I Need Some Help

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My life is Lifetime bad right now. No, really, it’s so bad that it’s kinda unbelievable.

Back story:
I was riding my Harley and wrecked. I had all my gear on, helmet, leathers, gloves, & glasses, so I got away with nothing more than a few broken bones in my right foot. However, I was riding without a motorcycle endorsement on my licens. Yeah, I know, I’m an idiot and I deserve everything that comes after that. Regardless, I’m now in a lot of trouble with work for riding without illegally.

So, here I am, after foot surgery, looking at the end of my carreer, can’t workout, worrying and just generally hating everything, when my wife comes to me and says she’s done here.

This is the mother of my children and the woman I have spent almost a decade with telling me that she wants a divorce. I wasn’t exactly blindsided, but wow did that hurt.

So, to recap: Broken foot, Hog’s totaled, carreer’s over and wife’s leaving.

I don’t know if I’m looking for advice, or what. Just please go easy on me in the flaming.

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What was your career?

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BTW, your wife sounds like a raging bitch. Talk about kicking a man when he’s down.

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No flaming. You have to get through this and you will…but it will take time.

This is why I am “allergic” to the idea of marriage.

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Whats your career? and why does falling off your bike end it?

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[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
BTW, your wife sounds like a raging bitch. Talk about kicking a man when he’s down. [/quote]

I have to agree…which is why I don’t believe most marriages are truly based on love but more on “convenience”.

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I’m in the Air Force, and with the amount of trouble I’m getting in during a pretty serious draw down of personnel, I’m looking at being out by the end of summer.

Please don’t call her names. Funnily enough, I still care deeply for her.

Jesus Prof, have you gottn bigger? You look more like the Hulk than Professor X in your avatar.

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[quote]Professor X wrote:

[quote]LankyMofo wrote:
BTW, your wife sounds like a raging bitch. Talk about kicking a man when he’s down. [/quote]

I have to agree…which is why I don’t believe most marriages are truly based on love but more on “convenience”. [/quote]

Regardless of the long term prospects of their marriage, you’d think she’d at least wait til he got back on his feet (no pun intended). After 10 years I’d think she owes him that much, at least.

OP - look on the bright side, now that you don’t have a career she can’t take half of what you don’t have!

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start banging some young sluts, that will make you feel better.

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I can imagine the convo…“honey, I know it’s a bad time and all but we need to talk”…fuck me, couldn’t it wait a month?

Lock your guns up and give the keys to someone who lives far away.

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[quote]SickAbs wrote:
Whats your career? and why does falling off your bike end it?[/quote]

Not having your required id’s and paper work for riding a bike legally in the military is pretty serious if you injure yourself while on it. They MAKE us maintain regulation to ride…which is why I am surprised the OP even had a bike to ride with no tags.

The military covers all health costs…as long as you are in the right. I am not sure how they handle issues like this.

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[quote]Mad HORSE wrote:
I’m in the Air Force, and with the amount of trouble I’m getting in during a pretty serious draw down of personnel, I’m looking at being out by the end of summer.

Please don’t call her names. Funnily enough, I still care deeply for her.

Jesus Prof, have you gottn bigger? You look more like the Hulk than Professor X in your avatar.[/quote]

Sorry about the negative names thrown at her, but how much does she love you back?

Also…I needed to hear that after feeling like I lost muscle from not being able to eat the same way while moving for the last week. I have learned that huge changes in my routine are not tolerated well…especially when I don’t have access to my food for a few days.

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You will find another career. Your bones will heal. You will find a better woman, who you hopefully won’t marry but spend a long time with.

I know your situation sucks, but you know that part of it is your fault. I’m not trying to make you feel worse, but I think that you will learn a lot from this and when you bounce back, you’ll be better off than before this all happened!

Good luck!

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That’s pretty harsh. I’m guessing the wife leaving you is the worst part. Now you know where she draws the line on ‘love.’

Remember: don’t waste your love on people who don’t deserve it.

