Have sex with some super hot, lean, fit girls infront of your wife.
It’s funny that they make a big deal about being proud of what they look like, and yet the only pictures on that site are drawings to make the writers appear thinner.
I used to be 35 pounds heavier. I started working out because my husband had “the talk” with me, telling me I was letting myself go. He was right! That was not a pleasant day, though, for either of us.
One of the things that woke me up was that he is a competitive athlete (mountainbiker) & there are lots of hotties around at those races. I trust my husband, but let’s face it he’s only human. I decided that if I wanted him to keep coming home to me I’d better give him something worth coming home to.
So, I guess my best suggestion would be to stay in really great shape yourself & start to make your social life revolve around healthy activities/sports. Always invite her along, let her see how much fun it is to live this way. Maybe offer to make dinner together & share a glass of wine as a nice way to spend time together - as long as you get to choose the menu! Hopefully, she’ll start to see things your way.
This Kate Harding woman is like poison, though. She’s telling your wife that its okay to be not only fat, but hateful, as well. I wonder if you showed her some of Olesya Novik’s writings on Figure Athlete, if that might be useful.
Is there a sport your wife might be interested in, maybe something y’all could do together? Because frankly, if y’all can’t reconcile your two very different views of how one should live, I’m concerned for the future of the marriage.
Funny - if you post something on that site, and she doesn’t agree with it, she just deletes it. I read allot of the 400 + comments and almost all of them are positive (pro-fat bitch). I wonder how many posts she’s had to delete.
[quote]robs wrote:
Funny - if you post something on that site, and she doesn’t agree with it, she just deletes it. I read allot of the 400 + comments and almost all of them are positive (pro-fat bitch). I wonder how many posts she’s had to delete.[/quote]
I’m guessing 85% of them tell her to get off her fatass and work like the rest of us.
Pro fat groups ! Lazy immoral bastards.
I read a story in the paper today about a 15 year old girl who weighs 33 stones (460lbs). She has been told to lose 20 stones or she will die and is off to a Fat camp in the states. I wonder at which point she thought “man I’m out of shape” I do wonder how it happens.
[quote]ArmitageShanks wrote:
Pro fat groups ! Lazy immoral bastards.
I read a story in the paper today about a 15 year old girl who weighs 33 stones (460lbs). She has been told to lose 20 stones or she will die and is off to a Fat camp in the states. I wonder at which point she thought “man I’m out of shape” I do wonder how it happens. [/quote]
LOL, your screen names rocks.
okay… I bit, I read the article. I thought… what’s all the hoohaa about a self acceptance blog? I lost brain cells, I’m ashamed of being the same species as her…
Some good advice so far. I think Miss Parker is right though. You need to sit her down and talk to her. Let her know that, maybe it is okay to be fat, as Kate Harding says, but just not for you.
Lead by example. Get yourself into amazing shape.
Tell her some people like fatties. Just not you. If she objects tell her to go here:
After reading your post I too read an article. That’s some bad shit that only people who want others to encourage their bad habits read.
can we invade her website next?
[quote]zephead4747 wrote:
can we invade her website next?[/quote]
it is the only fair thing to do
if you see the comment;
my wife is into fitness and health and she looks great but she keeps encouraging me to join her and for me to lose 50 pounds, how do l convince her to be more like you kate
now to come up with a screen name…
hmm chubbyhubby
bahaha this lady is hilarious!
“…which we wouldn�??t be able to do anyway, because no one knows how to make a naturally thin person fat”
I do, eat a tonne of food. Someone should tell the lady that everyone knows that.
I love it how she uses some science to prove her point, then simply ignores it when it doesn’t suit her “diets don’t work” etc. Soo stupid, and all those retards worship her because its giving them an excuse to be fat and lazy. Man I hope you guy’s invade her website like you did with the quilters.
set it up for this weekend?
[quote]RSGZ wrote:
ArmitageShanks wrote:
Pro fat groups ! Lazy immoral bastards.
