I was thinking along the legal lines of 18, here in the states. Since that isn’t where it is, I guess it doesn’t really matter.
Nephorm,
Being honest doesn’t necessarily mean being obnoxiously blunt. I just meant you should make sure you’re both on the same page. As for honesty being a ploy to keep guys from having casual sex…GIVE ME A BREAK. Maybe you should find another excuse for the cold, empty spot on the other side of your bed. This one just doesn’t cut it!!
jared
and the cycle will continue. in a couple of years you will come to the realization as to why should i be with this old lady? then find a young tender, and train her. just for shits and giggles, ask her if she has ever dated an older man? and i don’t mean 2-4 years older. i’d put money on it!
Why should I be with her? I love her, that’s why. Age has really never been an issue to me. I had to be serious about marrying her, but you have to be serious about anyone you marry.
She’s never had a significant relationship with someone “older” than her. Nor younger.
Punkin: I never blamed the ‘cold, empty spot on my bed’ on ‘honesty.’ I lay the blame squarely on my own poor endowment of social skills (or at least those skills necessary to get sex).
But in the midst of insulting me, you forgot to actually answer my question. How would the conversation actually go? I am honestly, truly curious, since I don’t have the capacity to imagine it for myself.
Nephorm
It wasn’t meant as an insult. It was just a response to the whole women plotting against men statement.
As for how the conversation would go, I don’t have an exact answer for you. I didn’t mean that you should just sit her down and bluntly blurt out what you wanted to do. I was thinking more along the lines of a “conversation” over the course of a date or something. Flirting is flirting, but imho you should be able to gauge the other person’s, shall we say “receptiveness”, to the act, once you’ve talked to them in an intimate setting.
I’m 27 and my cut-off for younger is 21, simply because if they’re too young, they’re too immature, in my experience anyways. Don’t have a cut-off for older…
oh by the way, another one:
“Old enough to go to the store, old enough to get bred.”
When I was 22 I dated a 17 year old. We’ve been married for 21 years now so I guess she wasn’t too young. It depends on the maturity levels of both people but in general I don’t see a problem there.