Funny thing, I got into the “online dating scene” and jesus its crazy out there!
I’ve been dating/screwing women in the low 20’s age range and its fun! Drawbacks for sure but still fun.
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My ex “wife” I married twice. She just couldn’t stop from having an affair w a married man. She’s now married to him and she barely could muster a “sorry” to me. I feel ya.
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And re the dating scene: I’m 44 too. Your age.
I date early 20s-55. My current gal I’m just having something causal w is 55 and smoking hot. Never had kids. And she’s a freak in bed.
My experience is the older women are best. Usually horny as hell and just want it. The young gals are a pain most of the time.
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Same thing I am noticing. Also a lot of younger women, including early and mid 30s are these entitled clout chasers that shouldn’t even be considered for anything other than flings.
I am almost 36 divorced for a year now after a 10 year marriage.
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I can understand you marrying her again, there’s a good chance I would eventually wind up doing the same.
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She basically begged me back. So we reconciled over many months, then remarried.
If the reason you broke up was due to cheating, don’t go back. I didn’t want to feel regrets of not trying, but wish i hadn’t.
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Hope you’re doing ok man. I had a helleva time getting past it all. But honestly now, she never even crosses my mind. Haven’t seen or heard from her since 2016.
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Still getting there. Having some fun here and there, but realizing how crazy the market is is a let down. Not sure if it’s hormone problems we complain about here or what but I just realized even if I am not in a committed relationship I am not about that fast life the “spinning plates” constantly chasing new tail life.
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Ive gotten into this habit.
I’ll find a gal online (bumble or tinder) and usually date them a few months, then ax.
But i’m somewhat of a lone wolf to begin with.
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I found out a week or so after she left that instead of staying at her fathers house that night, she stayed over at a guys house. They were together overtly for a few months and then broke it off for a new guy.
So, they were together for over a year before she left, and looking back now I can clearly distinguish when it started between them. Time spent together, everything.
Together for over 23 years, she threw it away. Its been about 2 years and I’m only just beginning to stop the hurting.
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I completely know your pain, and honestly, i wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. Get into counseling if you haven’t.
Infidelity should be criminalized. It wrecks HAVOK on the person being cheated on. You blame yourself and you throw yourself under the bus. And then it destroys your self confidence and outlook on life. And it’s ALL you can seem to focus on for months, if not years. It’s ALWAYS in your head. Daily. Hourly. It SUCKS. You replay moments. Could i have acted differently? Could i have been more affectionate?
I’m sorry you married a complete asshole. Or, as my brother put it, “whale slime shit”. That’s what she is for doing that to you. Whale slime shit.
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Not really rambling man that was a good post
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Yes, I immediately got counciling and I am continuing to this day.
I lucked out too, my provider had just gone through a divorce himself with his 20+ year wife. Infidelity was involved too, emotional Infidelity but just as bad imho.
I could understand falling out of love, or falling into love with somebody new, and the relationship ending in a mature manner. But, she threw it all away for a relationship that only lasted three months after she left me. And then plowed two other guys within two months after that…
That statement is accurate as hell. If I did/didn’t do this, say, more affection, more dialog. No matter what she did, no matter why, at the end of the day its my fault. Damn man, you really do get it.
Regrets: I think about all the opportunities I declined or ignored, because I was honorable and respected the commitment. So many great people have passed through my life that had shown intrest and I had intrest in. I’ve been put into some insanely tempting situations throughout and declined.
To bring this back into Testosterone territory, the one thing that helped the most mentally was finally nailing my test routine. That marked a turning point in my “recovery” process.
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Hugs man. I DO get it. More than I wish I did.
At 44, i’ll never marry again. I don’t have kids, so lone wolf for me. I’ll date here and there, but never again. No purpose if i’m not having kids.
Just get into insane shape. You’ve got TRT to help. And NEVER let that lying “wife” back. The blueprint of what happens when you mix her with you is out there. It ends in cheating.
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Sounds like cortisol spikes from anxiety. Try some ashwaghnda or phosphydyl serine.
Injected melanotan 2 today when I went to tan…. Holy moly rock hard boner laying here watching TV after the tan session without even thinking of sex.
PT141 may be something to look into for some of us, it’s the part isolated from melanotan 2 that’s supposedly responsible for this.
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Thank you for sharing mate, I had been considering if this would make a difference. Think I need to try…
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Man I am sleep deprived after last night, feeling like poop because I may have eaten something nasty in the last few days, and this thing worked so well without even that being my intention. I just wanted to tan haha.
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This is a great sign. Shows maybe your issues are nervous system related? Is that how PT 141 works?
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This is what I am trying to figure out because I don’t want to give up just yet even though I am damn close to it. I will do more research and figure out why.
I been thinking this for sometime and have been trying to decrease the total volume of weight lifting and keep doing more cardio, not only running but mountain biking etc. lowering stims. Rest the CNS.
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