Sell all your shit and live free for awhile man. Fuck it.

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[quote]RSGZ wrote:
You will find another career. Your bones will heal. You will find a better woman, who you hopefully won’t marry but spend a long time with.

I know your situation sucks, but you know that part of it is your fault. I’m not trying to make you feel worse, but I think that you will learn a lot from this and when you bounce back, you’ll be better off than before this all happened!

Good luck![/quote]

This.

The one thing that can’t be stopped or adjusted is time, that’ll keep ticking and so will you.

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You’ll live, if you want to, and I think you do.

You WILL get through this shit…

Saying ‘every little thing gonna be ah right’ just isn’t what you need man…

You could still get some limited training in…I’ve been ‘out of town’ got shot in the leg and back in the gym in 8 days from that.

Women can and often are CRUEL. Sorry about that with your wife…

Wish I knew you in IRL, then I could be of some real use to you…

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Mad Horse, you need to get a grip…

First, are you facing a dishonorable discharge because of this license endorsement fuckup, or will you be out with a standard discharge? If it’s the latter, then at least you have all the experience you got there to draw from. If I were an employer, I would hire ex-military in a heartbeat. Everyone knows they bring discipline and cutting edge job skills with them. I think many employers realize this. You’ll be fine, job-wise, once your foot heals.

Next, the Harley… So it’s totaled, and I assume there’s no insurance payout? OK, so save your money once you’re working again, and you can get another one in time. The important thing is you could have been hurt much worse or even killed. A bike can be replaced.

Re - training. Don’t stop training just because your foot’s broken. Train around it while it heals. Focus on your upper body for a while. There will be SOME minor spillover to effect to your legs. And, much as I would never say it otherwise, do some stuff like leg curls and leg extensions. (Believe me, if your foot wasn’t broken you’d never hear me saying something like that.) It might be enough to keep your legs from atrophying too much while the foot heals.

Making the effort to continue training as best you can will pay off, especially in terms of keeping your attitude positive and your confidence intact.

Finally, your wife… I won’t call her names, but let’s be blunt… She probably didn’t just wake up one day and decide “I think I’ll divorce my husband today.” This is obviously something that she has had brewing for some time, whether you realized it or not. She could have said something before. She could have tried to work on the marriage with you, instead of keeping you completely in the dark. And, when she finally does decide to “spring” the news on you, she picks the moment where you are at your most vulnerable?

Fuck that! If she stuck it out for 10 years, the least she could have done is stick out a few more months until you were no longer literally flat on your back. No name-calling from me, but, seriously, dude… don’t waste your time mourning her loss. I don’t know you but I still think you deserve better than this. Go find a girl who’s worthy of you.

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If it doesn’t kill you it will make you stronger, bro. I know it’s hard to have that perspective when all of it is happening at the same time. You’ll survive. It may set you back a few years financially, but so what? Money, women, bikes and careers are all things that come and go. Broken bones will heal…

Don’t waste your down time feeling sorry for yourself. Figure out where you want to go, figure out how to get there, and when you can, do the work.

That’s the best I can give you… Short, simple and sweet. Best of luck and stay strong.

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Thanks for all the positive comments in such a short time.

That really is the worst part - All of this in such a short amount of time. It’s overwhelming. I have literally felt like I was sinking, or drowning, or some shitty metaphor where there’s just too much to deal with.

I’m going to press through. It’s going to take me ahile, but I’m going to get past this. I just have no fucking idea where to begin. It’s…Fuck me it’s a lot to deal with at once.

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here is the way I like to think about shit like this. sit back and meditate, is this going to destroy you? I believe no. So then you say to yourself. Hell i’m one tough SOB, look at all this shit that just got dumped on me, and i’m going to sail through it. Imagine the shit I can deal with in the future. It will seem like a walk in the park. I’m awsome because I can handle shit that would cause other people to fold, turn to drugs, drive thier car off a cliff, go on a killing spree. I won’t do any of those things, so that proves I’m one awsome motherfucker.

You know, just something like that.

V