly-formed Magazine Club. I was looking to start a book club, as diligent readers may remember, but some of my friends balked at having to read books on a schedule, so we decided on magazines since they’re easier and we all work in medical settings and see them as we walk past tables. Reading of the magazines is NOT required, just that we glance at one in passing. I’ve helpfully swiped a WebMD magazine from work in case anyone needs to glance at it tonight.

[/quote]

Immediately thought “LESBIAN PARTY”

And then read this:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

Magazine clubs are much like lesbian parties. :slight_smile:

[/quote]

lol[/quote]

Yup! We actually had one dyed in the wool lesbian and one circumstantial lesbian last night, along with three straights. Next club meeting will be bigger; we’re all pretty enthusiastic about not reading books and then having meetings.

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Here, right side up, for heaven 's sake. I take my magazines seriously!

Flowers are from Hockey. There are two dozen roses here, too, and it’s all been divided into four vases. One of the club members is looking to find a man and I got to be a total expert on the matter because I have so many flowers. lol

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
Flowers are from Hockey.[/quote]
?

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[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]debraD wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]Severiano wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]orion wrote:
I just sent a woman a picture of a girl that looks just like her, just 20 years younger, in my appartement, scantily clad and all.

She deserves it, but I just might be a dick.

Given that I invited girl A so that I could send pics to girl B.

Guess I have to be really nice to girl A then…[/quote]

Why did she deserve it and why did you do it?

[/quote]

Because she dragged me along for a while, trying to turn me into a Beta Orbiter…

She was somewhat succesful too…

Somewhat…

Be that as it may, I just wanted to show her what I could do if I wanted to.

Its cheap.

Its vulgar.

I hope it hurts. [/quote]

That’s more spiteful than what the girl did to you isn’t it? And, your fault for following her around, if she didn’t reciprocate interest…

I wish I had that spite though tbh, I’ve been treated way worse by a lady who came onto me and tried to flip it around as if I were trying to pursue her, and had the nerve to cancel and flake on me :slight_smile: She regrets it, and I get to remind her every time she sees me lol. [/quote]

No, its not more spiteful, not even close.

And she actively tried to turn me into her cuddle bitch.

And I told her what I would do, she just did not believe it.

Just provided proof that I can. [/quote]

He who cares least wins. You did not care the least.
[/quote]

This is true.

The thing is, no one wants me to care like I care when I feel shit on. [/quote]

How is that? The caring, I mean, not the revenges.

When I care deeply about something I try to make changes in me to prevent the bad thing happening again. It leads to missteps, of course (e.g. went from flat, passionless husband to boyfriend who couldn’t keep his passions in check) but that’s the process of growing as a human being: encountering challenges and meeting them with grace and strength, whether you ultimately win or lose the challenge.

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[quote]MightyMouse17 wrote:

[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
Flowers are from Hockey.[/quote]
?[/quote]

I play so well, they give me flowers.

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Aren’t they supposed to give you beer instead? For real though, you play hockey?

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[quote]MightyMouse17 wrote:
Aren’t they supposed to give you beer instead? For real though, you play hockey?[/quote]

No, I’m dating a guy who plays (recreational) hockey. He gave me the flowers.

Sometimes he gives me beer, too. It’s a good deal altogether. lol

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Hockey players are the best! :slight_smile:

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[quote]MightyMouse17 wrote:
Hockey players are the best! :)[/quote]

At the moment, I’m inclined to agree. :slight_smile:

Although I’m currently sitting on a bruised tailbone from doing crossover drills because he thinks it would be fun if we BOTH played recreational hockey.

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Good luck! Theres a decent amount of couples playing where I do and they seem to have a good time.

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[quote]MightyMouse17 wrote:
Good luck! Theres a decent amount of couples playing where I do and they seem to have a good time.[/quote]

I narrowly escaped a co-ed broomball scare last week. Luckily no one was there when we went to check it out, and ice sports are getting ready to end at the place. Whew! I do NOT want to chase balls around on ice with a funky broom wearing funky sneakers, but alas, such is my nature that I could probably be talked into it. And I’d probably have fun! But in theory I’m completely against it.

Curling, too, lol. NON.

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Thanks. You’re a very nice person.
I’m seeing a psychologist and he says I need to find coping strategies. My feeling is that this is redundant. Nothing I do ever seems to work for very long. I’ve stopped smoking again (I was clean until I went back to hospital, where I cracked. Now I have one of those vapourising things and use it maybe 3 times a day). I need my life back. I want to drink and work and have sex and play sports again. I’ve been doing all those things, but people keep telling me to hold back and focus on getting well BUT GOD DAMMIT I DON’T WANT TO. Is this a feeling that needs processing?

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[quote]Der_Steppenwolfe wrote:

Thanks. You’re a very nice person.
I’m seeing a psychologist and he says I need to find coping strategies. My feeling is that this is redundant. Nothing I do ever seems to work for very long. I’ve stopped smoking again (I was clean until I went back to hospital, where I cracked. Now I have one of those vapourising things and use it maybe 3 times a day). I need my life back. I want to drink and work and have sex and play sports again. I’ve been doing all those things, but people keep telling me to hold back and focus on getting well BUT GOD DAMMIT I DON’T WANT TO. Is this a feeling that needs processing?[/quote]

Coping strategies geared to managing what?

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

[quote]MightyMouse17 wrote:
Good luck! Theres a decent amount of couples playing where I do and they seem to have a good time.[/quote]

I narrowly escaped a co-ed broomball scare last week. Luckily no one was there when we went to check it out, and ice sports are getting ready to end at the place. Whew! I do NOT want to chase balls around on ice with a funky broom wearing funky sneakers, but alas, such is my nature that I could probably be talked into it. And I’d probably have fun! But in theory I’m completely against it.

Curling, too, lol. NON.

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Broomball is awesome. I went to a school with 15,000 people and around 2,000 played in an intramural broomball league. Tons of fun. Funky sneakers not required, but they make life a lot easier.

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[quote]EmilyQ wrote:

and one circumstantial lesbian…
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Do any of these circumstances include middle aged, balding Greek men?

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[quote]Der_Steppenwolfe wrote:

Thanks. You’re a very nice person.
I’m seeing a psychologist and he says I need to find coping strategies. My feeling is that this is redundant. Nothing I do ever seems to work for very long. I’ve stopped smoking again (I was clean until I went back to hospital, where I cracked. Now I have one of those vapourising things and use it maybe 3 times a day). I need my life back. I want to drink and work and have sex and play sports again. I’ve been doing all those things, but people keep telling me to hold back and focus on getting well BUT GOD DAMMIT I DON’T WANT TO. Is this a feeling that needs processing?[/quote]

Are these things that you take to the extreme?

I can kind of understand this because I’ve done that with each of those to the point of neglecting other important aspects of life. Not even neglecting really, but forgetting about them all together. Then while lost in the la-la land of snowboarding, building a company on 18 hour days, or beating my liver into submission- everything else fell apart.