[quote]Chushin wrote:
After the euphoria wears off, you still want to spend time with her.
And, she doesn’t direspect you – even when fighting.[/quote]
I like this one the best.
[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
[quote]randomonymous wrote:
[quote]SkyzykS wrote:
You know she’s the one when you don’t feel the need to install a key logger on the computer.
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Hey asshole!!!
that was actually really funny i LOL’d for real.[/quote]
Hi. I’m SkyzykS. I do stuff like that sometimes.
Its all for the lols. Nice to meet you.
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nice to meet you. I’m the same way. no hard feelings.
prick.
[quote]orion wrote:
You dont.
There is no ONE.
There are just women whose idiosyncrasies you can tolerate and women you can not tolerate.[/quote]
[quote]DoubleDuce wrote:
Successful long term relationships are work. There is no magic chemistry that clicks in and fills your relationship with love and joy. You can only get out what you first put in.[/quote]
This. Absolutely this. I recently got out of a relationship with a girl because she had a history of trying to make doomed relationships work, and was terrified of “settling.” The first time we hit a bumpy patch (i.e., me going home for Christmas and being gone for a week), she suddenly feels like she’s forcing her feelings for me and dumps me.
So she goes from one extreme of putting up with abusive boyfriends, to the other extreme of dumping someone at the first sign of trouble. I feel bad for her; she really is a great girl despite her issues, and the odds of her finding a decent guy out where she lives (an oil boomtown) are slim.
[quote]csulli wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
good relationship with her father[/quote]
seriously this[/quote]
Wow, so many things suddenly make sense. . .
[quote]DoubleDuce wrote:
Love is a choice. IMO the biggest reason marriages fail today is because people believe in “the one” and the “happily ever after”. Successful long term relationships are work. There is no magic chemistry that clicks in and fills your relationship with love and joy. You can only get out what you first put in.[/quote]
Eh. yes and no. Certainly successful relationships take work–I prefer term “maintenance” lol–but sure.
On the other hand I’ve been with women where nothing seemed like work. That’s key. When you do it without considering it work, that’s a big key. The relationship equivalent to “I don’t work a day in my life” career people. I’ve been in those, and there’s nothing like that.
I would tend to say more relationships fail because people are too damn selfish, not because of lack of work. Lack of work is the symptom, not the disease.
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
[quote]silverblood wrote:
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
How about…
A little off her rocker, but lets you have the TW score in scrabble games (?)[/quote]
if I were young, single, and good looking I would drive up to the land of glaciers and wolverines just on the chance that you would go out with me![/quote]
Wow, you must really like getting the TW in scrabble…
:)[/quote]
that and the fact that you’re capable of playing scrabble and the little off your rocker are just some of the reasons. ;{D
When SHE is taking YOU to the strip club, and buying you lap dances.
[quote]Chushin wrote:
After the euphoria wears off, you still want to spend time with her.
And, she doesn’t direspect you – even when fighting.[/quote]
Truth!
[quote]Aragorn wrote:
Eh. yes and no. Certainly successful relationships take work–I prefer term “maintenance” lol–but sure.
On the other hand I’ve been with women where nothing seemed like work. That’s key. When you do it without considering it work, that’s a big key. The relationship equivalent to “I don’t work a day in my life” career people. I’ve been in those, and there’s nothing like that.
I would tend to say more relationships fail because people are too damn selfish, not because of lack of work. Lack of work is the symptom, not the disease.[/quote]
I agree here. Obviously, you need to evaluate the relationship with something other than just “feelings”, and a healthy relationship takes maintenance (I like that term Aragorn). However, I also believe there should be “chemistry”. When I met my wife for the first time, there was just something that clicked. I won’t get too sappy and say I knew she was “the one” right away, but there was definitely something about her, and about “us”. I also waited for a little while before having sex. I think this helps us tell the difference between love and lust. We’ve been married 22 years.
I’m probably too new at the whole marriage thing to offer advice, but I have enjoyed reading these words of wisdom being laid down by some of T-Nation’s elder statesmen.
Quality thread.
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]Bismark wrote:
[quote]orion wrote:
[quote]DoubleDuce wrote:
Love is a choice. IMO the biggest reason marriages fail today is because people believe in “the one” and the “happily ever after”. Successful long term relationships are work. There is no magic chemistry that clicks in and fills your relationship with love and joy. You can only get out what you first put in.[/quote]
Nooooo!!!
I want all that I deserve because I am a special little snowflake…[/quote]
I have never maintained that there is a “one.” SO the question more accurately would be “How do you know if a women is worthy of marriage?”[/quote]
Oh…
Intact family, good relationship with her father, low partner count, preferably zero, no party or career girl vibe, willingness to sign a prenub.[/quote]
Hmm, what about career girls who are successful already, still pretty hot, and only rode the pygmy horse carousel, don’t have kids, and looking to settle?
What if she has the cash and wants to wine and dine YOU? lol
I sort of stumbled on this in my area… Lots of 30+ professional ladies who are home owners, single, no children, and eager to beat the clock lol… There’s an amazing amount of them on online dating sites… I kid you not.
Internet dating is pretty decent at screening. Things like education, age, children, religion, income, hobbies and all that. Looks like most professional women with graduates, masters degrees etc are fine with a man with a bachelors. It’s a sweet niche.
I met my wife at a friends party. She was sixteen and I was eighteen. Her best friend and my best friend thought we would like each other. It was her birthday in a few days so they thought it would be a nice ice breaker for us to talk.
Our first conversation went like this:
Me: Hi.
Her: Hi.
Me: Want a birthday kiss?
Her: Sure!
Clawed at each other the rest of the night lol. Agreed to meet the next night at another mutual friends house but I couldn’t stay long so we agreed to talk later in the week. On the walk home I turned to a buddie of mine and said “dude I’m fucked now, she’s perfect for me!”
That was in 1983,been married since. We’re so compatible it’s scary.
In answer to the OP’s question I don’t but it sure feels like it.
[quote]bond james bond wrote:
I met my wife at a friends party. She was sixteen and I was eighteen. Her best friend and my best friend thought we would like each other. It was her birthday in a few days so they thought it would be a nice ice breaker for us to talk.
Our first conversation went like this:
Me: Hi.
Her: Hi.
Me: Want a birthday kiss?
Her: Sure!
Clawed at each other the rest of the night lol. Agreed to meet the next night at another mutual friends house but I couldn’t stay long so we agreed to talk later in the week. On the walk home I turned to a buddie of mine and said “dude I’m fucked now, she’s perfect for me!”
That was in 1983,been married since. We’re so compatible it’s scary.
In answer to the OP’s question I don’t but it sure feels like it. [/quote]
That would have been nice…
[quote]Der_Steppenwolfe wrote:
Personally, I think I"ll know when/if she comes along. This is why I adore sexually aggressive women. Once I’ve been fucked into submission, I find my frame of mind changes and I’m more ready to think about long term life stuff.[/quote]
Trouble is, if she is sexually aggressive with you she’s probably been aggressive with lots of men. Nothing wrong with that as such. But it’s not something I would want to marry.