I read a story in the paper today about a 15 year old girl who weighs 33 stones (460lbs). She has been told to lose 20 stones or she will die and is off to a Fat camp in the states. I wonder at which point she thought “man I’m out of shape” I do wonder how it happens.
LOL, your screen names rocks.[/quote]
Thanks mate !
I wasn’t kidding when I said leave her.
How weak-minded do you have to be to justify an unhealthy lifestyle based on the opinion of a bitter old man-hating stranger over the internet?
[quote]zephead4747 wrote:
set it up for this weekend?[/quote]
I’m in.
[quote]Makavali wrote:
How weak-minded do you have to be to justify an unhealthy lifestyle based on the opinion of a bitter old man-hating stranger over the internet?[/quote]
How is that any different than going on in the Velocity diet? It could also be seen as unhealthy, and you’re trusting someone on the internet who’s not a doctor (AFAIK).
I’m not defending KH, she’s toxic and has to be stopped. But I’m trying to come up with an argument to shut her down. I also don’t see how spamming her comments will help much, but have fun.
I had a friend-only female friend who was like this. She was into “feminist” crap and considered it a feminist point of view to deem any expectation of fat loss to be demeaning to women and a true virtue to be pleased with whatever large weight and size one was at.
This psychology is not one that any person other than the one thinking it is going to have much luck changing.
The only suggestion I have is in the direction of limiting further damage.
This is actually a tremendously useful and I think important principle for everyone, men as well as women, and fat-prone kids as well as almost any adult.
Draw a line in the sand that will not be crossed on clothes size, particularly pants size.
Read that line as being in gigantic bold letters. If everything else about diet and exercise is lost from memory, keep that one.
When you see some huge-ass guy wearing size 50 pants, how did this happen?
It happened because there was a day when the largest size he ever wore was 48, but they were getting a little tight and he decided, I’m perfectly willing to wear size 50. And he went and bought some 50’s (or his spouse did and he chose to wear them.)
Now, he was still wearing 48’s the day they were bought. If they were a little tight, all it would have taken is a few DAYS of dieting to get them proper-fitting again. But no, he decided that wearing size 50 was the way to go.
The same is true for guys wearing size 36 (where they really are not big enough framed to wear that in lean condition), 11 year old boys wearing men’s size 34, etc.
The ONLY way they got this fat was because of a decision that, yup, let’s buy some yet-bigger pants.
Refuse to do that, and you won’t get fatter than that. It is a guaranteed method.
And for fat-prone people, buying the bigger clothes when in fact the current size can still (barely) be fit into is a guarantee of of growing yet fatter into the new clothes.
So for example if your wife is wearing a size 18, if she can get with the program that a size 20 should never be bought – size 18 is enough, 20 is too much – at least that will end the yet-further fat-ification.
It actually would go easier if you yourself had a little bit of an issue with fat and employed this method yourself and frequently mentioned how well it works.
Now of course, people will say that this makes perfect sense but then fail to follow through. For example, my ex-fiancee’s son is a fat kid who really would have found it simple enough to not be particularly fat. The first few years, she never really listened to me that, for example, a 9 year-old really should not be wearing a size 14 “Husky” (read: size 14 Fat) and for sure she should draw the line at the current 12 “Husky” for the next couple of years, etc. She sounded like she finally was seeing the light when he was wearing size 34 at age 11, but no… she went and bought him yet bigger pants so he was enabled to reach well over 200 lb prior to his 13th birthday.
So I’m not saying that even given the undoubted truth of this principle, people will necessarily follow through, but on the other hand back when I advised a lot of people on diet, many said this single simple thing was the best thing anyone ever told them. So it can help; actually not just help but absolutely guarantee not getting worse than a given point. (And that point can be tightened up with time if desired.) It just depends on whether the person has any self-willingness at all, or actually downright prefers being fat, or prefers, probably subconsciously, for their child to be fat (where relevant).
You could suggest trying it your way for a period of time. Just do a trial and error kind of thing, so she can see the difference between her way and your way.