Yep, it’s true! I asked her this morning to go have lunch with me this Sunday at this really nice sports bar (she’s a big time NFL fan), and I got an unhesitant “yes.” I am on cloud freaking nine right now! Now I gotta figure out what I can eat w/o totally blowing the diet…probably a steak or a burger w/o the bun. Actually I’m not overly concerned with that. Nothing major, but at least my foot’s in the door! Thanks so much to everyone for all their words of encouragement, and hopefully things will just get better from here. THANKS EVERYONE!!!
Hey awesome! That’s cool she said yes. Hope things hit it off really well. Make sure you tell us everything on your date. If you don’t want to blow your diet, and the food on the menu looks a little greasy, there’s always the chicken salad.
awww yea…
good luck
That is great news, hope it all goes well on Sunday.
Thank GOD. You don’t understand how happy I am for you bro. Sometimes, life is pretty fucking cool.
Steve, sage-like advice. Wise words from a very wise man.
hey health food chain CEO, laughed my ass off!
Hmmmmmm, its 12:00 on the east coast. I wonder how our good buddy Teddy is making out?
Thanks, observer. If the romantic fiasco which is my life can help anyone, I’m greatly comforted. And reeshdawg, when I read your second post, I thought I was reading my own bio in places.
Here’s a quote from G.K. Chesterton, a writer of Christian apologetics. It relates to Teddy’s challenge, which most of us know too well: “Courage is almost a contradiction of terms. It means a strong desire to live taking the form of a readiness to die… A man cut off by the sea may save his life if he will risk it on the precipice. He can only get away from death by continually stepping within an inch of it. A soldier surrounded by enemies, if he is to cut his way out, needs to combine a strong desire for living with a strange carelessness about dying. He must not merely cling to live, for then he will be a coward, and will not escape. He must not merely wait for death, for then he will be a suicide, and will not escape. He must seek his life in a furious indifference to it; he must desire life like water and yet drink death like wine.”
A cynic may find it melodramatic to apply the above to something as "simple" as asking a girl for a date. Maybe we merry men on this thread, whose anterior delts ached from the torches we held high, know better. Courage is courage, no matter the setting. Teddy’s desire was to act on his interest in this girl, but to do it, he had to risk the death of that very interest. His courage combined his "strong desire" for her with a "strange carelessness" about her. From a different angle, Teddy’s choice was between his imagination, which is secure and controlled, and the real world, which is not secure and generally beyond control. And while I celebrate the "unhesitant yes" that he got, such responses are after the fact, relative to the real battle. In other words, Teddy won the moment he asked, and his victory would have been every bit the triumph even if this girl had shot him down. In the end, it’s not about getting the girl – it’s about becoming the man. Heroes use their imagination to motivate, but cowards use it to hide.
If I wasn’t on ‘M’ I’d tell you that reading this thread has made me feel all warm and mushy inside!
Calm down everyone, the guy’s going out, all right? Take it easy. I’m happy for him, but I think this thread has gone too far emotionally. Teddy is going on a date and might get laid. That’s probably as deep as it needs to be at this time.
Well…here’s an update. I GOT STOOD UP. Made a three hour drive just for this and she never showed. Women suck.
Teddy, ya gotta be jokin’? Man that’s the pits, maybe she’s got a good reason, maybe???
I wish I was joking, my friend. Not sure what good reason there would be, as it’s been two days and I still haven’t heard anything. I’m basically in disbelief right now. My take on it is that if she didn’t want to go, she should’ve told me s/u, but when I asked her, she was all excited and didn’t hesitate a bit. Pretty hard to respect someone like that. I guess I’ll wait and hear what the reasoning was, but I’m pretty disenchanted right now and I’m about ready to take that nice guy shit and throw it right out the window. And to be honest, if I hear that line about “other fish in the sea” one more time I’m going to puke. Okay, I’m not going to let this ruin the rest of my life but right now it still hurts. Sorry I didn’t have anything more positive to say.
Teddy, I believe you mentioned that she gets drunk at the Christmas parties. Maybe she has a drinking problem and was too hung over to go. Its pretty lousy though not to call. If she calls, I would blow her off but, then again, I haven’t been enthralled by her for 6 years. Either she really feels bad and is too embarrassed to call and explain or she is a sociopath who is not capable of remorse. I guess you’re on your own with this Bud. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
Appreciate the input, A.R. I’m pretty sure she doesn’t have a drinking problem, although people have different ideas on what a drinking problem really is. What gets me is that I have good inside info that she is really wanting to settle down into a serious relationship. She’s got a funny way of showing it. The way I look at it, if by the slim chance there is a legit reason why she was a no-show, it is going to be up to her to make the next move. I’m not sure there’s much she could do to make me want to see her, as much as I like her. The thing that really makes this difficult is that it’s going to be impossible for us to avoid each other since we work together, although not in the same city. I generally talk to her at least three times a week. The Christmas party has been postponed, possibly until summer (WTF???) so I guess I don’t have to worry about that anytime soon. I’ll tell you what, though…I’ve had two of the best freakin’ workouts of my life since this happened. Thanks again for listening.
Hey Teddy, that sucks. Well, there are other fish in the sea. I’m not being bullshitting…it is time for you to fuck saltwater seafood! Seriously, there’s other birds in the sky. There are plenty more cars on the lot? More crap in the sewer, more pee in the potty…sorry.
I feel your pain. Sometimes it hurts when someone is knocked off the pedestal that we place her on.
Don’t take offense, but why is it that you haven’t dated in ten years and why is it that you have only been focused on this woman for 5-6 years? I truly think that this is the more important issue.
I think you need to date-period. You have made this woman so important and have idealized her to such a great extent that no matter what she will fail to live up to your inflated image of her. She is just a human being. She passes gas just like the rest of us. Go out and date. If you’re afraid, get over it. When you date many women you’ll better realize your likes and dislikes. (Gasp!) You might even like someone that on first glance didn’t seem so appealing. Do this, and one day you’ll laugh at the fact that you ever so idealized the supervisor.
This is the exact reason that the RealDoll was invented 
goobertron, the thought of women passing gas is something I don’t want to think about. Seriously. Teddy, I feel your pain man, but driving three hours for a date is definately not worth it, no matter how hot she is. That’s just my opinion, you don’t have to take it seriously. Hey man, I don’t want to tell you that there are other women because you still have a chance at meeting this one. You said the Christmas party isn’t till this Summer. Go to that party, but until then, focus on your own life. Date other women, take classes, or pursue your lifetime goals. Hey man, if you really want to get this lady to like you, you have to like yourself and do the stuff that interests you. You look more attractive that way, and people will want to be with you more. Yes, including that lady you’ve had your eye on. I know it’s going to be another six-seven months till you see her at the party, so use that time wisely. You have plenty of time to mature, and when the time comes, she’ll be all over you!