Maybe this is a difference between relationships and therapy then. It’s often that a woman will come to her SO complaining about XYZ and SO will say “well have you tried this [insert actual solution to problem]?” and the woman gets mad about it. The literal “It’s not about the nail” video I posted above.
Therapy is probably just a better conduit for solutions than relationships. I guess that makes sense though, emotional validation and all that.
This phrasing is funny - it reminds me of my wife. 